Abbused on the tube for my condition today

[Ahhwoofwoof]

Hi there, name change just in case this is a bit outing,

I feel so sad because I was targetted for the first time about my Lupus.

I was minding my own business waiting for a train today on the platform and a man came up to me and said 'jsus, what's wrong with your legs? its disgusting, jsus chr*st what's wrong with you?' really aggressively.

I didn't know what he was talking about and I looked at him confused. He continued, ' the blue, the blue marks, it's revolting, j*sus what's wrong with you? Gross' and he walked away,

He was talking about the bruises on my legs ( I was wearing shorts) which are so normal to me, I've never thought of them as something that would disgust other people so much. I'm so upset, I'm not sure if I should report him, I took a photo when I got off the train. I'm a slim size 8 and I'm happy generally with how I look. I can't believe this happened to me and I said nothing, I'm the first person to stand up for myself and others if I see something untoward :'(

Sorry for the moan, I'm just so shocked this happened.

What an absolute prick, you have every right to moan about him. Sorry that happened to you @Ahhwoofwoofhhwoofwoof

How long was the encounter?

You could text BTP but to be frank I don’t know if they’d investigate or not. Although he was very nasty & rude I’m not sure if a crime has been committed or not, particularly as he walked away and (for example) didn’t persist after you told him to leave you alone

I think he may be mentally ill because a sane person surely wouldn't do/ say that

I'm so sorry OP. I think the question is, what the hell is wrong with him?

I know it's hard, but I would try to move on and consider yourself unlucky to have encountered some kind of dysfunctional and inadequate person. I am sure that the bruises are not disgusting and the problems are his, both with perception and with attitude. Some people are just looking for someone to challenge. It really is him, not you.

I really hope this doesn't prey on your mind too much. Sometimes when comments have got to me I have looked back and thought, that was really not a fault with me, I wish I hadn't given it any headspace.

I am far from a slim size eight, and if I had been there I would probably have been thinking how great you looked.

I don't think this had anything to do with your Lupus. For all he knew you could have been bruised in an accident.

It does however have everything to do with a certain type of man who sees a confident attractive woman and cannot stand it so verbally attacks her.

Please don't give anymore headspace to the worm.

Just an idiot I’m afraid. The world has its fair share. Why would anyone have a go at someone for bruising? They could have had an accident or been beaten up. Or if they are like me, just be pale and a complete klutz and always covered in mystery bruises.

Thanks for the kind responses, he looked like a regular east london hipster type - apart from one thing, he was riding one of those electric unicycle wheel things which struck me as a bit odd (apologies to any keen electric unicyclers here...). He left because the train arrived and he got on at the same doorway as me (we were both at the very end of the platform), rather irritatingly I'd waited to get on at the correct doors for the exit of my stop but as it was overground I just walked back down the train away from him and had a little cry. Honestly, I'm normally pretty tough and would tell someone like that where to go but I was just so shocked.

I'll put it down to bad luck.

I forgot to mention, not that it makes any difference but he waited by the barrier at the exit station and went through at the same time as me and said eeeuuuurrrrrghhhhh right in my ear when he unicycled on by... so weird.

@user24 A person with mental illness is far more likely to be on the receiving end of abuse than the one perpetrating it. Please don't confuse mental illness with being an abusive prick. It makes you look as ignorant as the person that abused Ahhwoofwoof.

In retrospect, I'm pretty sure he was just a dick on a unicycle.

What a fucking bellend. Hope you’re okay.

he was riding one of those electric unicycle wheel things
Ahhh well that explains that then. Gold plated wanker.

I'm really sorry you had to go through that, and especially the bit about waiting for you at the barrier. I think I would be tempted to report it to BTP as that feels particularly threatening. There must be footage of it as well.

I guarantee he wouldn't have said that to a guy in shorts. Fuckwit.

Absolute creep. Do report, he may do this frequently.

I'm sorry that happened to you. He sounds like an absolute dickhead. I always think in my head what I'd like to say in that kind of situation, but in reality if I ever do get comments on my disability I just freeze up, it's horrible

BTP will take it seriously, I've reported someone for similar

It’s nothing to do with your lupus he’s just a massive knob , id also report it to BTP just in case he’s a serial abuser , which is likely .

He obviously has bruises on his brain. Affecting his empathy.

I want you to understand that no one in their right mind and no one who is ever worth your time would say or even think something like that.

Wear shorts every day and be proud of your amazing body.

Poor you, I've had similar before (eczema) from random men on public transport who seem to think they have a right to tell you what they think of your appearance - they're socially inept saddos.

Definitely report, they will take it seriously especially as he waited at the barrier to harass (and I'd use that word as well because that's exactly what he did) you some more!

Fucking arsehole, I hope he falls off his unicycle right on his misogynistic face.

I’d report that. He’ll be easy to spot on CCTV with his wanker-cycle. If it’s part of a pattern of harassing people they need all the evidence so that he can be stopped.

For those invested in this thread and just to make this that extra bit more 'Mumsnet' these are the shorts which are brilliant, and long enough I thought not to attract comments from weirdos

(no I don't work for Hush, this isn't some elaborate PR play, I actually think a lot of their products are crap, but 5 stars for the jeans and shorts)

www.hush-uk.com/denim-shorts-denim/SHO51-444-16.html?gclid=CjwKCAjwkJj6BRA-EiwA0ZVPVqpI0h1U2UU_AOrbB91VUe2-7HHvICl_Dq1X7a7_nQaIebG1aaeDRxoCMvoQAvD_BwE&gclsrc=aw.ds#fo_c=1586&fo_k=27cf2136798598375aa0a43f802a31d4&fo_s=gplauk

Sorry that happened. He is a twat of the highest order. I would've had replied with "Jesus Christ, what's wrong with you?! I'll ring the personality hospital for you, you are clearly in desperate need of a transplant,".

Thinking about it and after your updates, I agree I would report. He does sound threatening and as a pp said, he may make a habit of getting kicks this way harassing innocent travellers. He probably does this often unfortunately.

What an utter disgrace he is. I cannot Imagine being in the life of someone like that, trying to actually have a relationship with a person like that even as a colleague or semi distant relative

Sorry you had to deal with that tosser.
If you do report it, at least someone on a unicycle would be easy to identify!