@TJ17 so sorry you are going through this! I was in your shoes last year and I know the uncertainties eat at you as a pregnant woman. It’s hard to be excited when you know your baby has a rough start to life at the end of this. I just reminded myself during this time that.. I’m still having a baby and that itself was something worth being excited about and that regardless of anything, I’d love this baby with everything I had.
Like you, a heart abnormally was found at the 20 week scan which really was a blessing in disguise. It’s best for the baby’s sake to know now (rather than at birth!) and of course you’ll be able to somewhat prepare yourself for what’s to come.
Our little boy (Kylo) was born via planned c-section on the 4th December 2019 - he had prediagnosed Coarctation of the aorta and a hypoplastic aortic arch. There was also a small ASD and VSD. The VSD closed itself during my last few months of pregnancy.
When he was born, I got to give him a quick kiss before they whisked him off to the nursery for further assessment. My partner and I had planned for him to go with Kylo so he was always with him. It was important for me to recover at this point so I could be in my best health for Kylo.
Kylo was at the womans hospital for 5 hours before being transferred to the children’s hospital (pretty much down the street!) his dad went with him. Unfortunately I didn’t get to see him before he went but I was getting updates and pictures thankfully from my partner :)
The next day I got to go see Kylo in the NICU for 5-6hrs which was great - there were a lot of wires and cords, monitors etc. we had already had a tour of the NICU while I was pregnant so I kinda knew what to expect already.. he was beautiful regardless of everything being attached to him.
I finally got transferred to the children’s hospital on day 3 and was walkable distance from Kylo.
On day 6 he got his surgery. Nothing can prepare you for the moment you watch your little baby being wheeled in for surgery. That is and will always be the hardest thing I’ve ever faced. Thankfully we got updates during the surgery and it was a success! Kylo was in PICU for 8.5 days after surgery. Recovery is a rocky road. We learnt to celebrate lightly as day 2&3 appeared things were going really well just for things to go a bit backwards on day 4 & 5.
Kylo was discharged on Christmas morning and got to meet his big sister that day!
Fast forward to now - he is sound asleep next to me and you wouldn’t even know what he’s been through just by looking at him. He is almost 5 months old and thriving!!
Best of luck with everything! Please feel free to ask anything and also join some heart groups on FB - I found this to be incredibly helpful during my pregnancy :)