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Not good news .... petrified

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Donnat89 · 15/03/2019 13:22

Hi all ,

I don't even know where to start .

I am 30 years old and pregnant with my 3rd child , I have to healthy children and had normal pregnancies with both

I went into the hospital for my scan at 11+3 and the news wasn't good it was found that my babies NT is 8mm and there is signs of skin oedema .

Baby is growing and right size for dates and was very active ... this made things worse as I could see this little baby who they tell
Me is so sick kicking about

They have told me my baby has a 65% chance of a chromosome abnormality... so we have opted for the CVS

They were not able to do the CVS this week as I have an inverted uterus and the baby is laying in front of the placenta .

I have to go back next week when I will be 12+3 to see if they can do it

I am so upset and scared and the uncertainty is killing me

I'm scared they still won't be able to do the test next week and that means more waiting

I'm trying to be positive but I feel like I'm going mad with worry and have spent hours
On the internet .

I do not really know what I am after , I would like to hear from people with both good and bad stories and from anyone that's been through this

I just don't know how to feel or what to do right now and it's killing me

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Beyondhope · 16/03/2019 10:58

Hi Donna. I couldn’t leave your post unanswered. We had bad news at our 13 week scan just before Christmas 2017. My sons nuchal fold measured 5.7mm and we were told to come back 2 days later for a CVS.

Unfortunately for us it wasn’t good news and we lost him just after 20 weeks. I understand the wait and just how terrible it really is.

Are you in a position to look at a NIPT? They will test for the 3 main chromosome abnormalities and where I am you can get in fairly quickly and have the results within the week.

I really hope you have good news. This limbo time is so hard.

Donnat89 · 16/03/2019 20:19

@Beyondhope thank you for your reply it means a lot

We did think about it but due to the fact I'm due in next week and if the test can be done we would end up getting the results at the same time .

I'm so sorry yours was not good news , we are desperately hoping for the best right now but you are right it's this limbo it is torture

Xxx

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Georgia1512 · 17/03/2019 13:32

Hi Donna, I completely understand what you’re going through, I found out at 11+6 days that I have a 63% chance of a chromosome abnormality. Although now i have been told I am higher risk for Edwards and pataus syndrome. I am booked in for an amnio on the 25th and the waiting is killing me. You’ll hear both good and bad stories it’s so much easier said than done but try and remain positive until you have your answer. I hope you get good news and all the best.

Donnat89 · 17/03/2019 14:04

@Georgia1512 awww big hugs hun .

It's terrible isn't it the waiting .

I'm hoping to have the CVS on Wednesday but if not like you il have to wait for an amino.

This limbo is horrible and there is such a mixed bag of stories .

It's so hard to prepare for the worst yet still hope for the best .

I really hope you get some good news xxxxx

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PhannyMcNee · 17/03/2019 14:09

We had similar with dc4, had the CVS which came back clear for chromosomal abnormalities however 20 week cardiac scan revealed heart defects.

Dc4 is now almost 10 and so far has not required any intervention but will likely need a valve replacement at some point.

Donnat89 · 17/03/2019 18:54

I'm hoping we can have a similar story .

All we have right now is hope but the waiting is killing us.

It's are knowing how to feel like you feel sad but you also want to be hopeful

Just feel so stuck . I'm usually a very optimistic person but it's so hard

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Otto8 · 17/03/2019 19:57

I was in a similar position last summer. Our NT measured 6mm at the 12 week scan, we had a CVS the following day and the harmony test. Our CVS result came back sooner and diagnosed Edwards. It really was hell but you just have to try and take each day at a time. The waiting is torture so I really hope you get some answers soon x

Donnat89 · 18/03/2019 15:24

@Otto8 I'm so sorry for your loss and can only imagine how horrible it was to get that news

Whilst I'm prepared to hear the worst it's this writing that is torture and I just want to know either way so I can begin to deal with it and start to heal if it's the worst case scenario right now it's just a horrible limbo xxx

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Aduro1 · 18/03/2019 17:40

Hi Donna,

Just wanted to message you as I am in a similar situation and I know what you are going through.

I am 37 with two healthy children and never had any concerns with them. We went for scan last Tuesday and was 11 weeks. We were going to get the NIPT bloods anyway but scan showed nt of 3.5mm so they cancelled the bloods and advised me to have cvs test. I was absolutely devastated and have been thinking the worst possible things, my heart was broken at the thought of something being wrong with my baby.

I went along on Tuesday to reluctantly have the cvs but my placenta still needs to grow and wasn’t in the right place. Baby looked good on the scan up to now, but it’s going to be a long journey to be sure for certain. Supposed to be going back a week tomorrow to try again and dreading it as I’m so scared of the miscarriage risk. Trying my hardest to stay positive as consultant said sometimes this happens for no apparent reason and baby will be fine, said I have 75-80% even higher of baby being ok.

All this not knowing is torture and I don’t know how I’m going to get through it but I’m so glad I’ve found this thread and know there are people to talk too.

I know it’s hard but try to stay strong and positive and think only good thoughts ❤️.

Donnat89 · 18/03/2019 18:22

@Aduro1 awww Hun I'm so sorry you are going through this too

I know exactly how you feel it's awful and that not knowing is torture

I'm due back on Wednesday so they can try do my CVS although I'm scared and know it's carries risk I need to know what's happening and get some answers

I really hope you get some good news , for me il feel slightly better when the test is done as I won't feel so stuck .

I will be keeping this thread updated and we can all support each other through such difficult times

Xxxxx

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Aduro1 · 18/03/2019 19:19

@Donnat89

Its horrendous isn't it ...not much we can do but wait and support each other. I'll probably get the test done anyway as I think I'll end up going insane if I don't know anything.

I hope all goes well on Wednesday and make sure you rest up, let us know how you get on. I'll be thinking of you.

Xxx

Donnat89 · 19/03/2019 09:46

It really is !

One more day to go for me I'm getting more and more anxious but keeping busy with work and stuff

So hoping I haven't got more of this limbo il feel so much better tomorrow if the test is able to be done .... just will be keeping everything crossed it's ok .

I really hope you get some good news too xxxx

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Aduro1 · 20/03/2019 08:17

@Donnat89

Just to say good luck for today Donna, I'll be thinking of you .

Xxxx

Donnat89 · 20/03/2019 17:47

Hello ,

Just an update went back today and they still couldn't do the test .

So back again next week fluid has increased around the baby

But baby is still growing and has a good heartbeat

So for me the waiting games continues

I feel slightly better as they seemed a little more positive with me but another week of torment it is

Xxx

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TheLovleyChebbyMcGee · 20/03/2019 17:54

I'm so sorry Donna, it must be very difficult and I hope you get answers soon, Jxx

Aduro1 · 21/03/2019 10:04

@Donnat89

Ahhh so sorry to hear that Donna, it is so hard when you build yourself up for something and then it doesn't happen. Glad you got some positive news from the consultant though.

I'm dreading next Tuesday in case that happens to me again but also thinking if it does I'm not meant to have it done.

Hope your ok xxx

SylvanianFrenemies · 21/03/2019 18:29

So sorry you are going through this, and hope you get your CVS soon.

When we had a worrying scan and subsequent tests I found the ARC-UK helpline absolutely fantastic. Unfortunately things didn't end well for us, but I wish you all the best.

You could consider NIPT if CVS doesn't work out. It's screening, rather than diagnostic, but it is fairly reliable for detecting the most common chromosomal abnormalities.

Donnat89 · 22/03/2019 08:08

Hi all thank you so much for all your kind messages

Yea this wait is horrible but there is not much anyone can do , the consultant I saw was very good and showed me why she couldn't do it and even considered going through my bladder but again it was impossible.

She did give me the choice to wait 2 weeks then come back but I told her a week seems like a lifetime at the moment so would rather go back in a weeks time just to check so she was kind enough to squeeze
Me in .

I am not expecting a miracle but at least if I know what the problem is I can then decide what I need to do .

It's just a waiting game for now

Xxxxxx

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Donnat89 · 22/03/2019 08:09

We did consider the NIPT test but as I do have a genetic heart disorder it wouldn't be very helpful for me and would rather have a definitive yes or no rather than percentages

As much as I hate this wait I feel that's what I need to do right now

Xxx

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Donnat89 · 27/03/2019 11:06

Hi all not a happy outcome for us

Went this morning to go have a scan and to see if they can do the CVS test and unfortunately our babies heart had stopped beating

I now have to take tablets in order to help my baby come out and they will do tests to see what the problem was

I wish you all the very best and hope you get good news

I will update as and when I can

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redwoodmazza · 27/03/2019 11:11

So sorry to hear this sad news.

CharlesChickens · 27/03/2019 11:17

Donna I am so terribly sorry to read this. Thinking of you here.

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Beyondhope · 27/03/2019 12:02

Donna I am so sorry to read this. Thinking of you.

StrongTea · 27/03/2019 12:06

Really sorry.

SylvanianFrenemies · 27/03/2019 13:01

I'm so sorry Donnat. I will be thinking of you.

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