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Antenatal tests

Not good news .... petrified

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Donnat89 · 15/03/2019 13:22

Hi all ,

I don't even know where to start .

I am 30 years old and pregnant with my 3rd child , I have to healthy children and had normal pregnancies with both

I went into the hospital for my scan at 11+3 and the news wasn't good it was found that my babies NT is 8mm and there is signs of skin oedema .

Baby is growing and right size for dates and was very active ... this made things worse as I could see this little baby who they tell
Me is so sick kicking about

They have told me my baby has a 65% chance of a chromosome abnormality... so we have opted for the CVS

They were not able to do the CVS this week as I have an inverted uterus and the baby is laying in front of the placenta .

I have to go back next week when I will be 12+3 to see if they can do it

I am so upset and scared and the uncertainty is killing me

I'm scared they still won't be able to do the test next week and that means more waiting

I'm trying to be positive but I feel like I'm going mad with worry and have spent hours
On the internet .

I do not really know what I am after , I would like to hear from people with both good and bad stories and from anyone that's been through this

I just don't know how to feel or what to do right now and it's killing me

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2018SoFarSoGreat · 06/06/2019 06:15

Thanks for the update Donna. You've been in my mind.

This is good news. I'm glad for you both and wish you all the best in future.

Aduro1 · 05/06/2019 15:35

Hi @Donnat89,

Iv been thinking about you and how you've been getting on. Glad you got some reassurance from your results and know it won't happen again.

I hope all goes well for you in the future .

Andrea xxx

BarbarianMum · 04/06/2019 03:25

Thank you for updating.

Donnat89 · 29/05/2019 11:20

Hello all ,

Just an update really .

So after what has felt like a life time we went for or test results today to see if baby had any chromosomal problems .

Well we where in for a shock turns out we where not in the 70% percent and our baby had no chromosomal problems at all .

This means we where in the 30% and that our little girl (sex confirmed by tests) most likely had a heart problem that was not compatible with life .

So in a way good news as we now know that neither of us carry anything that caused it , but in another way no great as still no definitive answers

The consultant just said we where very unlucky but we are unlikely to have this happen again z

We now have a plan in place for future pregnancy and I have be prescribed high dosage of folic acid that will hopefully help !

So fingers crossed we are blessed again ! But we are feeling more positive and can now try again without so much worry !

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flapjackfairy · 30/03/2019 13:36

Oh hon so v sorry. Love to you all xxx

Isadora2007 · 30/03/2019 13:29

So sorry for your loss. RIP little one. You were truly loved. 💕

Aduro1 · 30/03/2019 13:19

So sorry for your loss Donna, my heart goes out to you.

Sending you you lots of love, you are in my thoughts xxx

movehimintothesun · 30/03/2019 12:18

So sorry for your loss. You will always carry them in your heart

Donnat89 · 30/03/2019 12:10

Our little angel came into the world at 1955 last night ....

Born sleeping . We will not know any results from the test until 6-10 weeks so our wait still isn't over

Not good news .... petrified

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verybookish · 27/03/2019 20:58

I am so sorry for your loss

2018SoFarSoGreat · 27/03/2019 20:42

so very sorry to hear your sad update, Donna

Sending you strength and some

Aduro1 · 27/03/2019 20:36

@Donnat89

Oh Donna I am so sorry to hear this. Life is so cruel.

Sending you lots of love xxxx

SylvanianFrenemies · 27/03/2019 13:01

I'm so sorry Donnat. I will be thinking of you.

StrongTea · 27/03/2019 12:06

Really sorry.

Beyondhope · 27/03/2019 12:02

Donna I am so sorry to read this. Thinking of you.

CharlesChickens · 27/03/2019 11:17

Donna I am so terribly sorry to read this. Thinking of you here.

redwoodmazza · 27/03/2019 11:11

So sorry to hear this sad news.

Donnat89 · 27/03/2019 11:06

Hi all not a happy outcome for us

Went this morning to go have a scan and to see if they can do the CVS test and unfortunately our babies heart had stopped beating

I now have to take tablets in order to help my baby come out and they will do tests to see what the problem was

I wish you all the very best and hope you get good news

I will update as and when I can

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Donnat89 · 22/03/2019 08:09

We did consider the NIPT test but as I do have a genetic heart disorder it wouldn't be very helpful for me and would rather have a definitive yes or no rather than percentages

As much as I hate this wait I feel that's what I need to do right now

Xxx

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Donnat89 · 22/03/2019 08:08

Hi all thank you so much for all your kind messages

Yea this wait is horrible but there is not much anyone can do , the consultant I saw was very good and showed me why she couldn't do it and even considered going through my bladder but again it was impossible.

She did give me the choice to wait 2 weeks then come back but I told her a week seems like a lifetime at the moment so would rather go back in a weeks time just to check so she was kind enough to squeeze
Me in .

I am not expecting a miracle but at least if I know what the problem is I can then decide what I need to do .

It's just a waiting game for now

Xxxxxx

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SylvanianFrenemies · 21/03/2019 18:29

So sorry you are going through this, and hope you get your CVS soon.

When we had a worrying scan and subsequent tests I found the ARC-UK helpline absolutely fantastic. Unfortunately things didn't end well for us, but I wish you all the best.

You could consider NIPT if CVS doesn't work out. It's screening, rather than diagnostic, but it is fairly reliable for detecting the most common chromosomal abnormalities.

Aduro1 · 21/03/2019 10:04

@Donnat89

Ahhh so sorry to hear that Donna, it is so hard when you build yourself up for something and then it doesn't happen. Glad you got some positive news from the consultant though.

I'm dreading next Tuesday in case that happens to me again but also thinking if it does I'm not meant to have it done.

Hope your ok xxx

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TheLovleyChebbyMcGee · 20/03/2019 17:54

I'm so sorry Donna, it must be very difficult and I hope you get answers soon, Jxx

Donnat89 · 20/03/2019 17:47

Hello ,

Just an update went back today and they still couldn't do the test .

So back again next week fluid has increased around the baby

But baby is still growing and has a good heartbeat

So for me the waiting games continues

I feel slightly better as they seemed a little more positive with me but another week of torment it is

Xxx

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Aduro1 · 20/03/2019 08:17

@Donnat89

Just to say good luck for today Donna, I'll be thinking of you .

Xxxx

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