So sorry that you have been through such a turbulent few days. The waiting is agony.
Don't be pressured to make a decision before you are absolutely sure. There is time.
It is a very individual situation and everyone in your position has to have time.
Neither decision is easy. And you will get lots of advice depending on each persons own life experience, which only makes it harder for you.
There are many many things that your baby could have been diagnosed with far worse than Downs, but I understand that nobody would choose to have a child with any additional needs (apart from those wonderful adoptive parents).
Here's my bit!!! My DS1 has Downs (shock birth diagnosis), I really struggled to come to terms with the news.
He is 15 now and we have three more DC. He is wonderful and an integral part of our family.
The others adore him.
He has gone all through mainstream school, swims 3x (1.5hr) a week with squads (I wish I could front crawl and tumble turn like him), canoed down the L'Ardeche with school for 8 days this summer.
He is academically behind his peers/siblings, I never thought I'd say this, but I honestly don't give a hoot.
What he brings to our lives far far out weighs the any disabilities he has. He has us roaring with laughter on a daily basis.
Most families in our situation, or with children with other disabilities you would find would never swop. It seems to have a life altering perspective change.
However, there are many reasons to consider when faced with the news today. And I would never judge anyone that decides that they couldn't continue with the pregnancy. A very difficult decision.
If you want to PM me I'm happy to answer any questions, the Downs Syndrome Association have tonnes of information on their website.
Sorry for the long message, but basically don't be pressured to make a definitive decision by the medics before you a ready. Take care xxx