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Just got NIPT results, bad news. I'm devastated

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Ariel03 · 31/10/2016 10:44

Hi,
I have just got the call regarding my NIPT results. The baby has a 98% chance of having Down's.
This pregnancy was completely unplanned and a total shock, I'm 43 years old and split with my DP before I knew I was pregnant.
Even so, I am absolutely devastated and I can't stop crying.
Please don't judge me, but I already have 2 DCs with special needs and I don't think I could cope with a third, especially since I'm on my own.
I feel so guilty that I'm even considering ending this pregnancy . It's not something I believe in. I just don't think I can cope with another SEN child.
I have my dating scan tomorrow, which I know I'm just going to cry through the whole thing.
I've got a CVS booked for Wednesday and should get results by Friday.

I just need some hand holding and support please. I feel so alone.

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passportmess · 06/11/2016 23:36

Flowers thinking of you Ariel. I hope you get some rest tonight.

Stilllivinginazoo · 07/11/2016 12:44

Bless you Arielbe thinking of you today.xx

HopperBusTicket · 07/11/2016 12:48

Just read this. I'm so sorry. I hope the miscarriage is over as soon as possible now and you can start to recover. Thinking of you.

Ilovewillow · 07/11/2016 13:05

No judgement here, so sorry for your news you must be in bits! You have to do what's right for you, your situation and your other children - it's such a tough choice. My parents terminated a pregnancy because of downs before they had me some 45 yrs ago. They remember the feeling and emotions still but they still feel it was the right decision.

Ilovewillow · 07/11/2016 13:07

So sorry just read the rest of the thread, please ignore my post and I'm so sorry for your loss!

P1nkP0ppy · 07/11/2016 13:07

Very much thinking of you Aerial ((hugs)) 💐

heartonsleeve22 · 07/11/2016 13:13

Thinking of you ariel xx

Coi123 · 07/11/2016 19:03

Hope you are ok Ariel. I had a tmfr for DS amd heart problems a week today. I got milk a day later and it was awful-a constant reminder of what I have lost. Thinking of you Flowers

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Ariel03 · 07/11/2016 19:40

It's just awful isn't it coi123? I really didn't expect it, as I'm only 13 weeks.
I'm still in hospital, on my last day of medical management. I just pray it works tonight.
Thinking of you too Flowers xx

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Coi123 · 08/11/2016 08:03

It wa such a shock, I was 16 weeks and I was devestated as nobody told me that could happen. Hope everything happens quickly for you, it's not great having to be in hospital so long (I was two nights) as all you want to do is get back home. Make sure you ask for pain relief if you need it, that helped me though it. Thoughts are with you xxx

Frazzled2207 · 08/11/2016 08:11

So sorry you're going through this. Flowers

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Ariel03 · 08/11/2016 12:16

So after 4 days of medical management, it has still not worked. I'm going home for a few days rest and then return for surgery if it doesn't happen at home.
They said they could operate today, but I'm such an emotional mess I just don't think I can cope. I really don't want surgery.
Just need to go home and cuddle my children xx

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Coi123 · 08/11/2016 16:26

Oh Ariel, you poor thing. I hope things get going for you rather than the surgery x

mikeyssister · 08/11/2016 17:44

So sorry to hear all your news Ariel. I hope things are sorted very soon.

Stilllivinginazoo · 08/11/2016 18:33

Ariel,there are not words to say how sorry I am.I think you are def do right thing go home fir cuddles with your little ones.
I hope things start for you at home.xx

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Ariel03 · 12/11/2016 12:28

I finally got home last night, after having an ERPC. It was the last thing I wanted, but didn't really have any other options. Thankfully the consultant who did my op was someone I know well, who I've worked with for many years. That helped a lot.
Feeling very empty and sad today, but I'm also glad it's all over.
I named my baby Amelia Rose Flowers
Thanks to everyone for your support.
Ariel x

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Coi123 · 12/11/2016 13:42

Amelia Rose Flowers what a beautiful name. I hope you are doing ok Ariel, the days following are tough but there will be some brighter days. Be kind to yourself xxx

Penguina · 13/11/2016 00:01

What a lovely name.

Thoughts are with you ariel.

Coi is right, there will be brighter times ahead and time is the best healer.

God bless x

Stilllivinginazoo · 13/11/2016 22:38

That's a beautiful name
If you need a place to talk of her we ate here
Take care
Big hugs
Xx

Stilllivinginazoo · 13/11/2016 22:39

Stupid phone. Are hereBlush

Jolana123 · 24/11/2016 00:13

Hi I'm so sorry to hear such a devastated news Hun,, I was in similar situation Monday when I started bleeding followed very bad pain in my lower back and tummy cramps,,unfortunately I miscarried too , I was 10 weeks pregnant and only found out two weeks ago,went for scan yesterday and the baby is gone,did pregnancy test and its negative now they did blood test in hospital which shown hcg hormone still in my body but they have already dramatically dropped,,my and my fiancé are absolutely devastated as I've got pocs and it is a struggle to conceive,,this morning it hit my like a ton of bricks Sadeverything happens for reason and this baby not meant to be,,chin up things will get easier in sometime. Sending hugs xxxx

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