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[Mama1980]

I don't know what to do or think. I found out I am pregnant yesterday I had ds now 4 following a car crash very prem at 26 weeks. We are both ok now but I have lingering back and leg issues and recently had my
Hips re pinned. This pregnancy is a complete shock I saw my gp today who confirmed I am about 6 weeks along. I also spoke with my consultant and he is extremely concerned that having a baby will do severe damage to my spine and legs it could even be dangerous with the operation pins and tissue still so raw as the baby grows. He says I need to think seriously about what I want to do from here, words like bleeding and paralysis were mentioned. I feel sick I was happy last night shocked but happy but now..... I don't even know what I'm asking I just need to write this down. Dp wants the baby but not at the expense of me and our life together. I can't discuss this in rl yet I haven't told anyone.

You poor thing. You must feel so alone.
I don't know what to say

One day at a time I suppose but even that sounds so trite.
I hope today is better and wishing everything that things get easier x

How are you?
Been thinking about you

thanks. I am still bleeding and lying still. I had another scan two days ago and no sign of miscarriage which is great. I just feel so helpless dd is struggling though and dp pretty much at a loss they are here as often as they can be but it's tough. 12 weeks next week which should fingers crossed mean a cervical stitch and some physio help. Thanks for checking in it really helps x

Poor old you :(
You must be missing them terribly.

I hope so much that you will be able to look back on this difficult time one day and smile, because it was all worth it.

Everything crossed for you x

Thanks I hope so too. My dd was very upset again tonight I am going to have to talk to the drs tomorrow, I can't bear to see her like that. She has had counselling and all sorts and is doing so well, she needs me though she gets very anxious when I'm not there. Dp seems shocked by the reality of my children maybe I'm expecting too much of him I don't know I just want him to be with me on this not against me. Sorry it sounds like I'm complaining and I'm not I know how lucky I am I really do, I just miss my babies.

dont apologise!
Blimey love, you have every right to be worried and upset.

But you are in this difficult situation and all the guilt and worry in the world is not going to change it or make it better.

You have to get through this as best you can and so do your dcs and OH.
I know your instinct is to make it all better for them all but you cant, you have to take care of yourself.
And you have not done anything wrong.
You didnt cause all this.

It happened to you. It happened to all of you.

I hope I am not seeming rude or insensitive. I am just trying to say that you deserve care and support. So do your family of course :)

I just hope it all gets better soon and you can be at home with your family.

Sorry, my words seem a bit rubbish. x

Thanks again (and again ) I have said my dd can stay off school today and is coming here soon so we can have a talk and some time together. Have authorised this with the school, she was very upset there yesterday. Am feeling more positive I have another scan later as well. I know I have to relax but it's hard I am so close to 12 weeks but then it will be a long wait to 20 weeks and a anomaly scan to see how the baby is after all the medications etc. Have decided to maybe throw something at the dr today though if he is grim today

How did your time with DD and your scan go?

Is it this week you get to 12 weeks?

Hope you are ok and haven't had to throw any bedpans at Dr Grim :)

Hello Mama how are you?
I hope things are going ok for you and you are home x

Hi i am 12 weeks now but still in hospital am hoping to have a cervical stitch put in today or tomorrow and then look to go home. I'm still bleeding and it's been a awful few days but a scan yesterday showed the baby looking great he/she was somersaulting and everything. Dd is doing better I think - my partner though has decided he cannot cope so my brother is taking over child care duties which has helped everyone calm down a bit. Just desperate to go home but at the same time don't want to do anything that might weaken babes chances-having to trust the dr s to judge that which is very frustrating. Thanks so much for checking in it means a lot