Depression

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Hi mummys
Dont really know were to start with this or what im expecting from this.
Im so scared at the moment im currently 27 weeks pregnant with my 4th child with my first i got really bad postnatal depression. With my second i got antinatal depression. With my 3rd i was fine. But this pregnancy im certain that i have depression again. Im so emotional and upset i cant enjoy it at all. Its so difficult atm. I understand all this with whatz going on wont be helping but my whole pregnancys like it im having so many down days but scared to go to doctors as dont want to go back on to tablets. I feel like a failure atm my eldest has lived with his dad since he was one now 9 and my second went to live with other family members from 3mths to 8mnths hes now 6. There my children but constantly feel they deserve better 😭😭
Sorry for this thankyoy for reading please no judging or harsh comments xx

Hello OP,

So sorry to hear you've had to put up with such an awful time of it. It's so unfair when this special time is marred by such a horrible illness.

We just wanted to bump your post in hopes someone will be along with their own experiences soon.

In the meantime have a look at our page on postnatal depression, which might have some pearls of wisdom and we also have a mental health webguide which has lots of useful numbers on.

If you don't have someone along soon to chat to, please do hit the report button on your post and we can move this thread over to our mental health boards where there are lots of mums who've been through this and will hopefully have advice to share.

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I’m sorry you’re having a bad time of it OP.

I have been diagnosed with postnatal depression, but I know I have had depression in spells since I was 16. This is the first time it’s been addressed (despite a suicide attempt at 21 years old resulting in an A&E visit)
I have been put on fluoxetine and am getting it increased because it worked great for a few weeks but I feel like it’s slowly not as effective.
I am going to be referred to a psychologist and for counselling once COVID restrictions lift and I finally feel a bit free already.

Ask to speak to your doctor and specifically mention it’s mental health related. My surgery has a mental health nurse who they pass appointments onto and she then puts you on to who (and what medicine) could help.

You can get on top of this! I hope you can get some help before your new baby arrives And you can feel better and enjoy him/her properly. You have a lot on your plate, so cut yourself some slack too. Xx

Thabkyou beaut,
Bless you i really hope you get everything sorted and all the help you can.
Yes i myself have suffered with anxiety and depression since i was a very young child (27) now i have had counselling and therapy but none seemed to have worked. I have also been on tablets but never seemed to work either just stayed thr same no matter how long i was on them for.
I have seen a midwife at the hospital and she has reffered me to a place called lets talk to see if that helps fingers crossed.
I really hope so hun it started before all this covid thing but obviouslt hasn't helped. I feel more for my children and unborn child as i can end up having outbursts which isnt fair on them at all.
Thankoyu for all your advise
We can do this
Ps sory for the long reply haha xx

Don’t apologise!
I felt similar to you. I’ve always known my “low moods” were secretly more extreme and probably depression but I was never diagnosed.
When I came back from the doctors earlier this year with another depressants and postnatal depression diagnosis, I looked at my two daughters and cried. I felt the exact same as you say you did “they deserve better than me” I put my feelings on another forum and someone said..

“No. You’re kids deserve you, you're their mum, who cares so much about them, that even your mood is something you want to protect them from. Imagine how loved they must feel”

And it’s so true. It took me two weeks to actually start taking the medication I was prescribed. I’m lucky that it is working for me and I hope it keeps doing so.

Sounds like you’ve tried a lot of things. I really hope that “let’s talk” helps you. You deserve to feel happy and calm and you sound like an amazing mama xx

Aww hunni
Thankyou so much im nearly in tears such sweet words.
Oh yes thats definitely how i feel sometimes and that was amazing advice.
Aww thats great hun fingers crossed for you.
Yes fingers crossed hun and thankyou so much xx 😘😘

Hi everyone my baby was born two weeks ago during my pregnancy I was on Sitella pram 30 mil when my baby was born he was born with gitters that has now settled but he has rapid respiration he breaths faster than he should all vital checks have been done and everything is in normal range therefore the consultants are quite confused Because all his tests and scans have come back normal so there thinking it could be withdrawal symptoms from the Citalopram. Has anybody experienced the same thing with a newborn?? Really worried

Sorry Citalopram spell check 🙄