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To think my friend has done this on purpose?? **Thread contains rugby score spoilers**

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FireofLife · 18/03/2023 17:29

I've always been a big rugby fan and obviously six nations on at the moment - loving it.

My friend knows I've been watching all the games - particularly Scotland where I hail from Grin and even though she doesn't watch herself, she will message to say "omg 22-7 (or whatever) they're doing so well!" through a game. Obviously googling the score and texting to be supportive.

So Scotland v Italy today. We were texting this morning and she sends me a YouTube video and asks "have you ever heard this song before?" I say "sorry I'm out just now, I'll listen to it when I get home". She goes "oh, are you not watching the match today?" This was at 12.15. Game started at 12.30. I said "no, got a lot on today so I'll catch it later
Don't go messaging me the live scores today! Grin" She says "OK, I'll just tell you if they're winning or not". I said "no, please don't tell me anything about the game!!" She says "OK Grin, enjoy your day out".

And that was that, no further messages until about 10 minutes ago where she messaged "Scotland won!" Hmm I said "I asked you to please not tell me anything about the match!!!!" She said "oh I thought you asked me what the score was". Then she immediately deleted the "Scotland won" message. Wtf? I said "no, I asked you not to tell me anything!! I've been deliberately staying off social media all day so I wouldn't find out the result!!!!" and she just sent back "OK".

That was it. Just "OK". I know there are bigger things to be concerned about but isn't this the most deliberate gas-lighty nonsense you've ever seen Angry

Thread edited by MNHQ to add a spoiler alert

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FireofLife · 20/03/2023 09:27

Ktime · 19/03/2023 20:39

I would not have the patience for her.

My patience is running thin!

She messaged me again this morning so I replied. So it went "good morning, how are you? I'm ok thanks, you? Yeah I'm good. Did you have a Sunday roast yesterday then? 🙂"

Arrrrrrrgggghhhhh AngryAngryAngry

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FireofLife · 20/03/2023 09:31

Butchyrestingface · 19/03/2023 20:25

She's even gone as far as delving into the menu. She'll say "oh there's x restaurant about 30 minutes drive from where you're staying", she'll tell me all about the place and send me the menu and go "look, it serves macaroni cheese - that's one of your favourites" Confused

Have you seen Single White Female, OP?

I haven't but I understand the reference. I don't think she's manipulative though. In fact, she doesn't seem to really give a shit. Confused

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LG93 · 20/03/2023 10:00

I know mentioning being ND is a cliche on here nowadays, but do you think it's a possibility? I have a friend with autism who has basically learnt how to socialise by observing and mimicking social interactions as 'thats what people do' which can lead to seemingly strange interactions (like always asking about a roast) as her observations of others haven't helped her learn the nuances of small talk, things just become 'rules'

Whatsshecalled · 20/03/2023 10:10

Is it possible she just has to be involved with your love of rugby even though its nothing to do with her (ie she's not interested in rugby) like people who have to be the first to post other people's news online (eg baby announcements) or the first to post about a celebrity's death, just that wierd need to be involved in something they're not involved in so much so that she had to prove to you she was involved in the game and paying attention even though you'd specifically asked her not to speak about it.

Inject · 20/03/2023 18:07

FireofLife · 19/03/2023 17:27

As predicted, she messaged me at 8am this morning with a "Good morning. How are you today?"

I accidentally clicked on it so she knew I'd read it (WhatsApp) but I didn't reply. She then messaged around 9.30 saying "Good morning?? How are you?" Again, I haven't replied (or opened this one).

I've just had a little mooch on Insta and she's sent me a message there too around midday, just "Hi" We've never messaged on Insta.

I feel a bit petty now ignoring her, but I'm still a bit pissed off. 🤷‍♀️

Seriously dump this pathetic fool.

Inject · 20/03/2023 18:09

FireofLife · 20/03/2023 09:27

My patience is running thin!

She messaged me again this morning so I replied. So it went "good morning, how are you? I'm ok thanks, you? Yeah I'm good. Did you have a Sunday roast yesterday then? 🙂"

Arrrrrrrgggghhhhh AngryAngryAngry

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Why don't you say to her "what the hell has it got to do with you if I did or not - get a life!".

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