Is a camsite cheating - title edited by MNHQ at request of author.

Preferbeadstoaplug · 2023-02-26T21:41:07+00:00

Cause DP having some *ahem* private time on a Camsite. Not very happy about it, they have apologised and said they will not do it again. can’t decide if this constitutes as cheating or not? it’s live so I think to me it does feel like cheating. Yabu - it’s not cheating just another form of pornography yanbu - it’s definitely cheating

Threee · 26/02/2023 21:43

Camsite or campsite? 😂

Eas1lyd1stracted · 26/02/2023 21:44

Your typo has really changed the meaning of the posts. But yes. However only you can answer it it meets your definition and breaks your boundary.

(I initially thought poor man is just having some solo pleasure in a tent and you think he's cheating. Bit lacking in privacy but no)

Nurse2022 · 26/02/2023 21:44

Campsite = not cheating
EHU = cheating

Camsite = yep, cheating

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Preferbeadstoaplug · 26/02/2023 21:44

Whoops typo - cam - site as in a site with cameras and models

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GPFavo · 26/02/2023 21:45

I wouldn't consider it cheating in my relationship. In relationships where it's off-limits then it would be cheating. What are the boundaries you established in your relationship when you've discussed things?

louise5754 · 26/02/2023 21:46

I'd get the title changed op.

No I wouldn't like it.

tillyoumakeit · 26/02/2023 21:47

Oh this is a bit confusing!! Agree with PP, it doesn't matter what anyone here says, it is oversteps a boundary for you OP, It's cheating. That isn't unreasonable.

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Preferbeadstoaplug · 26/02/2023 21:47

GPFavo · 26/02/2023 21:45

I wouldn't consider it cheating in my relationship. In relationships where it's off-limits then it would be cheating. What are the boundaries you established in your relationship when you've discussed things?

We hadn’t really discussed camsites before as they weren’t really a thing when we got together so no real past experience with this

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SleekMamma · 26/02/2023 21:48

Wow that was confusing.
Imagining a poorly placed torch and tent combo.

However caMsite, it's up to you really if it's ok.

ThepicofmyhairymingeprovesIamsober · 26/02/2023 21:49

Depends on his ahem intent.
Seriously though I personally would class it as cheating. And in a particularly seedy way too.

Mangogogogo · 26/02/2023 21:49

well that was confusing!

i wouldn’t class this as cheating so I do think it’s a personal thing. I wouldn’t exactly be fuckin thrilled about it though

GPFavo · 26/02/2023 21:50

Preferbeadstoaplug · 26/02/2023 21:47

We hadn’t really discussed camsites before as they weren’t really a thing when we got together so no real past experience with this

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Then, personally, in that case, I'd class it in the "not cheating this time as not previously discussed but would be cheating if done again because now discussed" bracket. But I'd imagine you're about to get a few pages of LTB.

StoneofDestiny · 26/02/2023 21:50

Well if deceit and secrecy is involved and your DP's money and attention is diverted to get pleasure from another partner, then yes, it's cheating

BertaHoon · 26/02/2023 21:54

Ohh. OP, I too was confused. I've had some fun in a tent in my time (not cheating).

I don't consider porn cheating as such. Not a fan if in a relationship.
Live cams / only fans or anything being paid for - lapdance - anything watched in real time, paying and someone to do what you want - yes cheating.

Carry on Camping!

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Preferbeadstoaplug · 26/02/2023 21:55

StoneofDestiny · 26/02/2023 21:50

Well if deceit and secrecy is involved and your DP's money and attention is diverted to get pleasure from another partner, then yes, it's cheating

Yeah I dunno, I don’t think I would be shouting to DP if I had an eve to myself (chance would be a fine thing) and decided to have some ahem me time, and opened up a porn site. So I dunno if that is deceitful or just not something you share? Do other people tell their DP when they pleasure themselves?
but a camsite is live? And you can interact with the people so that feels a bit more like cheating?

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BertaHoon · 26/02/2023 21:56

@Preferbeadstoaplug

Just seen your username.

You seem quite knowledgeable and open about sex.

I'm sure you can figure it out.

MasterBeth · 26/02/2023 21:57

"Cheating"? I don't know. It's fucking gross, though, and I wouldn't want to be with anyone who thought otherwise.

BumpyaDaisyevna · 26/02/2023 22:00

I thought this was a question from a veteran wild camper who wanted reassurance that just for once it would be ok to book a campsite with hot shower and loos.

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Hawkins003 · 26/02/2023 22:01

Preferbeadstoaplug · 26/02/2023 21:55

Yeah I dunno, I don’t think I would be shouting to DP if I had an eve to myself (chance would be a fine thing) and decided to have some ahem me time, and opened up a porn site. So I dunno if that is deceitful or just not something you share? Do other people tell their DP when they pleasure themselves?
but a camsite is live? And you can interact with the people so that feels a bit more like cheating?

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It depends on the couple and the methods used, if meeting a lady friend and having a golfing session then yes that's cheating, if how ever it's cams or eg porn hub then that depends on you op and what you think

Housefullofcatsandkids · 26/02/2023 22:05

It's a tricky one. I mean, you're clearly not happy about it so I would tell him that oversteps a boundary and hope that it doesn't happen again but I'm not sure I'd consider it cheating. I doubt he's thought it's any different to porn and if you're ok with that he probably thought you'd be ok with cam sites. Draw a line under it, he now knows you don't like it but I don't think it's anything to dwell on.

Particularprick · 26/02/2023 22:08

They. Interesting you're trying to hide your DP's sex.

I wouldn't be ok with it but who cares what I think. Totally depends on your boundaries

Jujuj · 26/02/2023 22:09

It’s over the line for me.
Doesn’t matter if it’s ‘cheating’.

TickledCrimson · 26/02/2023 22:10

Does your OH get turned on by tents?

PicklesAndTequila · 26/02/2023 22:10

This confused me so much.
I thought it was going to be along the lines of Center Parcs bumsex but swingers in tents

Silentmama · 26/02/2023 22:15

I was sat here confused about how having sex on a campsite - was not cheating - to be honest if your happy to shag outside in this weather - hats off to you :)