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I caught my husband

80 replies

Glendan · 07/07/2010 00:04

Taking undergarments from next doors washing line!

He didn't know that i saw him doing it, but i was upstairs doing the washing and saw him from the window. It was on the complete off chance and i am distraught.

Am i being unreasonable in wanting to confront him and basically humiliate him about it?

Im really worried about him.

It really knocked me for six.

OP posts:
nomorebooze · 07/07/2010 07:18

he will be more embarrassed if the police turn up at the door as someone else has seen him stealing the grunddies! i would defo approach him on this before it gets any worse! he will be less embarrassed about this coming from you. plus this is theft at the end of the day remember that

kreecherlivesupstairs · 07/07/2010 07:34

Surely the woman next door has noticed her unders going walkies? I would.
We have a friend, let's call him Mike, he was a postman and a knicker nicker. His van glove compartment was stuffed full of frillies. Devastated the whole family and lead to divorce. He was not a rapist on the prowl, just a very mixed up man.
OP, talk to your DH.

loopyloops · 07/07/2010 08:45

I agree, you have to talk to him, soon, and calmly.
There may be an innocent explanation and you have to give him the opportunity to explain what is going on.
This needs to be dealt with before your neighbour cottons on. She/he? clearly hasn't yet, as they wouldn't still be hanging them outside.
I would consider getting hold of said pants and laying them out on the table ready for when he gets home. Make sure the kids are elsewhere, and being looked after for a while. If confronted with physical evidence he should come clean with you.

Good luck and excuse any inadvertent puns in my thread. It must be awful thing to have discovered and I can understand your shock and upset.

Oblomov · 07/07/2010 08:59

have you talked OP ? what did he say ?

sunnydelight · 07/07/2010 09:05

First post - troll anyone?

loopyloops · 07/07/2010 09:09

Leave that line of questioning alone, please SunnyD. Surely there has been enough troll-hunting and baiting going on here over the last few days? Can't we just accept that different things happen to people and accept them at face value? If you are concerned, report.

Sorry if that was out of turn, but I think the OP is genuine and should be treated with respect.

BudaisintheZONE · 07/07/2010 09:15

Oh sunnydelight FGS! First post in that name maybe. Maybe as OP is obv embarrassed by the whole thing she may have namechanged?

Christ. Sodding troll hunters will totally destroy this place.

GeekOfTheWeek · 07/07/2010 09:16

Divorce him and take him to the dry cleaners.

stubbornhubby · 07/07/2010 09:19

is next door's washing line attached to your fence post? (that always causes problems)

aquavit · 07/07/2010 09:24

Poor you, Glendan. Find time without dc, and talk to him gently. I don't think you can ignore it. But given your long history together, you can between you find ways to get through it. You can always go forward with counselling if it comes to that.

Good luck, it sounds like a very sad situation and I hope you can resolve it.

ChickensHaveNoEyebrows · 07/07/2010 09:29

I would have to confront him. In fact, I'd go apeshit. Whatever else is going on, he is stealing pants from your neighbours. Words would need to be had.

stubbornhubby · 07/07/2010 09:37

loopylopps

If confronted with physical evidence he should come clean with you

that's probably exactly what OP is scared of

Mumcentreplus · 07/07/2010 09:39

did you see where he put the pants after stealing them?...tbh I would be shocked and appalled if I caught my DH stealing pants..WTF???...questions need to be asked..

GroovyGretel · 07/07/2010 09:39

Glendan, I am afraid I'm with Chickens - I'd go apeshit too. The best of luck talking to him.

Unless of course you have a shared washing line and he might have thought they were yours?

williewalshsballs · 07/07/2010 10:15

op. this is pants. come tell us how your talk went.

booyhoo · 07/07/2010 12:20

OMG, i have just realised that portia is BOF!!!! i am soo dumb. that is why i was saying BOF?. i couldn't see bof posting anywhere. tis your portia. doh.

hello MrsRB, i must have slunk off to bed before you posted that.

PortiaNovmerriment · 07/07/2010 12:47

Hehe booyhoo . It's my posh name, innit. If you hover over it, I think it does say I'm BOF too- I'm not hiding, honestly!

booyhoo · 07/07/2010 12:50

i just thought you were new!!!

i never hover on names or look at profiles- i dont care enough about other posters to see who they are

AllRoadsLeadBackToRadley · 17/10/2018 17:57

Sorry to resurrect a zombie thread...

But this is in today's Daily Star for some reason!

Pixiegirl76 · 17/10/2018 18:04

What garments? Yes you need to confront him.Dosent matter if its male or female.Its not normal behaviour.Just ask him,sod feelings

AnxiousAnnieBob · 17/10/2018 18:15

Like this is for real OP Biscuit

InsomniacAnonymous · 17/10/2018 18:15

Pixiegirl76 Look at the date of the OP!

Celebelly · 17/10/2018 18:17

Good to see people can make a 'journalism' career out of something that happened eight years ago. Embarrassing.

magoria · 17/10/2018 18:22

Wow do you think they went to university to get a degree to sift back on 8 years worth of MN posts to find this!