to not announce my news on Facebook

[Mammie81]

I havent announced my pregnancy on Facebook, instead Ive told the people I care about to their faces, so that we can hug, laugh, and enjoy the moment together.

I dont plan to put anything on FB until the baby is born either.

However, 2 girls I know (but am not FB friends with) have found out via the grapevine and have made public comments about me keeping some 'big secret' and questioning why havent I posted anything yet.

One of these girls announced her pregnancy on there by posting her scan photo. I just dont feel comfortable doing this myself. If thats what she wants to do, then great, but should I really be bitched about because I havent chosen to do the same.

Totally up to you if you post your pregnancy on FB of course. However, do you mean you've been posting status updates about you having a big secret? That's bound to get people wondering and talking about it isn't it? Maybe the girls assumed your teasing 'big secret' posts were leading up to you making your big annoucement.

certainly not bitched about they probably just don't understand why you don't wanna post and get loads of attention about morning sickness.
e.t.c

But if you don't want to post don't congratulations BTW .

I havent posted anything even remotely related to the pregnancy. No 'big secret' updates, no mystic shrouded 'what could that mean' updates.

Ive not actually been on facebook much since I found out. A friend told me what these girls had been saying.

Do what you like. None of their business.

One of my greatest wishes is that Facebook spontaneously combusts.

I have another friend who is pregnant now, and often posts updates about her aches and pains, things that shes bought etc.

Im going to be a mum and even I find it tedious. I dont want to inflict that on my friends!

I'm with you on that one Pennies.

Mammie, in that case I'd just ignore them. Just because some people live their entire lives through FB it doesn't mean we all have to.
And you're right, when I was pregnant I even bored myself with my whines and niggles.

I've disabled my account because I don't want family and close friends finding out from FB by somebody making a comment on my page.

I guess it has it's place, FB, if used in a "normal" manner.

Someone at work told me that her daughters friend had died and she was not dealing with it very well. "She hasn't even written on his wall yet" she exclaimed. Clearly thinking this was deranged behaviour.

Couldn't get over that.....when I figured out what she was talking about!

You can change your settings so people can't read wall posts (only you), or even that they can't write on the wall in the first place!

FWIW, they are being U.

I'm not on facebook so everyone had to wait untill I told them so YANBU

I'm so glad I don't have a FB account because that kind of enquiry from people would get on my nerves.

Tell people in which ever way you like but be prepared that if you do use FB that something may slip from someone that you know and comments may be made.

YANBU.

This is nothing to do with facebook, it's to do with people wanting to gossip.

People can gossip IRL but you have to be around to hear the gossip yourself to get upset. If it's on your FB page it's a bit difficult not to notice comments!

YANBU. It's up to you what you put on your Facebook page, or not.

I don't understand FB. It seems to have replaced normal human interaction.

YADNBU! Please don't post on FB it is private and people who are having problems trying to get pregnant or who have had miscarraiges etc don't want to hear about it. I used to loathe facebook for this reason.. People who know about my pregnancy know it is being kept on the quiet too. I also have a friend who has just miscarried.. I certainly wouldn't want my friends rubbing my pregnancy in her face with constant updates.

Think the "friends" who are asking about your big secret shoudl be dropped. It is really rude to out someone like that.

Facebook Schmacebook.
Yet another reason that I am glad to have deleted my FB account.
Congrats by the way and no you are not being unreasonable.

that's another perspective that I wouldn't have thought about but sanielle is right - announcing things like pregnancy on FB is going to hack other people off, esp those who are having great difficulty TTC.

It's lovely news when someone is expecting, but to constantly have to see it, be reminded of it, would be quite depressing for some.

Agree with Pennies and sazlocks. It is the work of the devil IMO, and people tend to lead their lives around it. I did have a quick look and couldn't believe the inanity.

Oh Jesus facebook has replaced actual topics of conversation in some circles. IMO facebook is for sharing photos, inviting people to things, letting people know about events etc and making social plans. It is not acceptable subject matter for entertaining conversation. I met a woman at a (very dull) BBQ last weekend who regaled us with what her earlier facebook status had been and the comments people had left on it

FB has given boring people a whole new way to be boring. Now I check it daily and I do use it but that makes me want to snore. Some people take it far too seriously. No, YANBU not to announce stuff on there. I have a friend who posted her every spot and twinge when she was trying to get pg by IVF, everything to the colour of her discharge. Then posted as soon as she found out it was negative. Weird.

I'm with EricNorthmansmistress here.

I use FB regularly, I actually like FB - or at least for the purpose I put it to - but for sure, I cannot believe it was ever invented as a soul baring mechanism. Especially amongst the terminally boring, horrendously precious, emotionally unreliable or predictably illiterate.

If people want to announce pregnancy on FB, no problem. But nobody should feel that this is a given or that they should do any such thing. Just say no, I say. And tell those that say differently to get off sodding Facebook and go out and get a real life.

I certainly wouldnt lower myself to making a comeback via my status, as thats playing their game, is extremly childish and is exaclty the type of behaviour that makes Facebook so vile.

The only other way is to approach them in person, which again seems an over reaction.

Pah! I may just delete the whole thing until baby comes!!!

I havent made any announcement either (am 30 weeks) - some friends on there know because I told them in 'Real Life' and sometimes theyve said something which has made someone else comment but all in all Im pretty sure 40% people on my friends list dont know.

I dont know why I feel weird posting on fb about it, I just do, almost like its too sort of serious and real and adult? Like I find it odd when people talk about deaths / serious illnesses etc on there though that is their choice and Im not offended or anything.