to not announce my news on Facebook

[Mammie81]

I havent announced my pregnancy on Facebook, instead Ive told the people I care about to their faces, so that we can hug, laugh, and enjoy the moment together.

I dont plan to put anything on FB until the baby is born either.

However, 2 girls I know (but am not FB friends with) have found out via the grapevine and have made public comments about me keeping some 'big secret' and questioning why havent I posted anything yet.

One of these girls announced her pregnancy on there by posting her scan photo. I just dont feel comfortable doing this myself. If thats what she wants to do, then great, but should I really be bitched about because I havent chosen to do the same.

I totally see your point Waitingforbedtime, Im the same.

It just feels too precious. I once read 'So and So : buried his Grandad today'

And the constant use of the RIP acronym on there makes me cringe. It trivialises death and is a lazy way to hold someone in memorium. (Sorry, that got very deep just then!)

I hate RIP.

RIP = I cant be bothered to write anything meaningful about you so I'll put Rest in Peace. In fact, I couldnt be bothered to even write that so I'll shorten it to 3 letters.

Really shows how loved someone was in real life!!!

YANBU BTW!

unfriend them ASAP or you will be outed!

I am 29+5 and have no plans on saying anything until after the bub is here safely. We lost DS2 last year and I couldn't cope if it was 'out there'.
I only want our very close friends and family to know.

I used facebook to let people I work with know mainly as I couldn't face doing a big announcement to people in work. I had already told everyone I was close to. Am trying not to use facebook to talk about my pregnancy but it is surprising how many people assume I am and make 'ah that'll be because you're pregnant' type comments when I update my status about other things.

I had a friend (no longer a friend as she deleted me after I posted this ) who posted non stop updates about every part of her pregnancy then the C section she had, then the baby's sleeping patterns... very boring and attention seeking.

I didn't announce it really it fb I don't think. I posted my scan pic up so my parents could see (live abroad and its easier).
Meant that some people didn't realise I was pregnant until I had him (I remember Kerrymums surprise)

we did the same Bronze, not with a scan but with a pic of me and my DH standing belly to belly, not that many people 'got' it. I have put scan pictures into a photo album which only my family can see. There are ways to do it on Facebook without letting the whole world know IMO

I look at facebook once every month or so and write something in it less frequently. Why should you even think about putting pregnancy stuff on the internet if you don't want to? Suspect avid facebookers and bloggers have no real lives and real friends.

Fanjo, that is brilliant! Cant believe someone defriended you for that!

Even the photo thing being 'easier', Id rather email them or show them to my friends when I see them. Facebook is so impersonal and trivial and I dont want my pregnancy news lumped in with someone elses status about the weather or what they ate that day.

Its not just about the privacy settings or that Im keeping it a secret (Im not, all my friends know and feel the same about facebook) its that I feel its degrading to put such precious news on there.

Mammie I've had exactly the same, a friend (once quite close but haven't seen for years now) divining from someone's comment that I was pregnant. Proceeded to get a fairly furious message about why she hadn't been told!??! Same person posts regularly about their pregnancy, which is fair enough, but had thought it was up to me what I wanted to say about mine? Apparently not!

Increasingly feel a bit queasy about facebook, and the amount of info on there. I'm able to look at photos of my longterm ex-partners new baby. We're not even friends, not on speaking terms, but a mutual friend has this info on their profile, which seems to mean I can see it too. Which just seems a bit wrong!

OP - congrats on your pregnancy.

I don't use FB, think it's just not something I want to get caught up in, but about 90% of my friends use it and think I'm daft for avoiding it.

It seems to be a general consensus amongst FB users that if something isn't on FB - a picture, a comment a status update - then it simply didn't happen.

YANBU, those friends of yours should drop it and leave you alone.

I yawn at FB.

I'm glad for those who don't go all guns blazing with their pregnancy minutae on there - because it's painful as hell for the people on their friends list (and I know there's me who miscarried and at least one more on my old school friends clique who had a stillbirth) to have to find out that way and deal with it online.

The one that's getting me at the moment is when you see things popping up such as "X likes "Soldiers who die trying to keep our country free".... I get how it's come up that way as a consequence of the software - but it always strikes me as hideously cringemakingly inappropriately worded!