AIBU to think this is an odd gift...?

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Could well be me being hormonal as gave birth to DC2 5 days ago, but...

It was DH's birthday yesterday and his family descended on us today for the afternoon to 'celebrate'. As a gift to her beloved son, she gave him a silver framed photo of herself, FIL, SIL and DH (i.e. her family of 4!).

I really am not upset in the slightest and will put the photo in a place where it can barely be seen, but AIBU to think it a bit odd?

erm, yes that IS odd!

an empty frame would have been better - especialy since you have a new baby to photograph

Um, don't think it is odd, tbh. Are you upset because you aren't in it?

do you think she was making a statement? i.e 'we are your real family'?

If you have issues with your in-laws and they have done stuff like this before then mybe it was done in that way, or maybe you are feeling a bit over-sensitive?

was the picture recent, of adult DH and his sis, or a childhood photo - either way its still odd - I have bought LOADS of photo frames as gifts over the years, and only ever fill them with photos of the DC for grandparents, for everyone else I leave it empty for them to CHOOSE what they put in it

I think that's a bit of a weird birthday pressie - but congratulations on DC2!

One of my favourite wedding photos is of me, my brother and sister. No DH

yabu, don't think it's odd at all. even if it's an old picture of when your DH and SIL were kids, it's a nice to have them around for your DC to look at when they get older.

but if you really don't like it, just leave it somewhere for a few months and then change the picture.

Congratulations!

TBH you may be being a teensy bit U.

My DH got a photo of him, his father, Gfather and son last year.
It was kind of sweet, four generation n'all. (GF had recently died.)

You can point out family members to DC with it, show them how the family branches out IYSWIM.

Maybe MIL is feeling a bit wibbly with her baby having babies.

YANBU. Yes it is a bit odd. If my DH received a present like that he'd say wtf?

i do think yabu a bit, i had a photo in a frame as a gift on my 30th from my parents, it was my mum dad, both sisters and brother and me, i love it. I didn't think it was odd or in anyway trying to exclude my kids or husband. He's got one of him with his grandparents, sadly his grandad passed away about 20yrs ago so it holds sentimental value.

I don't think its particularly odd - quite nice to have a photo of them all?

I think it is odd, would they do it to annoy you do you think?
Because i think it would annoy me infact a similar thing has sort of happened to me in the past.
I think if there is a picture in your house it is nice for you to be in it really, but maybe that is just me,
congratulations on the birth of your baby too

i don't think it's that odd... and kids quite like the idea of their daddy having a mummy and daddy too and that granny is daddy's mummy etc... my nephew was obsessed with how we are all related for ages.

That's the sort of thing my MIL used to do

But it depends on your relationship. Is she envious of you for stealing her little boy? If so, and the photo expresses her yearning to have him back in their little fold then YANBU.

However is she is a perfectly nice MIL and the photo is a good pic of all of them that she thought he would like then YABU.

i think its a nice present.
in time you probalby will too.

Sorry, but I don't think it's odd. Maybe if it was for YOUR birthday....

I don't think the actual picture is odd, so I do think (in the nicest possible way!) you abu.

However, I DO think that a photo frame is a strange gift for a man, full stop.

Congratulations btw.

Oh I think it's weird to have lots of pictures of yourself. so you can't win really . My DC like to see photos of themselves when they were smaller, and of us when we were younger, and the family they don't see. And yes - the "my mummy has a mummy" thing is big too.

not odd. nice.
I would love a framed pic of me my parents and sibs , no partners

What is odd about having a family pic? I would love a pic of my parents, sis and me. Think YABU to put it where it can barely be seen. When you marry you don't cease to have a birth family!