AIBU to think this is an odd gift...?

[addictedtofrazzles]

Could well be me being hormonal as gave birth to DC2 5 days ago, but...

It was DH's birthday yesterday and his family descended on us today for the afternoon to 'celebrate'. As a gift to her beloved son, she gave him a silver framed photo of herself, FIL, SIL and DH (i.e. her family of 4!).

I really am not upset in the slightest and will put the photo in a place where it can barely be seen, but AIBU to think it a bit odd?

This is making me want a photo of DH and his family - we don't have one.

Hmm, I can see where you're coming from.

I have the opposite situation...

The only pic of my wedding that my Dad has on display in the living room just has me, him and my brother in it - no DH. I know it's not been chosen to exclude DH - my Dad is in NZ and my brother and I are both in London, so from his point of view, it's just a nice photo of the three of us (my Mum died several years ago).

However - it makes me feel a bit uncomfortable that DH is not in it. He does also have a wedding photo of DH and I up in the spare room, and when we move back later this year, I'm going to move that one down to the living room, too.

I don't like the idea of DH feeling excluded, even though he more than likely would not. So, as I say, I can see where you're coming from.

Thanks for all your responses - really interesting!

I am really NOT jealous about not being in the photo, I genuinely think it is an odd thing to give your son! He is 39 years old and tbh it is not a great photo of any of them . If she had displayed it in her own home, I think it would be lovely and wouldn't have thought twice about it. We have LOTS of photos of DH's family (far more than mine!) and now we have one more!!!! Arrrrgghhh!

We have quite an awkward relationship anyway - I basically find her very irritating - so I suppose whatever she bought him would have probably have found fault

I think it's a little bit odd - if my MIL did this it would definitely be a statement.

Actually once not long after DH and I got married my MIL arranged a photoshoot for her, FIL, DH, his siblings and the dog - I was definitely not invited (neither sibling had a partner then so I thought it was slightly odd). She had it made into one of those enormous canvas things and it's still hanging in their house - makes me smile whenever I see it...

Yes, sorry, I'm on the side of odd! My MIL gave my DH a huge folder of old family photos which I love going through with DS, but to put your own parental photo in a silver frame as a present is odd in a MIL-ish way that I can't quite put my finger on.

TBH I think it could go either way, if it's genuinely loving done then it's a lovely thing to do, but if there are issues and it was done to wind you up, then she suceeded!!

I don't have any photos of my parents, siblings & I together before my Dad died suddenly and quite young - it would have been nice I don't even have a recent one with both my parents and I before my Dad died as one of us was always on the other end of the camera - and now it's too late....

However, my EX MIL would have done it to make a point that they were a family and we weren't.... but she was an evil cow!

What does your DH think about it? It's his present not yours!