to prevent dd from EVER finding a husband.

[shimmerysilverglitter]

Or so I have been told my my ex.

I was mopping the floor yesterday and she came to "help", she is 3. She said to me "Mummy and "little-shimmery" like cleaning don't they? So I said "well Mummy doesn't really like it but it needs doing so she does it and it does look nice afterwards doesn't it?" and then I said "and always remember dd that cleaning is not just YOUR job or just Mummy's job, all the grown ups in the house should share the cleaning and when the children get bigger they can help too".

Ex was here seeing the dc, called me into the kitchen and said "don't you want dd to be happy when she is older? she will never find a man if you talk to her like that!, look at the state of you with no Man at your age!"

So it appears I have condemned dd to manless future. AIBU?

No wonder he is your ex! What a twat!

There is a reason why this man is your ex.....

Do men still think like this?!?? Is he single or married?

I can see why he is ex. YADNBU.

rather a manless future than a future with a man like that, sorry.

what an arse - your ex not you.

Yes there really are men who still think like this, my ex and his Dad. He never lifted a finger the whole time he lived here so I sort of feel with that example I need to re-enforce to the dc that is not how it should be.

It really wasn't said to piss him off either I thought he was downstairs.

I am 38 btw and look at me with NO MAN at my age! .

HAHAHA. He is in a happy relationship then? I'm guessing if he is it won't be for long with that attitude. And at his age! Tsk.

YANBU. What a tosser.

I dread to think what life was like for his mother in his childhood,his attitude stinks, but must have been learned somewhere

just as well you have a DD not a DS to follow his example

I hope you told him, you've never had a MAN since you met him!

I like your list: cleaning is for everyone who is able to do cleaning.

I DO have a ds as well. That was my main reason for throwing him out in the end, couldn't stand the thought of ds growing up thinking this was how it was supposed to be.

Apparently his Dad used to say "only room for one pair of balls in the house!" This was the message my ex h grew up with.

Yes his Mum had an awful time as well but she seems conditioned to it now and it is sort of hard to feel sympathy for her because she tends to put herself into positions where the Big Man has to take care of things.

Ah well, next time just say "well if the men on offer are anything like you, I'll be happy for her to stay single".

Perhaps point out she will find a husband, just a nice one that you'll be proud to call your son-in-law, rather than an arse you'll have to support her through a divorce from...

Or calmly say "to be honest, i'm pretty certain she's gay" and then walk away while he processes that one...

I hope you laughed

Oh I said "and what would be wrong with that?" (in response to him saying she would never find a husband) and he said, get this, "they should call that website you go on Marriage Wreckers not Mumsnet!" He knows that I have been enlightened since I have been coming on here. Apparently I "will never be happy, thinking like that!"

I have no respect for any adult who cannot look after themselves and competently run a home. That includes cleaning, feeding themselves as well as the 'difficult manly tasks' like paying bills.

UTGSN of course.

remind the prick him that single women are statistically happier than married women.

Yep, DCs will not be allowed anywhere near dangerous machinery such as cars until they have mastered washing machines, dishwashers, vacuum cleaners, ovens etc.

Mind you he sees his Dad do this, but assures me that only Daddy can do proper manly stuff with spanners ( which is quite sweet as his dad is crap). He still likes tje Hoover though.

I'd have told him that thanks to my leaving his lazy, sexist, misogynist book ass, she will never find a twat excuse for a man like him.

And remind him that, well, 10% of people are gay, so she might well be a lesbian and not interested in any man at all.

What a complete arse. wouldn't last long in my house!

Well my Man-less future is looking a lot brighter then my Man-filled future did thats for sure.

Frankly, I admire your restraint in not having beaten him to death with the mop.

He is just trying to excuse himself from being inadequate

I love what you said to your DD

... oh , and my DH makes curtains, bakes cakes with the children, cooks and (sometimes) cleans. So stick that in yer pipe and smoke it Mr notgoodenoughtobewithshimmerysilverglitter!