to prevent dd from EVER finding a husband.

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Or so I have been told my my ex.

I was mopping the floor yesterday and she came to "help", she is 3. She said to me "Mummy and "little-shimmery" like cleaning don't they? So I said "well Mummy doesn't really like it but it needs doing so she does it and it does look nice afterwards doesn't it?" and then I said "and always remember dd that cleaning is not just YOUR job or just Mummy's job, all the grown ups in the house should share the cleaning and when the children get bigger they can help too".

Ex was here seeing the dc, called me into the kitchen and said "don't you want dd to be happy when she is older? she will never find a man if you talk to her like that!, look at the state of you with no Man at your age!"

So it appears I have condemned dd to manless future. AIBU?

Well I know some might think I am starting a bit early (after all she is only 3) but it is very important to me that she doesn't waste years in shite relationships being some blokes rubbing rag as I have done to the detriment of pretty much every other area of my life. I just think if I talk about these things in a general way she will absorb it as part of her mind set iyswim.

My ds is 7 and he knows to put his laundry in the basket, his plates in the sink and his rubbish in the bin, which is more than his Father ever managed in 8 years of marriage.

No, not too early. The earlier, the more normal it becomes

Never to early, I like what you said to your dd too. your ex is a twat.

Never too early.

She will find a man like my DS1 who just hung up all the towels because in our family we all get into and Mum is not a servant.

YANBU but I am sure a lot of men have ideas along those lines.

All men have an idea about what a wife should be like and what their job(s) should be within the relationship. Personally, if my DH had wanted a cleaning lady our relationship would have been doomed as I am possibly the messiest person in the world.