AIU to be pissed off about this

[Hai1988]

Today dh has a day off and yesterday he told me he was going over to his mums to have his hair cut and his mum had asked if he could take her shopping as her dh was working. All this is fine

He left at 9.30am this morning and said he would be a couple of hours, He is still not back i txted him at about 1.30 asking where he was and how long he would be and he said he was still at his mums wouldnt be long.

I need to go shopping myself to pick up a few bit, and need to go to my reptile shop and pick up some live food for them too, as they have none and are trying to escape as there are soo hungry as am i, just gave ds a sandwich from the remaining bread and ham i had in the fridge.

Now i have no money ,no food and no credit on my phone left and a moody 4 yo to cope with on my own evan thogh i thought today was gonna be a day with dh.

sorry about the rant but really annoyed right now.
Do you think IABU??

Text him with your shopping list and ask him to get what you need on the way home

A bit..............go shopping,go to the reptile shop and take your son too.he can look at the snakes..he is prob moody because he's picking up the vibes from you...if you have no money how were you going to do your shopping anyway?

he has money and i used my last txt message to txt him ealryer

he has money and i used my last txt message to txt him ealryer

In the circumstances I don't think YABU. Does he know you have no money/credit etc?

why don't you have money? why do you have to rely on dh to get to the shops?

(I think i know the answer)

YANBU - you're effectively stranded for the entire day & its sound likes he swanning off having day to himself doing what he likes without considering you & DS.

Do you not drive? Can you get a taxi?? How can you not put credit on your phone using a card?? How can you not draw money out the bank?

How has it got to this???

What i mean is, is this a serious of unfortunate events conspiring against you today or are you usually this reliant on your DH?

Oh my god.

This is the same post as yesterday's surely?

The OP doesn't have any money. Therefore she cannot go shopping or to the reptile shop or take a taxi or put credit on her phone.

Why are people asking why she doesn't have any money? Sometimes, people don't have money. End of story.

Some of the posters here (and in yesterday's post) might as well say:

"Why don't you live a "normal" middle class life like me?"

"How on earth can you be POOR?"

Sorry if this seems harsh, but it makes me cross when I see people making the assumption that everyone has the same lifestyle. And when they realise some people live differently (for a multitude of reasons), they look down their noses.

Yesterday's excuse was that the OP didn't give enough information about her situation form the outset - and that's what led to assumptions and bitchy comments.

The OP here did say from the beginning that she has no money, no credit, etc. Her username also gives a clue that she is still relatively young, so no excuses there either.

Some people here (not all, just some) really need to take a moment to consider that not everyone leads the same kind of lifestyle and has access to the same opportunities.

Rant over. Very sorry but needed to vent as I did keep (relatively) quiet yesterday.

If he was in the supermarket with his mum though surely he could have got the shopping for op?
Sounds like crap planning all round

yanbu for being pissed off no....but .....yabu for letting your life and that of your ds and animal,become dependent on a man!!!

No i do not drive and dh had the bank card with the money on.
How could i of planned anything the shopping with mum thing was sprung on me early this morning when i was half asleep, he woke me up told me what he was doing and left.

nanbullen is you think yo know the anwser to ur question what do you think it is??

downdog thats exaclty it!

maylee thanks for understanding.
I dont want to go into it but ppl who have read my prevoius threads probley will understand this situation more.

you perhaps need to keep a small amount of cash available for emergencies.....

and mumsnet is a huge place,thousands of threads/posts daily....cant see how people are going to know your situation

i know that but i'm just saying that if any ppl come on here that read my previous thread then they will know more. I want having a go.

I know i am trying to save at the mo, but its quite hard as i always need to buy things with it

i know,tell me about it!!!

i have a little stash which i add to as and when. loose change etc. builds up over time. you have to be strong and keep it just for emergencies though!! thats the tough bit.

i sense theres more to this tho....

is there a way for you too find my previous thread?? It was posted a few weeks ago now and i cant find it any more

This one?

no, it was posted in the relationships bit.

yes,i've just read....skimmed it,but got the gist

he's abusing you. its domestic abuse. it wont get any better ( ia was your age and in your position when it started with my ex)

Ah, must be this one then

You need to leave as soon as you can.

Could you not ring him on the land line?

hai....what are your thoughts on your future?

Of course YANBU - he said he'd be out for a couple of hours this morning then left you stranded with no money all day. What a twat.