AIU to be pissed off about this

[Hai1988]

Today dh has a day off and yesterday he told me he was going over to his mums to have his hair cut and his mum had asked if he could take her shopping as her dh was working. All this is fine

He left at 9.30am this morning and said he would be a couple of hours, He is still not back i txted him at about 1.30 asking where he was and how long he would be and he said he was still at his mums wouldnt be long.

I need to go shopping myself to pick up a few bit, and need to go to my reptile shop and pick up some live food for them too, as they have none and are trying to escape as there are soo hungry as am i, just gave ds a sandwich from the remaining bread and ham i had in the fridge.

Now i have no money ,no food and no credit on my phone left and a moody 4 yo to cope with on my own evan thogh i thought today was gonna be a day with dh.

sorry about the rant but really annoyed right now.
Do you think IABU??

" Sometimes, people don't have money. End of story."

Well no it's not 'end of story' as her DH clearly has got money so why is she being kept broke when he clearly had money to spend. Nothing to do with being mc or well-off.

Sorry, just read your other thread. What's your relationship like with your parents? Can you go and stay with them while you get back on your feet?

You're being abused and you and your ds need to get out.

Hai, your DH sounds like a twat to me, sorry. You need to get out. Everything else aside, do you really want your DS to grow up thinking this is how women should be treated?

Hai sweerheart, I've been looking out for you. Why don't you come back over to your thread in Relationships.

YANBU - you are being abused.

You need to cancel the bank card and get a new one sent to your bank.

For those who haven't read the other thread Hai's H has control of her bank card (as he claims he can't get a bank account due to debts etc).

This is financial domestic violence .

Hai, perhaps you may need to post a few more threads but please understand ... The way he treats you is horrible. It's not normal, it's not excusable and you don't have to put up with this.

Leaving you & DS alone in the house with no food, no money, no transport and not even bothering to phone you? It's your money, isn't it. The bank card (the one he won't let you have) is the card for your own account, I recall

I say cancel the card.

YANBU - You can send a free text using CBF texts really quick and don't have to register anything.

If he's controlling the money, controlling your comings and goings and saying 'you can't be trusted' then that's abuse. Sorry Hai but he shouldn't be treating you like that and he doesn't deserve you if he is. In a healthy relationship you both have financial and social freedom, if one of you doesn't like how the other acts/they think they might act then it should be talked about (so he could say 'you going out a lot and leaving me with our son would make me feel left behind, for example), and worse case scenario a healthy relationship ends if differences can't be worked out. But trying to actually force you to act or not act in certain ways is cruel and abusive. Get yourself and your son away from him before it gets worse.

hai I posted on your other thread - surely you can see that he is not treating you properly?