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member bashing is it reallly necessary ?

105 replies

justsue · 18/06/2010 01:41

I have only posted a couple of times and have either got the responses I wanted or taken a "bashing", walked away licked my wounds and got over it.

My question is: What about the vunerable posters that literally take your advice etc for gospel. Does it eat at your conscience when you give your sarcastic comments or is this site just to vent anger/frustration/mocking/from the heart/ views at others.

Who decides if a poster is a "troll", I mean do u decide straight away that the post is off the wall and all shout TROLL. She/he could actually be genuine and have a real problem that she does not want to talk to her friends in real life as mad as it seems.

I read so many posts on here and my heart goes out to so many and then I read the sarcastic comments and read the OP's posts back and think "ffs give them a break".

It certainly seems like a elite group and all I can say is give posters a chance

OP posts:
toccatanfudge · 18/06/2010 11:58

PMSL Nemo - something like that except it was more of a slowly drunk wine that gradually went to my head than a poison that damaged me

Oblomov · 18/06/2010 12:16

Not that I have seen many threads over the years. where people get unjustified bashings. or maybe just that my memory is poor. but, the thread the other day from the step mum who didn't like her step son. i'm sure it was in step-parenting and not AIBU. so it does go on in other areas of MN, not just AIBU. christ. she got a bashing. and never came back. made me sad that one. i feel like asking MN towers to contact her. but i know that is impossible.

Condensedmilkaddict · 18/06/2010 16:06

twirls with halo intact

Had to read the post twice to get the double entendre.

Though may have less to do with innocence, and more to do with raging hangover.

Bit slow on the uptake today.

BecauseImWorthIt · 18/06/2010 16:16

A quick search of your posting name suggests that you spend most of your time in AIBU.

No wonder you feel the way you do.

Why not explore some of the other boards? Then perhaps you'll get a more balanced view of MN?

There is an incredible amount of support and friendship to be had (or to give) on MN.

Yes, sometimes people have forthright views and often there are disagreements but, hey, it's great to have a forum where these can be expressed openly, surely?

BecauseImWorthIt · 18/06/2010 16:16

A quick search of your posting name suggests that you spend most of your time in AIBU.

No wonder you feel the way you do.

Why not explore some of the other boards? Then perhaps you'll get a more balanced view of MN?

There is an incredible amount of support and friendship to be had (or to give) on MN.

Yes, sometimes people have forthright views and often there are disagreements but, hey, it's great to have a forum where these can be expressed openly, surely?

EggsandBacon · 18/06/2010 16:24

Ahaha - member bashing.

Snigger.

tethersend · 18/06/2010 16:29

What about those of us who like sarcastic comments? Is no-one concerned about the risk of alienating us by banning sarcasm?

We are a disaffected minority. It's just not fair. Etc.

elliemental · 18/06/2010 16:33
ShellingPeas · 18/06/2010 16:34

member bashing

Like others I am very disappointed in this thread. It's not what I thought it would be, seeing as it's Friday night afternoon.

pagwatch · 18/06/2010 16:42

I just get fucked off when I post a really really rude reply to someone and they don't even notice because they have gone off to bash their member.

Troll hunters annoy me.

People posting about how crap MN is annoy me too.

And I get especially fed up that they always post in terms of 'you' - as if MN is one big group of posters which excludes them, as in 'why do you have to be so rude..'

If you are going to post complaining about MN then use we as you are as much a part of mn, and equally responsible for its tone, as I am.

It is really sanctemonious - especially when the poster has not defended the OP on the thread in question - which seems to happen quite a lot too.

mistletoekisses · 18/06/2010 16:44

another one who is mightily disappointed that the thread is not what she thought it was.

BecauseImWorthIt · 18/06/2010 18:18

Are you cross, pag?!

pagwatch · 18/06/2010 18:23

not especially actually.
Perhaps I am merely wine deprived?

BecauseImWorthIt · 18/06/2010 18:29

Well surely it's wine o'clock now?

chipmonkey · 18/06/2010 18:56

Troll hunting for the sake of it does annoy me, especially the "Oh, I see this is your first post" with the obligatory when in fact if anyone does namechange to post about something sensitive, it will look like their first post.

But I do agree with some of the others, justsue. AIBU is like the Jerry Springer Section of MN and posting here is just asking for a bashing, really. Far better to post in Chat or anywhere else at all for that matter!

porcamiseria · 18/06/2010 18:57

well I told someone to fuxck off the other day and feel guilty about it

would I tell soneone to fuck off in real life, err no

so why is it OK to do it online?

anyway.......................

StayFrosty · 18/06/2010 19:00

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Message withdrawn at poster's request.

ContentedVanilla · 18/06/2010 19:02

I think it was me If it was then don't worry as it's what you have to expect when posting controversial things on AIBU

PerArduaAdNauseum · 18/06/2010 19:03

I am very rude about all other posters and never have a kind word to say to anyone.

We're all just a bunch of member-bashers and should be saying 'aw hugs hun' every 2nd post.

So there.

Jamieandhismagictorch · 18/06/2010 19:04

Oh Fuck off ContentedVanilla

< thinks it's open season >

PerArduaAdNauseum · 18/06/2010 19:07
ContentedVanilla · 18/06/2010 19:07

But I haven't even said anything horrible on this thread yet!

NickiSue · 18/06/2010 19:07

Slightly off topic - the other night, because for whatever reason I couldn't get Mumsnet to load I went into Bounty Chat. I was bored so registered (had an account from 2005/2006 when I was pg with DS in my pre-MN days)but I had it deleted as I was "outted" in RL buy someone who thought it funny to tell others of my posts, and giggle like silly little girls bitches (very off putting when I'd put things about previous m/c).

Anyway as soon as I went into chat, there was lots of and before long I was a "nobber", could "fuck off" for being a 2bit whore, "was a sick fck" oh you name it! (I'd only said hello lol!). Turns out there has been a long term member who had set up dummy accounts, pretended she was then ill, "died" and all sorts and she had been found out that day. They assumed it was me. I was grilled for my real name, DOB (poke off!) and all sorts. Eventually left alone (why I stayed I don't know, boredom?)then started again, then on someone else. It was vicious!

Now, it was bloody awful being accused of being a "nobber" (??) and troll etc as I knew I wasn't but I tell you what, I've seen troll-hunts on here, and apart from the fact you can all spell, the other difference is anyone one here "hunting" or being concerned about someone lying, aren't a patch on the burn-at-the-stake Bounty gals!!!

PerArduaAdNauseum · 18/06/2010 19:08

Aw hugs hun ((((ContentedVanilla))))

Heh heh heh

NickiSue · 18/06/2010 19:09

I'm not being a Nobber by the way (that word tickles me!), I'm saying I love MN regardless.