member bashing is it reallly necessary ?

[justsue]

I have only posted a couple of times and have either got the responses I wanted or taken a "bashing", walked away licked my wounds and got over it.

My question is: What about the vunerable posters that literally take your advice etc for gospel. Does it eat at your conscience when you give your sarcastic comments or is this site just to vent anger/frustration/mocking/from the heart/ views at others.

Who decides if a poster is a "troll", I mean do u decide straight away that the post is off the wall and all shout TROLL. She/he could actually be genuine and have a real problem that she does not want to talk to her friends in real life as mad as it seems.

I read so many posts on here and my heart goes out to so many and then I read the sarcastic comments and read the OP's posts back and think "ffs give them a break".

It certainly seems like a elite group and all I can say is give posters a chance

@ ladies who thought it was wanking..uh huh..

Ha I thought it was a wanking thread too

As for the OP

There are lots of rows on here
But there are lots more friendly, supportive, helpful people and thousands of threads where people are getting on well, listening to each other's problems, helping them with difficulties and generally being lovely.

AIBU and certain topics (we all know which ones ) are not representative of MN overall.

Also, on MN as in RL, you get different sorts of people, some are nice, some are nasty, some are sad, happy, funny, upset, depressed, narrow minded, everyone. It would be a bit weird if that wasn't the case.

that LOL is being used as punctuation. Again.

So you are entitled to your opinion and to repeat it adnaseum, but you have an issue with others having the same? And you feel the need to repeatedly whinge post about how horrible MN is?

Could you not find Netmums or Bounty then?

re: troll hunters... some members view mumsnet as a platform for self promotion so the feelings of the OP take second place to hogging the spotlight.

sad really.

I certainly hope no-one is bashing their members whilst on MN

Tsk!

at Orm

I don't partake in member bashing. I do believe in self-love though

justsue - just avoid AIBU. Really. It's not going to change - I don't disagree with some of your complaints, but stop staring threads about it

starting - not staring

Justsue - the thread which I think inspired your op evolved into a thread full of advice support and good humour towards the op yesterday.

Mumsnet is not like Bounty or Netmums. It has a more zippy style. Some of the people have been posting here for years and have developed a sort of abrasive shorthand which, I'll admit, can be difficult to pick up on.

However, many of us are addicted to rather fond of Mumsnet as it is and don't want it to change to a forum where we are all wholly supportive of one another all the time just because we are (mainly) mothers and (mainly) women.

yabu
and a bit predictable
I reconised your name as you have a habit of these threads, you know the answer don't you

Justsue - I agree with you. The troll hunters annoy me too, especially when the OP seems to be genuinely seeking help and they pile in en masse.
The 'boxroom troll' threads made me quite angry. The OP was really unhappy and needed help and they all piled in on her accusing her of trolling, when I think she was just using MN to vent and looking for advice. The fact that she kept name changing and repeating her story didn't necessarily mean she was a troll.
Obviously the really nasty trolls are a PITA but still not worth getting so worked up about imo.
You have to learn to ignore it. Posting about it on here won't change anything, you will just get shouted at and called a troll yourself and as someone else said it happens all over the place, not just on here.

Another dirty minded one here.

Have nothing useful to add, sorry. Maybe hide AIBU as a topic for a while though and look at the other sections a bit more? Toccatanfudge has it right I think, in that there is a lot more to mumsnet than the bitching.

I've been here a few years, de-regged and come back partly because of things I didn't agree with, partly because I wanted to concentrate on other things in my spare time. There have been some overwhelmingly supportive threads on here in the past and it would be good for you to see those I think rather than just focus on the shit bits.

Ive been here ages and even ive been flamed and accused of being a troll.....the way you word a post can be quite misleading as I have discovered at my cost ......

Mumsnet can be quite fierce but id rather have it than not.

I too thought this an early friday sex thread .

What toccatanfudge said.

Surely you can't complain about being 'bashed' when you start the bashing threads?

If you need advice here the best way is to ask.....nicely. The responses then are always so wonderful, although maybe not always what you may want to hear.

If you have genuine concerns don't post on AIBU. I do find posts here rather polar and people place themselves in the BU/NBU camp and stay there!

Even if people's opinions are more in the middle this place, AIBU, is more for sharp snappy posts or definite opinion.

member bashing

hur hur hur

member

what bibbity and toccata said, and by the way justsue that other thread got very strident towards scottishmummy which was not great.

Hide the threads you don't like.

"although maybe not always what you may want to hear."

so true - but often in hindsight I've found I've looked back at advice that hurt, or I didn't like and realised they were talking much sense, and little bits of what they said had been dripping into my mind.

Like a slow acting poison, toccata...