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Original poster

in thinking tiredness is NOT a competition?

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misdee · 17/06/2010 10:21

have had a rough few nights with dd4, and other dd's were up early this morning, so am very tired.

dh works earlies usually, but day off today.

i said 'oh i'm tired could do with going back to bed'

usual reply from dh' at leats u slept last night, i didnt'

fgs every time i mention i am tired he has to be more tired, and i apparently sleep 10hours uninterrupted every night when he is up with the kids. yeah right

load of bollocks.

btw cant go back to bed as dd4 is awake and grumping.

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plus3 · 17/06/2010 10:23

It's an olympic sport in our house....

biddysmama · 17/06/2010 10:24

my dps the same, he sleeps through dd crying but gets up at 4.30.. i wake up with her and get up at 6.30..and i'm 31 weeks pregnant but apparently he's more tired cos he got up early

upahill · 17/06/2010 10:24

I'm world champion of tiredness!!!!

Original poster

misdee · 17/06/2010 10:25

biddymama, dh usually is up at 5am and leaves the house aboout 5.45. at which point the front door closing wakes up dd4. and thats where my day starts.

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SirBoobAlot · 17/06/2010 10:26

I'm so tired, I haven't slept in a year.

expatinscotland · 17/06/2010 10:27

i wouldn't say 'i could do with'.

i'd just get up and do it.

i'd leave him to it with the kids.

IamBatman · 17/06/2010 10:29

YANBU, you have to deal with constant lack of sleep and I'm guessing you havn't had an uninterrupted nights sleep in years?at least he gets a day off to look forward to (same in this house)

Ronaldinhio · 17/06/2010 10:30

we play the who can act the most tired, gain sympathy and be offered a lie down without having to ask game
then we get a spoiled/magnanimous glow going on that is entirely fictitious

wish i were as grown up as you expat

MrsMiamla · 17/06/2010 10:31

I'm so tired, I haven't slept in two years

IvaNighSpare · 17/06/2010 11:00

it's an olympic sport in my house too, other events include:
-who is the sickest (when I have a lurgy, DH always reports similar symptoms but worse)
-who works the hardest (working mum versus shift-worker with on-call)

but the thing that gets my goat is that, whenever DH needs a lie-down I make a massive effort to keep the DCs out of his way so he is undisturbed.
HOWEVER - when DH deigns to let me go for a rest, my sleep is inevitably disturbed by one of the DCs who seem to have slipped the net, unseen by daddy, and feel the need to wake me to demand snacks, drinks, fix toys etc, when DH is within just a few bloody feet of them.
Aaaaarggggggggggghhhhhhhhhhhhh!!!!

lynnexxxo · 17/06/2010 11:09

I think my OH would win the tiredness competition. He afterall works 12 hr shifts, poor thing AND has to get up at 5 am to start at 6.

I on the other hand get to lie to the leisurely time of 7 am before getting four children ready for school/nursery/childminder before going to work myself, pick up some shopping at lunchtime, pick up the kids go home stick a washing on, make dinner, get them all bathed and into bed.

kveta · 17/06/2010 11:15

We have this at home too.
I tend to win.
'OMG kveta, DS woke us up at 4.30 am'
'I know. And 2am, and midnight'
'Oh, I didn't hear him then'
'I did'

every farking night.

ShinyAndNew · 17/06/2010 11:19

Dh is always more tired than me. And more ill than me. And he does more in the house than me. I laughed my socks off at that last one. My mum told me she struggled to keep a straight face when he told her "Shiny expects me to do everything and she never bothers"

I just agree with now. Although I did walk out on him last night and left him with everything to do. When I came back he had cooked my dinner for me

GetOrfMoiLand · 17/06/2010 11:22

This is quite reassuring as I thought me and DP were the only idiots who did competitive tiredness.

We are both always knackered and do completely different kind of jobs, so each of us thinks that we work harder than the other.

It is one of those great unsaid bones of contention with us.

Shodan · 17/06/2010 11:38

I used to have this competition with my XH. (him: 9 solid hours a night, me: insomniac of many years.

But now I have lovely lovely DH who can fall asleep in an instant, wherever he is (sofa, quite a lot) and is and always has been enormously sympathetic to my boring sleep issues.

(I won't tell you all about how he lets me sleep in every morning, gets up with ds2 in the night etc etc cos you'd want to kill me.)

(oops)

So there's your answer! Divorce them all!

{joke}

Downdog · 17/06/2010 11:54

I'm getting more used to it. I'm lucky in that I do tend to sleep well. DD & I both slept in this am as I hit off instead of snooze by mistake.

OH (ex-OH?) would spend most of Saturday in bed if he could cause he's tired. Whereas I would just like a 2 hour lie in once a week please. I find the lazing in bed all day thing very depressing & I think he's depressed.

But yes, he is always more tired than me & I apparently get oodles more sleep than him - and he's always trying to send me off to bed earlier than him so he can lie on sofa & then come to bed at 1am every night & wonder why he's tired & cranky.

I don't function well on less than 7 hours - but just get on with it.

Tombliboob · 17/06/2010 12:00

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rockinhippy · 17/06/2010 12:08

I'm PMSL at this......nice to know its not just our house..........my DD is 7, so does of course sleep through, but due to health issues she can often be up in the night with a bad stomach , which of course means ME up too

my own health problems mean I often just CAN"T sleep, & when I do it doesn't really make much difference to how rested I feel anyway.......despite working pretty much when I can (thank God) no matter how exhausted I feel I just can't sleep in the day......so okay DH does work, & hard, & gets up early for it....but sleeps through never gets up for DD if shes ill, even weekends, he just doesn't hear her & is very fit & healthy .........

& he can sometimes snore like a bloody pig, which ads to my own exhaustion

& like you all say.........hes ALWAYS more tired than I am ...........mind you, I once recorded his very loud drunken snoring, after he'd had a night out & was very much worse for wear & kept me up ALL night..........& I then played it back to him as an early morning alarm call......kind of got the message across for a few months

Do you also find its a sport at the School gates too???........or is it just me who attracts the Parents who seem to want to continually moan about how exhausted they are....trust me, with M.E. to deal with some mornings, that one REALLY sometimes wants to make me scream

LoveJules3 · 17/06/2010 12:09

Ah good, not just us then! This morning in our house is a prime example:
DH: oh i'm so tired i didn't sleep well. At least you did, Ds slept through didn't he?
ME: WTF???? Ds was up every 20 mins from 2am till i gave up at 5 and brought him into our bed!

How the hell can he claim he didn't sleep well and still miss all that? Ds still sleeps in our room too!

GGGGRRRRRR!

littlelozz · 17/06/2010 12:12

DD2 is a terrible sleeper and Im up from 3-7 times a night just for a dummy or to move her back in to the normal position. DH sleeps next to the monitor which is on full and still always sleeps through. HEe has a cheeck to then say he has got up with her during the night which I know is always a lie as I am such a light sleeper now. I know Im a mug but I then get up early with her (5.30 today) and he 'lets' me go back to bed at 8.30 but whats the point when I then still have to get up and do all the housework and sort the girls while he has been playing stupid PS3 all morning.
Sorry.
Rant over. Can you tell he's really pissing me off right now?

rockinhippy · 17/06/2010 12:13

reading these replies......I'm beginning to think that Men actually DREAM that they don't sleep well......whilst all the while been dead to the world...........my DH comes out with the same sort of things......yet I KNOW he's slept through, as I'm up all night

BandMsDad · 17/06/2010 12:18

When our boys were younger, my much better half would claim to have been awake for days on end.

I even said* one time that I was going to contact the sleep research centre at Loughborough university so they could carry out studies on my amazing wife who could not only stay awake for 3, 4, 5 days at a time, but could also function (almost) perfectly normally during the day time.

I didn't in the end.

I say 'said' but what I actually did was think it to myself and then try to act sympathetic.

atomicsnowflake · 17/06/2010 12:21

My dh fakes yawns if he ever sees me yawning . I confronted him with it last month and he went bananas and didn't speak to me for almost 24 hours - a sure sign that he's been 'caught out' .

I shall get my own back on him soon because I'll probably have to go into hospital for a minor op and then I'll milk it for all its worth.

ShinyAndNew · 17/06/2010 12:23

'I'm beginning to think that Men actually DREAM that they don't sleep well......whilst all the while been dead to the world...........' - My mum once replied to a text I'd sent earlier at 2am. Thinking it was odd she was awake at 2am I rang her. She couldn't sleep because of my Dad's snoring. Dh was also snoring so we decided we would make ourselves a hot chocolate and have a chat since it was a Sunday morning and we were both off work.

Later in the day I dropped something off at their house and asked my Dad how he was. His reply was "Well I didn't sleep at all last night because your mother drank too much again and was snoring all night"

catinthehat2 · 17/06/2010 12:26

I have actually never slept IN MY LIFE, so I win.

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