to put my daughter on a naught step for this

[Mrsbubblebum]

I feel terrible now, i think i was bit too harsh...

My 3 year old daughter wanted to put her shoes on. I told her to get them from her bed room where she left them earlier. She started screaming and demanding for me to get her shoes. I offered to go and get them together, she wouldn't stop screaming so after a warning i put her on a naughty step. After 3 mins she said sorry but when i asked her to come with me to get her shoes she started to scream again. So after a warning she sat back on a step for further 3 mins, after that she said sorry and we went and got her shoes...

Was that too harsh, should i have just got her shoes??? She was sitting screaming on that step it broke my hart...

Honest opinion was that too much for a 3 year old?

nope, that was absolutely fine. Do not feel bad!

It sounds fine to me. It wasn't excessive.You shouldn't feel bad.

Thank you so much, i was driving myself crazy...

If it's any consolation, my 3yo is currently experimenting with "NO Mummy, YOU do it!!!" and other such forms of cheek and attempts to make me jump through his hoops! I use the naughty step for it too.

Never give up, never surrender!

Well, an alternative would be to roll your eyes at the first refusal, say "when you've got your shoes, come and find me in the kitchen", and then go and make a cup of tea.

yep, gotta get rid of that asking for help or they;ll be wanting you to make their dinner, get them drinks, take them to school... i dunno, little tykes

YANBU, at 3 she is perfectly capable of being sent for her shoes, she didnt do it so she sits on the naughty step, thats what its for.

YANBU - don't worry about it!!!

Pick your battles is all I have to say

Nope you were right, why are we so harsh on ourselves, threenagers can be absolute nightmares as mine is.

YANBU - I would have done the same with my 3 year old.

I'd have done the same with DD, she's 2 and 7 months.

I never call it the naughty step though, in my mind it's an YABU step and I apply it as such.

I also agree with usual suspect - just exhausting to constantly battle with 3yo. Airily breezing past works best when I remember to do it. I don't use naughty step, though, so can't comment on that. A stern look and "I'm not smiling" usually stops dd in her tracks.

All that....over shoes...?! Personally I wouldn't have bothered with all that. If I wanted to go out and my dd was acting like that, I would have just gone and got the flipping shoes. Not a battle I would be having. Save the naughty step for when it's really needed. If you put a 3 year old on the naughty step for screaming they'd be there a lot of the day surely...?

Bang on I think. Screaming and demanding you get her shoes is not acceptable behaviour in my book.

She was being naughty - screeching and screaming, demanding and trying to get her own way when really she needed to get her shoes on...

sounds good use of the step to me; especially when you followed through on repeat performances

Thank you for all comments sometimes is nice to know i'm not the only one...

YANBU especially as when you offered a compromise (going together) she kicked up a fuss. Screaming at 3 as she can't get her own way is normal pushing the boundries stuff and you are teaching her how far she can push it - IMHO thats good parenting.

dunno pixie
i sometimes ask dp to make me tea, even though I am capable
I sometimes ask the children to pass me things, or do stuff for me. even though i am capable

and as such, sometimes when the ds's ask me to do things that they could do themselves, I do it for them, cos it's a nice thing to do and it teaches them to do the same

obviously the screaming was unnecessary. but naughty step? no.
I'd have just said "dd I can't really talk to you when you're screaming, when you stop I can listen to you" and gone off and had a nice cuppa

yanbu

thisisyesterday, yes people do things for each other etcetera, but there's asking nicely (how I assume you would) and there's being a demanding little madam about it (I assume you wouldn't ), not something I'd actively encourage in a 3 year old. Not pandering to unreasonable demands is not the same as making your child food and taking them to school

yes, which is why i would tell them that if they want to talk to me to do so, rather than screaming

I pick my battles. DD(2) nearly 3, is very good at doing things for herself but she is going through a stage of asking me to do things for her. If she asks nicely I say yes and if she demands it I ask her to repeat it nicely and she usually does.

There are far bigger battles to be had with her in the future!