to put my daughter on a naught step for this

[Mrsbubblebum]

I feel terrible now, i think i was bit too harsh...

My 3 year old daughter wanted to put her shoes on. I told her to get them from her bed room where she left them earlier. She started screaming and demanding for me to get her shoes. I offered to go and get them together, she wouldn't stop screaming so after a warning i put her on a naughty step. After 3 mins she said sorry but when i asked her to come with me to get her shoes she started to scream again. So after a warning she sat back on a step for further 3 mins, after that she said sorry and we went and got her shoes...

Was that too harsh, should i have just got her shoes??? She was sitting screaming on that step it broke my hart...

Honest opinion was that too much for a 3 year old?

YANBU. You wern't too harsh.

YANBU

They can all be drama queens - don't let that get to you!!

Not the harshest use of the naughty step I've read about on here, but still question the whole notion - I think it just internalises anger. Don't beat yourself up though, we all lose it sometimes. I think that it may be a case of you having taken her behaviour personally - being a personal dogsbody can really press our buttons! I read something recently which suggested that some of this behaviour is aimed at seeing whether we will still act lovingly towards them. I think lightening the mood would have been easier in this case. My dh is particularly good at this, while I use a lot of my energy trying to stay calm. Today I used the making a cup of tea trick after explaining that I was there for him for a hug or to play with something else (he had lost his favourite pencil!) and there really didn't seem to be any other way.

These naughty steps, do you buy them in specially or just nominate one of the bog standard stairs as the official Seat of Doom & Despond?

I agree with thisisyeasterday and Again. This could have been dealt with by diffusing the situation.

Playful Parenting is useful for these sort of everyday confrontations with a small child

.. but I don't think what you did was terrible

I'm with Jamie et al - I don't think you're wrong but I do think it's very hard work if everything becomes a confrontation

My 5 year old is genuinely terrified of going upstairs on her own. I'm just wondering if maybe your litle one is, couldn't explain herself properly, and that's what kicked this all off in the first place?

You asked her to do something and she then screamed at you.....YANBU