to think my DB and SIL should sort out their own child care?

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Really rude of your DB and entirely his problem. Don't let your mum be bullied into changing her mind.

but don't get involved

it's up to your mum to say 'oh dear, well hopefully you can revoke the notice or use your annual leave until you sort something out'

how awful to get assume though

Bloody cheek!

Your DB/SIL will have to go back to the nursery and hope that they've not managed to get someone else into his space!

Massive assumption on your DB and SIL's part!

YANBU, I'd be furious too. Hope your mum sticks to her guns and enjoys her day off.

Am looking forward to your SIL posting on here: AIBU to expect MIL to look after DS????

YANBU
Do you think your mum will be able to stick to her guns?

that's awful.
Cheeky fuckers.

Cheeky feckers. I hope your mum sticks to her guns. Or offers to mind your dcs for you on her day off

Goodness - how rude! YANBU

The question is, what did your mum say in response?

Encourage your mum to stick to her guns. Don't have a go at them. Back up your Mum. It doesn't matter if they've given notice to the nursery. They'll just have to withdraw it. Cheapskates.

YANBU at all, are they mad?
They took their son out of nursery before they ask your mum, and they have not ask just assumed!

How rude

YADNBU. Your mum has done her bit bringing you and your db up. Hope your mum sticks to her guns and enjoys her day off.

Giddypickle's MIL had the right technique, which is what your MIL should use.

The bloody cheek of them!

YANBU

How rude and presumptious of them. I agree with all the other posters. Your mum should definitely stick to her guns.

This may be a first YANBU that everyone agrees with. You must show it to your mum.

YANBU! I am aghast! They already benefit from granny care as it is. How can they think this is acceptable? I think it's an assumption lots of people have. A male colleague asked me what I do for childcare when I said I use a nursery mostly, he said to me 'Why doesn't your mum do it?' I replied that she still works, he said 'Get her to retire, grandmas are there for this stuff.'

if your mum has said no then she needs to stick to it. They should re-enrol their child asap. Hopefully she told them this?

Thats so rude! so has your mum agreed to do it then or has she told them where to go?

God, unbleievable really that he/they would do that. we ahve no family childcare at all and i do think that some people do seem to expect a hel of a lot from often 60 odd year old women, sometimes older, i amknackered at teh end of the chidlcare day so these oldsters must be on their knees!why should he get free childcare?

God, unbleievable really that he/they would do that. we ahve no family childcare at all and i do think that some people do seem to expect a hel of a lot from often 60 odd year old women, sometimes older, i amknackered at teh end of the chidlcare day so these oldsters must be on their knees!why should he get free childcare?

YANBU..... on a similar note, my granmother lives in a sheltersd retirement flat, one of her neighbours, who is 83 looks after her 3 year old granddaughter 5 days a week! she must be exhausted.

Jesus - is an 83 year old capable of dealing with those demands- i would be worried about the health etc of both woman and child
why do people do this sort of thing? presumably cost.