to think my DB and SIL should sort out their own child care?

[dilemma456]

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How cheeky thoughtless and rude - although best to stay out of it.

Perhaps tell your mum that you can't believe how cheeky he was for asking.

YANBU your brother is being VV U
My Mum has not had a job outside the home and always told me that she would not be looking after my kids as she had plenty to do, look after brother, dad, animals and of course play golf with her friends
I accepted this, she had to help my sister out one day a week for about 9 months but this was just 1 child, her first DCG. Once my DD was born we shared a nanny and Mum just helped cover. Both her and my Dad are great at grand parenting especially now that he has retired and are always willing to help out, provide a taxi service etc. However they would never want to be committed to one day a week every week.
I hope your Mum gets her day off as planned

I hope your mum thoroughly enjoys using her day off doing what she wants and doesn't get guilted into helping them out. How incredibly presumptious of your brother and his wife.

Your brother is a TWAT, sorry if that offends you but he is showing no consideration at all.
Is the other granny moaning that she does most of the chilcare and your mum has it easy.

Does your Mum have hobbies that could fill a free day a week such as swimming, walking, kepp-fit etc? If not encourage her to get one so she can have a day to herself without a demanding child on her hands. A child who may well miss his nursery friends.

When I worked I hated the fact I was out everyday and missing out on things to do for me. I had 2 DC's at home so I was either working or mothering. If I was near retirement age I would definitely want a ME day.

The granny shouldnt have to be inventing "reasons" why she cannot undertake this job (and it is a job plenty of people earn decent livings from childcare). Her time her life - a straight no should do it.

My parents were clear right from the start that there was no way they would be bound in to doing any proper formalised childcare that we would rely on. They are fab and are happy to help out for the odd day/evening here and there when it suits them. The rest of the time they are seeing their friends/pursuing their interests/backpacking round the world. We are grateful for anything they can offer. After working lives spent well working and looking after children this is their time. This granny will step in presumption on the part of some selfish parents makes me so cross.

Your brother is BVU. I am that anyone could possibly make that assumption. Are you sure your mum hasn't said something about looking forward to spending time with family, which could have been taken the wrong way?

As for 'they'd already given notice to nursery'- what, in the 24 hours since your mum told them? I can't imagine that the nursery had then immediately allocated the place. And if they had, thats their problem.

I hope your mum spends her day off doing beggar all and enjoying some peace and quiet!

Blimey - an dthought certain members of my family were bad.