Should children stop playing in the back garden after say 8.30pm?

[Owlingate]

You know most people don't let them out in the morning until 8am or 9am at the weekend? Does the same apply for the evening? Mine are trying to sleep in the back bedroom and next door's four year old is yelling and banging her toys on the concrete...

I do tend to get unreasonably annoyed about things disturbing my children's sleep but would I BU to ask the parents to keep her quiet? she should be in bloody bed

Just so not by stealth - we live in really small terraced houses so can hear every noise in every room not just back garden.

aha - I'm with you now.........btw I think you usually hate me, but I do agree with you on this thread

HATE oyu fudgester?
i cant remember anyone i have a row with
HAVE we rowed? was it passionate?
PLEASE LET IT BE SO and over something triviale

well.....I don't think we've rowed.......but you've never much seemed to like me and have been very sarcastic and what not on many threads I've been on in the past........

well if that's who I think you are.........

oh how thrilling
i must admit i have had NO OPINION about you biscuit style but now i will STALK YOU and agree all teh time

My friend and next door neighbour told me recently how envious she was of my brothers and I when we were younger as her mother would send them to bed at 8pm no matter what time of the year it was - and during the Summer holidays they could hear us playing in our yard (even though we live a quarter of a mile away)!
As they got older, they got furious with their mother as to why we could play outside late and they couldn't - but she never gave in.

I don't understand why she was so strict. FYI, the late bedtimes didn't do my family any harm.

YANBU OP - I want my DC to grow up to be considerate people and while I don't give a toss if next door's child is up until midnight, I don't want to hear it. When you live in terraced housing you should be considerate to your neighbours and that means teaching your children that too.

Have you got good double glazing in their room? Its quite cool by 7 ish these nights so you could keep the windows shut. Maybe consider putting in a bit of secondary glazing to keep noise out? I think it would be reasonable to ask the mum if she could keep her lo a bit quiet after, say, 7.30. No harm in asking her nicely.

YABU its up to the parents what time they put their children to bed. I put my dd 3 to bed at 8, if it was earlier she would be settle until about 9, and wake up about 5am no thank you. With my dd the earlier to bed the earlier the wake up!

Longer they are playing faster they will fall to sleep as they will tire out besides when i was younger if i had a specific time i'd always want to break it but once i had no limits i took advantage at first but then started going to bed before my original bedtime as I'd tired out.

Have to say that I am far more disturbed by adults passing and talking on the pavement immediately outside my bedroom than by children playing in the garden: for one thing adults have deeper voices. And their voices are nearer to my bed (very small front garden so it's almost as if they were sitting on my bedside). Would it be reasonable to ask the adult population to observe a curfew?

adults walking past the house aren't an almost continual noise (unless you live on a very busy street) ........and personally I have to say I find high pitched voices much more disturbing that lower ones

It's pure bliss here right now, with the single glazed windows at the front (and my chair right next to the window. I can hear the odd car door slamming, and occasional cars going past, and a few people walking by every so often.

But it's calm and peaceful, something that it wouldn't be if my (or other peoples) children were playing out......

My lovely next-door neighbour who is in her 80s complains if she CAN'T hear my children playing in the garden - she thinks I keep them in too much!

Tis a bit annoying though if you are trying get your children to bed.

As someone who suffered 3 years of the most incredible noise between the hours of 3pm and 1am every night of the week, I do get where you are coming from.
My old insane eveil nasty cowneighbour used to let her Dcs play outside at midnight. She would join them and sing ABBA songs (badly I hasten to add)
I came on here one night after 18 continous nights of no sleep till gone 2am, and I moaned about the fact that she was vacuming her living room at 10pm. my god did I get flamed.

God, hell is other people, really.

If I had 10p for every inconsiderate, selfish, thoughtless twunt I've lived next to, I'd be rich.

Mostly, I've had to deal with drunken music/parties all night.

god I miss not being able to hoover at 10pm (or later) - the noise in this house just travels too much

T&F - yes but her hoovering was just her being F*** awkward.

lol I know - I'm just reminiscing about the "good ol' days" when I would be hoovering and ironing and clattering around at 2am in the morning

I remember a few occasions when you were on here at midnight and later. I was often unable to sleep due to either her noise or pain

same here, toc! when we were renting that detached house in the middle of nowhere.

it was an insomniac's dream, man!

i could hoover at 2AM, sing, do DIY, play guitar, etc.

you can hear the next door neighbour closing the fucking door in this place!

i keep saying, 'God, whatever I did, I'm sorry!'

We never hear the neighbours in this new place. Thank goodness, after 3 years of that feckin racket.
And they are semi detached

I firmly believe all this is to punish me for how I lived my life.

It just seems a circle of shite, sort of like recycling toilet water.

yes - I think I remember too.

oh expat - that must have been so cool.

I could hoover where exH is now living as well. Walls were thick enough not to disturb.

But here - meh. Walls too thin, and the sound just travels round the house and the dyson would wake the boys up without a doubt >

expat - don't be daft. It's not your fault.

It's the fucked up way this country is that hard working people like yourself, on low incomes are forced to live next to scum people like that because you can't find landlords that will take HB or nicer placers that are affordable.

It's shite.