to wish someone elses kids slept badly?

[TiredMumZzz]

My dc3 who's 1 still doesn't sleep through - not for lack of us trying absolutely everything. Have a friend whose kids sleep really well & always have; obviously thinks it's me & that I'm just whinging about it & doesn't understand how bloody knackered I am...
Is it just me that wishes people like that had to suffer too...

Nah, I do it all the time.
A plague of baggy saggy eyes to you all, and a few more grey hairs to go with it. Why should I suffer alone?

You could wish it on me, only my ds1 is 3 and still wakes us up several times a night.

I think more children wake during the night than they let on.

I know what you mean. DD is 7 and still having night terrors. If I mention it to anyone they:
a) look at me as if I'm mad
b) state that their dc have slept through from 4 weeks old.

Great, really helpful, thanks

Lots of sympathy coming your way>>>>

Ooh nooo cheggers, I'm hoping bribery will work by age 3!!

i feel your pain, lets hope that by 4 he is improving! go to the sleep page , you are not alone

Pfffft! Who are these mythical children who sleep? I'm hoping my two will start sleeping at some point before they finally leave home...

There you go, you feel better already now don't you? [grin}

Or even....

Better enough to stay up with a drink for a bit longer against my better judgement! Thanks guys...

DD (8) has real sleep issues - she can't go off before 10pm - she will lie there with her eyes shut and resting but just not sleeping. She's a very academic child who thinks quite deeply about things and I think she probably finds it hard to switch off. Once asleep though - she stays asleep.
DS (5)is a different kettle of fish. He has probably slept through about 5/6 times since birth. We've resorted to semi-co-sleeping; he goes off to sleep in out bed, then I move him back into his own bed when I go to bed. Then at soome point in the night (usually about 3/4am) he'll creep in. Sometimes I wake and notice and most often I don't. DH works away all week so DS knows there's room!
I have tried all supernanny techniques but none worked so far

YANBU - everyone else must feel our pain. DD started sleeping through occaisionaly at 18mo - she now at 2.5 sleeps through but doesn't go to sleep until 8 - 8.30 gives us grief at bedtime most nights and generally wakes at about 6am.

My friends baby was an excellent sleeper - she used to lie at toddler group - I think this is the only decent thing to do - also downplay a good birth to all friends who had a nightmare ditto if you had an easy pregnancy.

I had a (whispers) netmums - meetamum date with a woman who had a fabulous pregnancy a quick and easy home birth and a dd that slept from 6 weeks - we didn't met for a second date..

i think that babies that sleep through at 6 weeks are urban myth no?

wonder I dont blame you, at all. misery loves company

I may get woken several times a night but tbh I don't feel tired. I think I'm used to it now. When ds1 did go through a phase of sleeping through (which didn't last long) I felt terrible after it ended because I felt all frustrated with him because I knew he could do it! Its much easier when I just go with the flow and accept it for what it is.

We do musical beds quite a lot in our family as well, ds2 co-sleeps with us so if he wakes for a bf I just roll over and do it, rather than having to wake properly. When ds1 wakes I go into him and cuddle up to him and fall asleep there.

I also go to bed at 10 to 10.30 every night. No late nights for me. I don't drink much either (if I do, I really feel it the next day in terms of feeling knackered).

I never look at the clock in the middle of the night either.

gecko is 3 years four months
the longest stretch she has ever slept is 6 houors and that was last week but I only went to bed three hours before she woke so I didn;t benefit

also dd2 only started sleeping through 6 months AFTER gecko was born

so 5 years 2 months of 2 to 3 hourly wakings

apart from the six hour stretch that I didn't beneift from

feel any better?

((hugs)) Trinity

ummm, my twins were sleeping through from 3 and half months and DD1 from three weeks!

I completely understand OP, makes me bitter and twisted when friends mention their DCs sleep from 7 to 7 or some such thing. We have had 4 years of 4.30am wake ups ie up and wanting to start the day, not as in have some milk and go back to sleep. (Both DCs woke early.) That has got better now, its mostly 6 am these days, but my oldest (5 years) wakes anything from 1 to 6 times every night now for all manner of reasons. Sigh. I have given up ever expecting to get a decent nights sleep again.

It has brought out the worst in me. A friend who had model DC1 sleep wise (slept 7pm-8am from about 3 months!) has suffered with Dc 2 and part of me is almost glad

Porca - nope... mine has been sleeping through since he was 7 weeks (now almost 2.5). Wakes up occasionally of course but mainly sleeps happily from about 8 to 6.30-7.

mine baaaad sleepers. No restful sleep in 8 years. And it shows

YANBU

I haven't had a single uninterrupted nights sleep in over 4 years!!

First dd1 who is 4 was an awful sleeper - only recently stopped waking regularly in the night.

Also have dd2 now who is 19 months old and co-sleeping and breastfeeding several times a night.

By the time dd2 was born dd1 was no where near sleeping through and then it all started again.

FWIW I recently visited a friend of mine several times in the evening as her DH works away sometimes. She always fed me the line that her 2 year old had been going to bed without a problem and sleeping through since tiny.

Every night when I arrived at the house I could hear the little girl screaming the place down before I even got to the front door.

It seems my friend's idea of the little one going to bed no problem means she puts her in the cot, closes the door and lets her get on with it.

One night the dd screamed for nearly an hour.

It made me realise that I am happy with my choice to co-sleep etc.

My DS is 20mths and we still have at least one waking episode each night. He sleeps through very occasionally but pays us back for that by getting up at 5am, the little monster...

YANBU

I have DD1 who has probably only slept through the night a dozen times in her almost 6yr existence.

DD2 (4yrs old) is pretty good, and did sleep through from about 8 weeks, but she has been a nightmare to deal with (temper/overtired) because DD1 insists on waking her up at the god-awful hour of the morning she gets up.

DS (2yrs old) used to be a good sleeper - slept through about 8mnths old, but has resorted to waking in the night for "juice" and up for the day at 5am in the last few weeks.

I long for the day that I wake up and it is because I have naturally woken up, and it doesnt say anything before 6am on the clock!!!!