To think my 11 month old shd be strapped into his buggy?

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My DH keeps going off with him with the straps undone. I re-strapped him before they headed off, pointing out that the babe could slip out/under/bang his head and was greeted with a sarcastic 'Thanks for the horror story' before they went out of the door. I am being too fussy? Too health-and-safety conscious? Looking on the dark side? Possible, as am knackered. But hate sarcasm.

I should add that I don't think it's that he forgets - DH just doesn't seem to think it's important.

YANBU

We forgot once. ONCE. While we were on holiday. We went down a step, and she got tipped out onto the floor. No harm done but she got a terrible shock, she was fast asleep at the time, and aged about 2.

He should use the straps for sure. (And I'm pretty relaxed about stuff generally)

YANBU.

I forgot to strap DD into hers at about the same age... the buggy got stuck in a pothole as we crossed the road, and I gave it a shove to release it- as I did so, DD flew out of the buggy like a rag doll and landed face first on the road. I have never been so scared in all my life. We both screamed.

Miraculously, she only suffered a bump to the head and some grazes- had a car been coming, it would have been a very different story.

The memory of it still makes me feel sick

he needs to use the straps!

Does he always use the car seat belt? Is he someone who feels 'constrained' by what he considers to be silly rules for the little people?

Very easy to catch the pushchair and bump the child onto the floor, I've done it but with my older child. Would never risk it with a baby!

DD was in a footmuff- it offered no protection at all.

altinkum.... i'd be careful if i were you! i've seen more than one baby (inc my own ) wriggle down under a bumper bar... even in a cosytoes!

OP- yanbu! i once sat ds1 in his buggy when he I stopped to look at something in a shop, he would have been around 10 or 11 months and had been walking but i wanted him to sit still
of course he immediately leaned over and fell out onto his head. The lump was gigantic and he was inconsolable for ages. thankfully he was fine, but it was so easily avoidable

Thanks for the replies. There is a footmuff and a bar, but he can def slip under the bar as I've seen it happen. Possibly the footmuff would then contain him though, but it's not completely secure and I can see him wiggling through the join and out or the bottom. Or being thrown out the top.

does he not wear a seatbelt either ?Does he not use the car seat for DS?

does he thikn accidents happen to other people?

YANBU

that is why buggies, prams, highchairs etc have straps, to strap the child in and protect them

yes, i've sseen the loola.
if you feel ok using it that's fine! but babies can get out of the smallest spaces if they want to!

Show him the thread?

maybe after there have been afew more replies saying how unreasonable he's being?

I mean I am the least helicoptery parent I know, and I use the straps. It takes 2 secs, it's not like it's a PITA.

Is he one of these blokes who thinks to be seen exercising caution is not masculine?

If he wants to take risks for himself, that's one thing, but he shouldn't take them with his baby. Not ones where there is no upside to taking them. Like climbing a tree or sometihng.

I don't strap my 17 month old in. I don't use the buggy often but think I did use the straps at 11 months because he didn't object to being strapped in then (he doesn't like it now). For me the key thing is that I know he's not strapped in, so am careful with curbs etc.

Doesn't sound like OPs DH has done a risk assessment as thorough as yours altinkum!

I was waiting for a bus once with DD in her pram (I have a Stokke) - it pulled in and stopped and then suddenly started again when I was about to get her on. It stopped again, pram was a bit off balance already, I span the pram round fast (in a bit of a panic), the wheel caught on a paving stone and the whole pram fell over. Thankfully DD was strapped in and perfectly safe although surprised - that taught me NEVER to forget not to strap her in as you have no idea what might happen!

Your husband should definitely strap her in, he's an idiot not to. My DH was a bit lackadaisical about the straps until that happened as there is a bar and footmuff, but now he is really careful.

Havnt read all but YANBU to think baby should be strapped in.. Foolish DP if he carries on will have a severe accident on his hands. I.E. baby falling out and banging head badly.

STRAP IN
STRAP IN
STRAP IN until big toddler is out of buggy completely !!!

I've seen children tipped out into roads and i've seen children fall out of trolleys too when they aren't strapped in and stand up when their parents backs are turned. It happens, its easily preventable. Good luck with your dp, if he reads the thread he'll likely be more narked.

Jesus. No YANBU. Your DH should not be allowed out with your DC until he gets it through his thick skull. He's an idiot. If I were you, I would tell my HV and get someone in a position of authority to come down on him hard.

I often take dd out in her 3 wheeler unstrapped and am extra careful on kerbs etc.

She sometimes likes to stand up in it though, facing me and hanging on to the hood! (which I admit is quite dangerous )

on at least 2 occasions with dd1 i have caught a front wheel in a pothole, so the pushchair stopped, but i carried on walking. the pushchair tipped right over so dd was face down, luckily she was strapped in both times, so she was completely unhurt (although much less likely to go to sleep which was undoubtedly the point of being in the pushchair in the first place.

I saw a child fall out of a buggy onto her face right in the middle of the road - her dad hadn't strapped her in. Poor little thing her face was all bruised and covered in blood, plus all the traffic had to screech to a halt as he was dodging across a main road. Stupid man.

People who are deliberately careless with their children are stupid.IMO

My DS1 decided to climb into his buggy while I was sitting watching the grand prix one day. He sat there for a bit, quite comfortably and then for some reason just sat forward and toppled out of the chair, landing on his head (?!). Unfortunately he had a toy car on the floor and landed on it and gave himself a big gash.

I managed to get it stuck together with paper tape and thought he would avoid a scar. However that week he then decided to run into the bathroom, trip, headbut the toilet bowl and ended up with a massive lump that took a few days to come down, and gave him black eyes for a few days. The lump was right on that sore which promptly split open and couldn't be sealed shut because of the swelling. He now has a noticeable scar on the forehead .

I saw a woman in a motorised wheelchair clutching a toddler to her whilst crossing a quite busy road. Now that's dangerous!