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To have drunk a glass of wine.

71 replies

LynetteScavo · 11/06/2010 18:56

DH phoned to say he is leaving the office, and is on his way home.

Way-hey , I thought, and poured my self a glass of wine (which I've downed quite quickly)

He's now phoned to say he's run out of petrol (serves him right for always thinking he can drive around with the orange light on) and that he is going to walk to the nearest petrol station with a his petrol can (which he has in the car)

I said "I would have come and got you, but I've had a glass of wine, so I can't)

He said "Fine" in a narky tone, and hung up.

Is it really that unreasonable to open the wine? I have warned DC to be careful becuase I can't drive them to A&E if they need to go. (They were sliding down the stairs in their sleeping bags)

OP posts:
compo · 11/06/2010 22:41

I bet you think all lone parents should never chill out with a glass of wine of an evening Rousse

SoMuchToBits · 11/06/2010 22:48

Well, I don't drive anyway. So i usually have a glass of wine or so in the evening. If anything happened to ds then either dh would take him (if dh hadn't been drinking) or if we had both had wine, then we would get a taxi. But I would never have drunk so much I would be incapable if I had to turn up with ds at A & E.

SoMuchToBits · 11/06/2010 22:52

Incidentally, I fractured my wrist when I was nearly 11 (fell over in school playground and landed on it hard) and my parents (who hadn't touched a drop) didn't believe there was anything wrong with it.

Three days later went to the GP who referred me to the hospital for the next morning. Went there and returned with arm in plaster.

So you don't need to be under the influence to disbelieve your child's injury!

FakePlasticTrees · 11/06/2010 22:53

Rousse - did you not read the OP correctly? She had one glass of wine, not one bottle. Unless she's very small, she's not over the driving limit so in the situation when her DC needed to go to hospital, could still have driven them. Lets be honest, if OP really wanted to, she could have gone got her DH.

I would need more than a bottle to not know that a child was in pain. You, however, might well drink like an American and be incapable after one glass, but don't assume everyone's a lightweight.

Valpollicella · 11/06/2010 22:58

YANBU

Jeez Rousse. It's not like the OP is paraletic (sp??). She is being sensible by not driving after having some wine.

Preeeety damn sure she's sure of all her faculties and could tell if there was a fire, or one of DC fell down the stairs or whatever other disasters are going to befall her before her DP gets home.

While I'm here,....neither me or DP drive. Does that mean we can have a drink (not 'get drink of an evening, as it would have no effect on whether we'd be able to drive DS to the hospital should anything happen? As either way we'd have to call a friend, family or an ambulance?

Rousse, one glass of wine ( or two, or three) does not a piss head make. Surely you know that?

JackBauerDeservedAHappyEnding · 11/06/2010 23:01

Ooh Rousse, aren't you a barrel of fun?

YANBU and I have done the same, DH once had to walk 3 miles home because I had had a drink, he was out and lost his card so couldn't get money for a cab and I had no money in the house.

chipmonkey · 11/06/2010 23:03

Rousse has ishoos.

clam · 11/06/2010 23:06

Rousse, calm down! I was exaggerating. She said she'd banged her arm but wasn't particularly distressed by it. And she was using it pretty normally. Turned out to be a tiny knick on her elbow. We'd probably had a couple of glasses by that stage. And although it was a couple of days before we realised it wasn't any better and we should get her checked out, i didn'tean we were over the limit all that time!!! I promise you we are not that irresponsible!

JackBauerDeservedAHappyEnding · 11/06/2010 23:10

hah, my boss at work was on a work thing and fell in the shower banging her arm, this was on a Thursday night.
She went to A and E on the next Tuesday to be told she had broken it in 2 places! She wasn't in that much pain.
Until she came back from hozzy with it in plaster we all thought she was winding us up saying it was broken

cornsilkcottagecheese · 11/06/2010 23:12

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Rousse · 11/06/2010 23:13

I do believe that Lynette had warned her husband that he need be careful as she would not be capable of driving her children to a&e if there was an incident.

So, to post that her husband, who had just finished work, run out of petrol and asking for help from his wife, to be told that, actually no help from her as she is laying into the wine, and btw be mindful that his children were at risk, and to get home and recieve a burnt dinner and her rallying contempt from her cyberfriends to justify her actions, I find that she is being very unreasonable.
She needs to maybe reflect on her actions and have more thought for her husbands feelings.

But then, from the quality of the responses,I suspect that she will be wrongly reassured that all is well.

hmm

Hulababy · 11/06/2010 23:15

Rousse - do you enjoy a glass of wine ever?

I have enjoyed more than one tonight. If my DD sould be to fall ill I would call a taxi. DH is here, however if not and we had this problem he'd sort himself out in terms of getting hime.

Having a drink at home on a Friday night is not a crime.

Rousse · 11/06/2010 23:17

Clam.
I am calm thank you, just an opinion.
your daughter sounds fantastic that she can have such an injury with little or no complaint.
Good job really.

cornsilkcottagecheese · 11/06/2010 23:18

Troll

Rousse · 11/06/2010 23:19

Well Hulababy if your message made any actual sense then I would have the utmost respect for you.

Valpollicella · 11/06/2010 23:20

" to be told that, actually no help from her as she is laying into the wine, and btw be mindful that his children were at risk"

Errrrr

Nooooo...

She wasn't 'laying into the wine'. She'd had a glass. Which may well have put her over the limit for driving (DRIVING) so she didn't go to get him. Sensible woman, surely?

'btw be mindful that his children were at risk'

How? Cos she'd had one glass of wine? Do you want my adress so you can call SS as in your books DS is 'at risk' right now from me and DP having had 3 glasses each

Rousse, are you male or female? Just wondering as the point about a burnt dinner makes you sound either like a 50's autobot wife or a bloke who is pissed off about coming home to find his wife has had a glass of wine, and his dinner is a bit overcooked as it's been in the oven too long

cornsilkcottagecheese · 11/06/2010 23:20

Have reported you rousse

LadyCad · 11/06/2010 23:22

Morloth, I like you, you're funny

JackBauerDeservedAHappyEnding · 11/06/2010 23:24

Okay, if we are talking abotu this reasonably...

You leave work and call your wife, who has had to deal with the children all day, to tell her that you are on your way and she will have an extra pair of adult hands to hekp with bedtime etc.
You thne realise that, due to driving around with the bingo light on, you have run out of fuel. This is your fault, you are a nobber.
You have to walk to the petrol station, through no-one's fault but your own. You ring wife and she say no, I;m not getting into the car and coing to rescue you from your own stupidity, and anyway, I have had a glass of wine and it isn't safe.
You walk to petrol station, get fuel and get home. To dinner that isn't burnt and a wife that is not in a temper that you are hours late because you are a numpty but is faintly amused thanks to cyberfriends cheering ehr up.

How's that roll for you Rousse?

SoMuchToBits · 11/06/2010 23:25

Anyway Lynette YANBU because for one thing there is that thing in a car called a PETROL GAUGE which should have prevented your dh from running out of petrol in the first place.

And also there are lots of families who only have 1 car - if that had been your family and your dh had the car you would have had to use a taxi/bus etc to get your dcs to hospital anyway if your dh wasn't home. Then if you had had a glass of wine it wouldn't have made any difference - you wouldn't have been incapable after 1 glass of wine.

Rousse · 11/06/2010 23:25

why is that cornsilk? Can't take debate? Uncomfortable with challenge?
You post it as a kind of threat. You are the one who has been aggressive to me, posting offensive messages.
I won't report you as I believe that people have the right to speak freely as long as it is not offensive.
Telling someone to "fuck off" is offensive, maybe it is you that has issues.

Valpollicella · 11/06/2010 23:27

So Lynette, pretty much established that YANBU. Hope a second or third glass is going down just lovely right now.

Hulababy · 11/06/2010 23:28

Rousse - which part of my post do you not understand?

I believe I made two typos

sould = should
hime = home

However, I make these typos with or without a drink; I simply type fast and don't proof read for MN stuff generally.

However, despite these typos I belive my post if legible and the meaning rather clear. However I can clarify if you really feel my post is incoherent.

I can get a taxi easily should my Dd be ill tonight. If I was a non driver this would be necessary anyway. Are non drivers likewise irresponsible?

If my DH was out in his car and broke down - he is capable, as an adult, of calling for car breakdown help or a taxi himself.

There may be further typos above - as I say, I type fast and don't always proof read posts.

SoMuchToBits · 11/06/2010 23:30

Agree with you Hula as I am a non-driver. Dh drives but he is not always here of an evening. If any emergency occurred when he wasn't here, ds and I would have to get a taxi. That's just the way it is.

Valpollicella · 11/06/2010 23:31

Are you ok Rousse?

Are you seeing things?

Have you had a bit too much to drink this evening?

because I can't quite see where Cornsilk told you to 'fuck off'

Please do point me to it

Yours, maybe not sober but definately not drunk,

Val