AIBU in not taking care of my DHs needs?

[Glitzy]

Am a regular/lurker but have name changed. Can you settle this agrument for us. Basically, when it's "that time of the month", do you all take care of your DHs "needs" in other ways, or do you just wait till the all clear? (the usual way is a no go)

I only perform sexual acts if I feel like it. DH can take care of his own 'needs' if he wants to. I am not obligated to perform sexual services for anyone.

What Eric said, although we just carry on throughout the monthly curse, except the first two days.

Don't let it interfere at all - usual way or others, depends on what we both feel like at the time. Never take care of DHs needs, he can do that for himself.

So how often do you feel like it?

I used to for XP, he was very good at making me feel I was responsible for his sexual happiness

In future I wouldn't do anything unless I actually wanted to. So no I wouldn't do it just because a DP wanted some relief. That's what porn is for, surely? However if I felt in the mood for some giving I probably would I always used to have sex when on my period though, I find it a bit odd when people don't want to. (Although can be slightly uncomfortable on the first couple of days)

Ya see, my problem is during the monthly curse, i just dont feel like doing anything, so my DH gets no "attention" from me, and now my DH feels all unloved and distant from me, and lays it on every month. Have told him will post on here to see if i should be making more effort

Surely though he understands that it's just a temporary hormonal thing and not a reflection on him?

I'm moody and in a lot of pain then so he's on his own.

The last thing I want is to be touched or to touch anyone else.

Just give me chocolate and leave me alone.That's all I ask.

i too dont feel like doing anything whilst on my period, dh understands and reespects this. If he made me feel guilty and laid it on because i wasnt taking care of his needs, i'd tell him where he could shove it.

I'm not up for anything during my period generally. If I'm horny we might have a snogging/groping session but it depends on mood. DH is quite happy to cuddle if that's all I want - doesn't stop him from feeling 'loved'

Well.. you see DW, it was 2 nights ago that you said 'Friday night is an@l night@, I thought that was very charitable of you seeing as I knew you were 'on', then tonight I learn that I am actually not 'on a promise', you was just refering to conversations on mumsnet.. well imagine my dissapointment to find this out.. all I was referring to was that i now have a sackfull due to 3 days of picturing the fun we gonna have on Friday, now it's all off.. i was just trying to get a bit of your special love at a time of the month that it never usually happens.. I still love ya tho'... even though Friday night is probably just football / rugby night now..... p.s. dont leave your p.c. logged onto mumsnet whilst upstairs on the toilet.... sorry about spelling mistakes / punctuation.. just trying to type this fast before you finished upstairs. xx

I'm that you are all at it so regularly that the 5 days of your period is a long time to go without! Feeling v inadequate now and hoping DH doesn't see this thread and get ideas

Sorry... PC hi-jacked! as usual man gone totally off subject. We were chatting the other night about MN, and i merely said Friday nights was bumsex night! And he knows it!

Dh knows better then to try during my period, but he does ask daily "how's your tummy today" my answer is "frig off"

friday night is anal night? PMSL glitzy's DH! You should know that anal is only something you can do when you really feel like it, you can't be on a promise for anal, it's a permanently retractable offer!

ew he needs to get over himself a bit

lol glad im not the only one who just doesnt want to know at this time of the month.

Hmm, Mrs Glitzy. Sounds like you have a treasure there.

All of a sudden, my DH, who I was furious with on a wholly unrelated issue, seems like a good catch.

barf at friday night is anal night on mumsnet. how this site has fallen.

Wow - what a charmer!

Um I think he was joking.