I was talking to an old friend about my new neigbours. They're a couple slightly older than us with 3 daughters. We've had dinner with them, been out to lunch time drinks, spent evenings round theirs etc. The younger 2 girls I don't see a lot, but the older one (17) my husband and I see a lot as our gardens are quite exposed and she's always out in theirs as we are in ours. Usually we have a quick nod and a "hello" before carrying on with our day. Recently my DH got chatting to her, and found that she is really into similar video games to him, and has a fab sense of humour. She's basically me, but 15 years ago! It's all very nice and friendly, and it's great we have neigbhours we get on with. so when they went away for the week leaving the DD alone, I thought nothing of offering her a meal one night. She came over for a few hours, played with our DD and stayed a little past our DD's bed time. We had a bit of a nostalgia evening (oldies that we are) playing old video games.
In chatting to this old friend, I explained how great it was to have friendly neigbours, and how well we all get on, surprisingly enough even with the 17 year old (kids these days, you know) when my friend made a comment about us grooming her! I was shocked, and actually felt a little sick, and still feel really uneasy about what he said. AIBU to still be stewing on this weeks later, or should I just forget the off the cuff comment?
How would you feel if you were our neighbours? I thought they liked that we all got on, that there was someone here for her daughter if she needed us and they weren't there. We all chat over a glass of wine over the fence and my DD asks to see her DD's and her dogs! I'm doubting myself, wondering if all my friends have to be in my age group, and if having young friends is inappropriate! Am I unknowingly crossing a line here? Or do you think my friend was out of order?