I don't quite know what to do but am very slightly freaked out.

[SolidGoldBrass]

My neighbour (who has SN) keeps putting flowers through my letterbox. I am pretty sure it's the neighbour because of the type of flower ie it is the one that grows in his garden. Also, the neighbour knocks on the window repeatedly when I'm in the garden hanging the washing out.

I am currently just ignoring it all, but I am slightly uneasy. The neighbour has some kind of fairly severe SN, appears to live with at least one carer and have others visit. if we pass in the street I sort of nod and smile, and once or twice they have taken parcels in for me (and once one of the carers knocked on the door to ask if the pair of trousers the neighbour had flung over the fence into our garden could be returned).
I don't think he's at all dangerous, but is there anything I could/should be doing?

That's what we were saying she should do Colditz so I don't understand the posts about 'demonising' people with SN though I know you didn't post that.
Did anyone suggest calling the police? If so I think that'd be a major overreaction at this stage.

I think the thread has been hijacked slightly - it wasn't originally about the 'demonisation' of people with SN and nobody wants people with SN to be socially isolated. This was about a specific situation.

None of us have seen the OP's neighbour banging on his window, and we can't judge from her general description exactly what it is that is freaking her out - but something has clearly made her nervous and it would be silly and wrong to dismiss that completely. Yes, her neighbour has the right to be treated with respect, whether his intentions are romantic or 'just' friendly. And the OP has the right to feel safe. Hopefully everything will turn out fine without hurt feelings and heavy-handed interventions.

Green banana- very sensible post.

I definitely won't be calling the police. I don't feel in any danger at all.
If it keeps up I will try to have a word with one of the carers.
FWIW if it was a male NT neighbour putting gifts through the door I still wouldn't be very keen. Unwanted attention is unwanted attention, after all.

SGB
i think that is sensible.

Nearly all ofthe carers involved with DS2 understand him and are trying to help him cope with life whilst enjoying it. They help him understand where the boundaries are. For him this is very simple and would not involve his feelings being hurt IYSWIM.

I am only saying that as you expressed some concern about his being aware that you were talking to his carers.
Don't forget they will not be embaressed or expressing any disapproval - they will be simply explaining to him that it is not ok to do and he should stop.

DS2 is a lovely chap and likes to hug people. It isn't sexual or worrying but it obviously can be alrming for those who don't know him.
We just worked with him on the rough notion 'hugs are nice with family but not with other people' and he got it.

They should no how to handle it without you having to worry about it anymore