To not give my ds any dinner?

[GoHungry]

Namechanged to protect my regular name from the flaming I might receive.

Ds was invited over to a friend's house today to play and then for tea. About quarter of an hour ago the friend's mum rang me to collect him as he was refusing to eat any tea because it was not yet 5:00.

So I have collected him, and have told him I am utterly ashamed that he has behaved so rudely a someone else's house to the point I have been asked to bring him home, and that given he'd been offered tea and turned it down he won't be getting anything now until breakfast.

He's seven btw, so plenty old enough to have some decent bloody manners.

Gosh,I would get phoned up early on every playdate my ds goes on if this was the norm.

When my ds comes home, the mum will say, he had only had a sausage or he hasn't eaten much but no-one makes a fuss of it.

Same with me, if my ds friends don't eat then its not my problem.

Think I would definately be wary of sending him there again - she sounds very unhinged.

ok - he had a bowl of pasta followed by pineapple and now eating home-made biscuit.

Colditz I hadn't thought of it like that but you're absolutely right.

Don't you find that children will eat less at someone else's house as they are usually too occupied/excited about the new surroundings/toys etc??
Getting anything in is a bonus I think!

YABu to withhold food, but very odd the oterh mm ringing you - what does it matter if he doesnt eat ther. As others have said, if he was downright rude then punish him for rudeness, but not for not wanting to eat, and never deny food...

"But if a child has no dinner and assuming they've had no snacks then by the morning they won't have eaten since the previous lunchtime! "
I know, and that's what has always worried me! but I thought the general attitude was it wonb't kill them to miss a meal.
I agree though, have never yet sent DS to bed without any food, it would be awful to be lying in bed hungry

Of course yabu. It's not your son who's behaved badly here, it's the mother.

if he eats between five and six fifteen usually then he probably just wasn't hungry at 4.45 and maybe he didn't express this as politely as he could have but he is seven!

I have had children not being hungry when they come for tea before. I say to their parents that they didn't eat much.

She sounds weird and very uptight.

YABU and both over reacting.