to hope my DD is a lesbian?

[foreverastudent]

I've just read yet another F*ing awful relationship thread on here. OMG!

If the relationships it seems that these Mumsnetter have, are typical of relationships then I hope my DD is a lesbian!

The though of her growing up and ending up with one of these w*s/b**s is seriously depressing me.

Were men always this bad? Will our sons be any different.

Examples of behaviour:
attempted murder
physical abuse
controlling behaviour
lying
cheating
not pulling weight re: chores and childcare
not sharing money evenly
not respecting partner
emotional abuse
blackmail
verbal abuse
rape
acting like a child
not taking responsibility for actions
running up secret debts
drink+drug abuse
addiction to porn
'using' lapdancing clubs

My DP is wonderful - and I tell him so ALL the time

YABVU - you should hope your DD is happy no matter what her sexual orientation.

ditto lamplighter x

IME there is a higher percentage of DV in same sex realationships than in opposite sex relationships.

YABU and a bit silly

Isn't the point of the relationships board that it deals with situations that are not typical? I mean, women don't tend to post unless they are having relationship problems. The vast majority of us aren't having serious problems at any given time. If you form an opinion about half the population based on a board which exists for people in dire need, then you're doing them a huge disservice.

PigletJohn - I leave the cupboard and fridge doors open when I'm cooking too! I'm a terrible wife clearly.

I also realised earlier that in the only abusive relationship I know of, it was a woman who was the abuser.

YABU - was chatting to one of my new agents the other night, he is gay and told me he used to be in a very abusive relationship which fucked him up mentally - hence why he is now trying homeworking. Happily he is with a different man who is lovely

I would be satisfied with my ds growing up and meeting someone who cared for him and who he cared for - regardless of their sex/age/gender/sexual orientation.

And we don't see enough posts of how wonderful our husbands/boyfriends/partners/girlfriends are.

My DH is pretty damn wonderful he has put up with a lot of shit from me. And I know 100% without a shred of doubt he would never cheat on me.

Well my DH and DF do none of the things listed above and neither do anbody else's DH I know.Do you live in an episode of shameless?

You forgot to add;
failure to observe "good wanking etiquette".....something of a MN hot topic!!

FWIW I thank my lucky stars for DH every day aand hope my 2 DS will be of a similar character.

I'm lovely. I'm none of those things on the list. If I ever try women again I'd be a perfect DP.

goodness, this op possibly takes the price as Most Ignorant Op of the week.

Judging by the only two lesbian relationships I have known (in my circle of friends), yabu on all accounts. Bitchiness, jealousy, manipulation, abuse, it happens. In addition, you have to cope with the usual of problems of not fitting into the genderstereotypical norm, and complaints from your mils that there are never going to be any "proper" grandchildren, wail!!!

YAtotallyandprofoundlyBU!!

what a stupid thread

Lesbian brutality aside...

I think boys do not become abusers unless they are parented in such a way that allows them to become abusers

My sister is gay and her relationships with women have been far more abusive than any she had with men before she 'came out'.
You only get bad threads about men as I wouldnt dream of starting a thread to tell you my DH is lovely - where would I put it ?
I agree with dilysprice lets just teach our dc that they deserve to be loved and appreciated and how to spot a tosser. (goes for ds and dd's)

oldandgreynow, Shameless, ha made me snort.

I stopped reading Relationship threads a while back because I was sick of reading about dreadful blokes doing terrible things. Mostly I just want to say 'dump and run because you do deserve better'.

However, foreverastudent I really hope you will instead give your son and daughter plenty of positive messages about how men and women can and should happily live together.

Sorry, YABU - as has already been said, lesbian relationships are not always perfect, far from it in many cases. You have 2 lots of PMT per household every month for starters

Far better in my view to wish simply that your DD has a happy and fulfilling life, be that straight or gay, single or in a relationship.

There are an awful lot of shit men out there, without a doubt. As a mum of 2 boys I'm doing my best to ensure that neither of them fall into that category as adults.

appreciate your dh/dp here

YABU and talking twaddle