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AIBU?

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Original poster

to want ds2 to stay at home again today? DH is really pissed off with me :o(

29 replies

Greensleeves · 08/06/2010 10:39

ok so ds2 had a rash yesterday on his chest/back, which looked a bit like a rubella rash, and a swollen gland

so although he didn't seem ill I kept him off school and took the day off work

this morning dh took him to the doctor - if he needed to be off again, dh was going to work from home so I could go to work

apparently the nurse said he could go to school

she also said he is on the tail end of a viral infection and his ear was a bit inflamed

I checked his rash when they got home and there are new patches on his back, but his chest looks better

so now dh and I are in a cold war - I think he is only 5 and could use another day at home resting - I don't want him to go to school with a rash/inflamed ear because 1) he will be exhausted and 2) all the other kids will have brought their germs after half term

dh thinks he should go to school because he hasn't got a temp and the nurse said he could go to school

I think dh is thinking about himself having to miss work

dh thinks I am being ridiculous

OP posts:
GypsyMoth · 08/06/2010 10:41

i think he should go to school too....

BreevandercampLGJ · 08/06/2010 10:42

I think he should go to school.

Flisspaps · 08/06/2010 10:43

If the nurse says he can go, then let him go. If he doesn't feel ill, he should be ok. Just ask if they can contact you straight away if there are any problems.

wannaBe · 08/06/2010 10:43

if he's not ill, and you said in your op that he doesn't seem ill, then he should go to school.

fanjoforthemammaries7850 · 08/06/2010 10:43

He is probably fine to go, rashes can appear at end of viral infections when virus is GONE and glands can stay up for ages.

megonthemoon · 08/06/2010 10:44

if nurse says he is well enough for school, i'd probably send him to school. tail end of viral things can linger for ages. what will you do tomorrow and thursday and friday if he still has the rash?

coppertop · 08/06/2010 10:44

If he's not actually feeling ill and the nurse has said it's okay, I would send him in.

hobbgoblin · 08/06/2010 10:46

send to school but I too buy into the whole 'the more rest and recovery they get the stronger their immune response to all the other bugs that will come his way as school starts again' notion.

DaisymooSteiner · 08/06/2010 10:46

I'm sorry, but I think you're being ridiculous too. One of my kids is particularly prone to viral rashes/generally being a bit spotty. If she had a day off every time I'd be getting letters from the EWO and I would have been sacked.

I don't think it's a good lesson to be teaching kids that they can have the day off for the slightest little thing and sets them up for problems as they get older.

I also think that if you're that bothered you should be taking the day off, not your dh.

MarthaQuest · 08/06/2010 10:57

YANBU, I'd keep him home too-kids are more vulnerable to picking up other illnesses when they are still recovering from infection.

He's only 5! a nice day at home would be good for him

MrsGravy · 08/06/2010 10:57

I'd send him but ask the teachers to call if he seems at all unwell. I think you're being unfair on your DH assuming he's got his own interests in mind here!

belgo · 08/06/2010 11:01

he should go to school. There will be plenty of times when you or your dh will miss work/leave work early or work from home when your children really are sick.

minipie · 08/06/2010 11:02

what's wrong with your DH being worried about missing work?

there are a limited number of days that you or DH can take off work. You and DH should save them for the days your child is actually ill, which doesn't sound like it's the case here.

AvadaKedavra · 08/06/2010 11:05

YABU - if he does get ill the school will call.

herbietea · 08/06/2010 11:09

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Bramshott · 08/06/2010 11:13

I think if your DH is going to be the one missing work then it's probably his call.

clam · 08/06/2010 11:23

YABU. Send him in. Although I guess the decision is probably made by now.

36years36years36years · 08/06/2010 17:19

Well did he go ???

shimmerysilverglitter · 08/06/2010 17:35

Well I wouldn't send him if he wasn't on form. I just don't get this militant 100% school attendance required attitude on MN.

If small kids can't relax and take the odd, unnecessary day off at this stage in life when can they for crying out loud?

Hope you kept the poor little blighter off OP.

Original poster
Greensleeves · 08/06/2010 18:38

No he didn't go in

thanks for all the advice

OP posts:
activate · 08/06/2010 18:41

LOL

thanks for all the advice, none of which I took

good for you

but why ask in the first place

minipie · 08/06/2010 18:55

so who took the day off work? you or DH?

and did your DS feel poorly or has he been fine?

just so's we can judge, you see

violetqueen · 08/06/2010 20:23

bit late ,but quite agree - he's your kid ,if you think another day at home is best for him ,do it !
glad you kept him off

grapeandlemon · 08/06/2010 20:25

I wouldn't have sent him in - kids need to recover properly or they just catch the next thing going and end up in a vicious circle.

shimmerysilverglitter · 08/06/2010 20:29

Well OP did take some of the advice because some of us advocated him NOT going in.

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