to think that a Stag Week is taking it too far?

[TreeTrunkThighs]

DH is to be a best man some time soon and we were talking about the speech and Stag Do at the weekend.

He mentioned that, as organiser, he might look at arranging a week abroad for the Stag Do.

I made it very clear that I wouldn't be happy about it, but obviously can't stop him if that's what he wants. He thought I was being unreasonable, but I'm not really am I?

A long weekend is enough, surely?

yanbu. But I am an old fart who has refused to go on any hen nights and will probably never get married so never have to deal with a stag night either.

"approached by 40-something women, when they'd all been eying up the scantily clad 21 year old nymphettes" That is sooo my DH!

I'm glad it's not just me. Thanks for the ammunition: I will drip feed in whenever it gets mentioned. Usually the best approach with DH.

The cost is going to be the best angle I think...recently the Groom's brothers turned down a night out because of cost so I think that's going to limit where they can go and for how long.

YANBU. One night of having assorted, splayed vaginas and silicone breasts shoved in their faces is enough to suffer in the UK, let alone a week. You hear of these men going away to drink, pull and have sex. It's sad and unimaginative, is that all they can think to do?

It's always another person's husband having the sex and enjoying it though on these weekends too, isn't it? How many times do men say 'Oh god, it was so gross, all the women were so ugly, I only went along to keep Jim company, I sat in a cafe outside most of the time, oh and I missed you so much and here's a present, I bought you at the airport.'

You're not being a prude if you say that you would rather he didn't go if it upsets you. In their minds, these banal men believe that they're still 18. They haven't had to suffer pregnancy, childbirth, the tedium of some aspects of childcare and the lack of independence from not earning as much money and rather than appreciating their wives for such a sacrifice, they assume that their lives can continue as though they're still single, in many respects.

Unless you're also doing the equivalent, I'd say you're getting a raw deal. Why does having fun with friends have to equate to some sorted of Loaded or Zoo weeekend? It seems really unloving. They must know that it makes their wives feel insecure (unless the wife is supremely confident and has some flirty male friends!)but impressing their male friends takes priority over their own wives.

I second most peoples opinions here. A week ? Ridiculous. Far too long . Think of the cost and the DP away while you cope on your todd. A night or if it has to be two days. A whole week is taking the piss.

at 'having assorted, splayed vaginas and silicone breasts shoved in their faces'!