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To think that 12 is to young to get bellybutton pierced

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mumoffourgirls · 04/06/2010 09:30

My DDs best friend got her bellybutton pierced the other day, she has only just turned 12. I spent all yesterday evening then in an arguement with DD over why she cant have hers done. I told her I thought she was to young and she could get it done when she was older if she still wanted to, she said all her friends were getting it done and she would be left out, then she decided she was going to ask best friends mum to take her to get it done and then she said she was moving out. I told her if she didnt stop going on at me about it she would be grounded this weekend and I would be taking her phone away. Would you let your 12 year old get theyre bellybutton pierced?

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steamedtreaclesponge · 04/06/2010 09:35

12? WAAAY too young in my opinion. Most reputable piercing salons won't even do body piercings on under -16s.

HanBanan · 04/06/2010 09:36

yes and not legal. Greater risk of infection too.

slushy06 · 04/06/2010 09:37

All my friends got it done at 12 my mum said no. I left home and got it done myself at 13. I agree that 12 is to young but it is possible all her friends have got it.

OnlyWantsOne · 04/06/2010 09:37

Yes

It is too young.

End of.

God, I had to beg / bribe / lie to my mum to get my ears done at 13!!

Lauriefairycake · 04/06/2010 09:38

No I wouldn't, think it is ghastly on a child. I would allow them (but try to talk them out of it) at 16.

belgo · 04/06/2010 09:39

Far too young, and higher risk of complications from bell button piercings.

Rindercella · 04/06/2010 09:40

Yep, far too young. YANBU.

Is she your eldest girl? If so you have stuff like this to come another 3 times

BigBadMummy · 04/06/2010 09:42

Not legal without parental consent and make it clear that if she goes with the other child's mother (who is sounds like is going to pretend to be able to give parental consent) report them all to Trading Standards.

If she wants this at 12 what is she going to be demanding at 16.

Not an easy situation for you to be in at all, I feel for you. But I think you need to be strong, explain that this is not you just saying "no" for the sake of it, but for valid reasons, and then stick to it.

Good luck.

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mumoffourgirls · 04/06/2010 09:44

Yeah she is the eldest others are 5 4 and 5 months, so hopefully a long time before it all starts with them..

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Jamieandhismagictorch · 04/06/2010 09:52

80 is too young, IMVHO

GetOrfMoiLand · 04/06/2010 09:52

Urgh yuk. Yes it is far too young.

DD's cousin had her belly button done at the age of 12. She is now 14 and has her lip and nose done, and that funny bit of your ear.

It looked hideous. DD realises that there is absolutely no point in asking if she can have any piercings other than ears.

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mumoffourgirls · 04/06/2010 09:54

DDs best friend is the youngest in her family her siblings are 16, 18 and 21 and I think her mum is just letting her grow up to quickly.. I tried to talk dds best friend out of getting it done when she was here the other evening but she said her sister (who`s 18) had got it done and her mum said it was only fair she got it done aswell...

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mumoffourgirls · 04/06/2010 09:57

DD has already asked if she could get her tongue pierced a while back, I didnt need to say any thing the look on my face said it all

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kreecherlivesupstairs · 04/06/2010 10:06

Jamie, you took the words out of my post. The net went down as I was about to post the same thing. Soooooooo pleased I am not the only one to dislike it. Intensly.

Alibabaandthe40nappies · 04/06/2010 10:06

Gah disgusting. I think belly button peircings are horrid and make you look like a prostitute.

kreecherlivesupstairs · 04/06/2010 10:09

While I think they are horrid, I don't think that you can make a judgement about prostitutes from it.

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mumoffourgirls · 04/06/2010 10:29

Two of my DDs aunt had theyre belly buttons pierced and one went septic and made her really ill, I have told her this and explained that i didnt want this to happen to her but it didnt change her mind, she still went on and on I think the fact that her best friend was standing there at the time made her more determined to get her own way. She thinks cause im 30 and alot younger than her friends mums im going to give in easier...

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cory · 04/06/2010 10:30

Nope. Have told dd (13) that any body piercing will only happen after she is 16 and then only if she pays for it. Not my job to pay for something I dislike.

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mumoffourgirls · 04/06/2010 10:33

DD said she would pay for it to be done.. I still said NO

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menetta · 04/06/2010 10:37

Totally agree that 12 is waaay too young!! Had always been under the impression that reputable piercers wouldn't touch anyone under the age of 16 with a barge pole. I agree that if your daughter comes home sporting a belly piercing, or any other kind that you have not taken her for yourself then you should report the woman, the store and the piercer too, as it is not your signature on the consent on the guardianship form.

I have both piercings and tattoos, got my first when I was about 21 (after a lot of deliberation) and would never even think of letting my children have anything done (if they ever wanted to) til they are old enough to A. be of legal age B. go to a reputable place C. be able to take care of whatever was done D. were doing it for themselves and not just because their little friends were oh and E. afford to pay for it themselves (am mean that way).. kind of off topic a tad lol

tyler80 · 04/06/2010 10:40

I think some of it depends on what you think your daughter would do if you put your foot down. If I really thought she'd do it behind my back I'd prefer to go somewhere reputable with her than have her go somewhere where they would do it without parental consent

Wordsonascreen · 04/06/2010 10:40

Do you know your dd's best friends mum?

I'd be speaking to her pronto to let her know that you in no way agree to any piercing.

TBH I'd find it very odd if anyone would agree to take someone elses child to have that sort of thing done without checking first.

Species8472 · 04/06/2010 10:41

Far too young, and surely not legal anyway? And it looks awful IMVHO.

BottleOfRum · 04/06/2010 10:46

Definitly too young! I got mine done at 15 (used older sister's ID as they wouldnt do under 16's!) and the salon went on and on at me saying that young people haven't finished growing yet, so if you pierce the belly button and they keep growing, it could rip all the skin when you grow and you'll end up with massive scars over your belly. Plus it makes sports at school hard - I heard a story of a girl who got it done, then did a 'front drop' on a trampoline at school, and the peircing got caught in the tiny gaps in the trampoline map, and ripped out the peircing when she bounced back up! Eugh!

Just try and find lots of under aged peircing horror stories, and keep telling them to your DD.x

TrillianAstra · 04/06/2010 10:49

What menetta said. When you are old enough, can pay for it and take care of it yourself.

I got mine done at 16. Don't think I look like a prostitute .

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