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To think that 12 is to young to get bellybutton pierced

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mumoffourgirls · 04/06/2010 09:30

My DDs best friend got her bellybutton pierced the other day, she has only just turned 12. I spent all yesterday evening then in an arguement with DD over why she cant have hers done. I told her I thought she was to young and she could get it done when she was older if she still wanted to, she said all her friends were getting it done and she would be left out, then she decided she was going to ask best friends mum to take her to get it done and then she said she was moving out. I told her if she didnt stop going on at me about it she would be grounded this weekend and I would be taking her phone away. Would you let your 12 year old get theyre bellybutton pierced?

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slushy06 · 04/06/2010 10:49

I didn't take my friends mum I took a friend I had who was 18 and told her my mum had said yes but didn't want to see it done. I also refused to tell my mum where I had it done and when my mum tried to take it out it started bleeding so much that it went back in I paid for it out of my money. Needless to say I was grounded for two months and all pocket money removed ( which didn't bother me because I had my own job).

I would be careful my other friend who also had not been allowed attempted to do it herself and ended up in A+ E. But I didn't have any other piercings, I took good care of it and was responsible with it but as I said I wouldn't let my dd have it done but I would be wary of how far she is willing to go to get it done.

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mumoffourgirls · 04/06/2010 10:50

I do know DDs best friends mum and I know she wouldnt go behind my back and take DD to get it done. I was just suprised that she let her own DD get it done, she took her and signed the consent forms, you have to be 14 to get it done.

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2blessed2bstressed · 04/06/2010 10:55

Waaay too young - and they're just awful anyway! DP's daughter -also 12 - had same argument with mum and DP couple of weeks ago, but fortunately they agreed with each other (v rare!), that NO WAY was she getting it done. I backed up that with many piercing horror stories, and her bf that she was wanting to get it done with now has an infected, weeping mess on her stomach. DPs daughter thanked her dad last night for not letting her.....we did victory lap round the garden to the strains of the Hallelujah Chorus!

ruckyrunt · 04/06/2010 11:04

i can't get my head around why anyone wants holes in thier body, ears, eyebrows belly etc all weird to me but my dd have ears and dd1 had belly done at 16 after much research on her part, dd2 had ears done at 8 years old and thy went funny and then she did them again at 9 but she doesn't like belly rings

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mumoffourgirls · 04/06/2010 11:22

DD had ears pierced when she was 8 and doesnt even wear her earrings any more. Hopefully she will forget about it soon, just wonder what shes going to ask for next..

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Cloudbase · 04/06/2010 12:54

NO way

  1. It is illegal
  2. It is extremely painful
  3. It is illegal
  4. Oh yes, it is illegal

Has her best friend really had it done, or is this playground one upmanship?

I would be really surprised if any reputable piercer would do it on a 12 year old as it wouldn't be worth them losing their license, surely? Unless the mum did it?

tyler80 · 04/06/2010 13:06

It's not illegal in England to pierce under 16s (only genital piercings and nipples on girls)

Decent places will set their own age limits but this can still be under 16 with parental consent.

Personally I found navel piercing less painful than ear ie not at all

I think there are reasons to dissuade children having these piercings, but misinformation and horror stories aren't it. It's like saying drugs are bad without acknowledging there can be pleasureable aspects

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mumoffourgirls · 04/06/2010 13:43

She has really had it done she showed it to me yesterday..

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NonnoMum · 04/06/2010 14:24

When my DD was a newborn, her belly button became infected (was treated with silver nitrate??) so then went black.

Obviously, being my PFB, thought to myself that although it was horrible and disgusting, would only be a beautiful untarnished belly button until she was 14 (and would go behind my back to get it pierced).

Your DD is two years earlier than I would have generally anticipated.

Her friend's mum sounds like an idiot though, for offering to take her...

MrsSchadenfreude · 04/06/2010 15:55

Belgo, I misread your typo as bell end piercing. Ahem.

ThatVikRinA22 · 04/06/2010 15:58

too young.

16 would be the absolute youngest i would allow it and then under protest.

NonnoMum · 04/06/2010 18:49

Actually - been thinking about this.
Change tack...

Say, "Of course body piercings are up to the minute and a must-have accessory for every woman/girl (and not at all nineties) so I've been thinking about it and I'm coming with you. Do you mind if I go first, sweetie, and I'll tell you if it hurts. And then on the way back we'll buy some mid-riff tops (not at all too 80s) and I'll get mine out all the time, especially when your friends are round. Oh, and for PTA meetings.

And the school run."

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