to be shocked and concerned about a 12 yr old having a tattoo?

[ShockedandConcerned]

Name changed.

Someone i know has allowed her 12 yr old Son to have a tattoo done. This was done at home by her DP (not the boys Dad) who has his own tattooing kit. He isn't qualified in any way that i know of. He bought himself a kit do his own tattoos to add to the ones he already had.

Is this even legal?

She said she didn't say no but said she wasn't keen for him to have one!

I am worried she could get into trouble for allowing it to be done. How will he keep it hidden once back at school doing PE etc?

And as lolapoppins said, if it's been done incorrectly (which being as the guy doesn't have any training, is quite likely) laser removal may not work very well anyway. I am very for the kid......

im with thepinch of salt brigade im afraid.

BUT if genuine yes it would be considered ABH possibly even GBH.

tattooist would be arrested and charged and mum could quite possibly be charged with neglect.

this is a very serious offence and you absolutely MUST report it.

I can assure you that if this is real, the school will go ape shit anyway and they will bring in everyone they can.

Please report it, that man need to see how seriously illegal and immoral what he's done is.

I love tattoo, when they are done by a talented, trained, professional person. Otherwise they look awful. And on a 12 yo? Horrifying.

Absolutely horrifying. A 12 year old cannot legally consent to have a tattoo and the parents cannot override the law by consenting to it either (it's not like piercing which can be done under 16 with parental consent). I would definitely report it.....the poor kid!

please call the police or social services for advice if you are unsure, but you should just be calling the police. this isnt acceptable at ALL.

I can see how people would be a bit about this. But i am 100% regular on MN and have been for years.
I know he has a tub for needles so sure he is safe that way.

I am hoping that once school is back, someone there will notice it. Although he will probably have a note for PE so that he doesn't have to do it!

If i phoned SS would they give me advice without me giving my or their details? Don't want friend to get in trouble over this.

LMFAO
dont believe it for one second

shocked and concerned, i dont think you realise how serious this is. your friend SHOULD get into trouble. because if she condoned it, then she is an awful mother, and if she didnt, then she might be trapped in a relationship where she feels unable to say no and getting social services involved may unable to uncover that problem.
im sure SS would give you help without asking for details, but they will try and persuade you to tell you who it is or call the police.

How can i prove it to you without saying my normal MN name? I am a genuine regular MNer. Used to be on the FLY threads a lot.

"Don't want friend to get in trouble over this."

Maybe she should have considered that prior to letting her 12 year old be tatooed by his step father.

Ridiculous.

"The Tattooing of Minors Act 1969 makes it illegal for anyone to tattoo you if you are under the age of 18 - although the offence is with the person who carries out the procedure, rather than the person who asks for the tattoo."

Britfish I do realise this is serious and i know her DP is emotionally abusive and probably did ignore her if she said no or she felt she couldn't say no, although her DS wouldn't listen to her either. I can't stand him.

shocked, please call SS. do you want your friend in this kind of relationship where her child gets tattooed against her will and she feels unable to say NO. there is a child involved, a crime has been commited, and he is not in a safe environment. im begging you, call the police or SS. your friend might be able to get out of this relationship if her other half is banged up!

So it sounds like your friend is failing to protect her son from this man.

are you so far the only one who knows about the tattoo? unless you are, you can tell police without them knowing who it was. surely somebody would report it sooner or later, it may as well be you. the sooner the better especially if there is emotional abuse, and if the boy has picked up something nasty

i have an almost 12yr old, the idea of him picking a tatt of a heart with a mum in it is ridiculous, im sure he would rather die
the whole thing smacks of an episode of the simpsons
why am i bothering posting, coz i think this is a load of crap

Kaloki beat me to it - it's normally a minimum £1000 fine (which would arguably be better spent on lazer treatment)

usually, those of us covered in tattoos are very very precious about under-age tattooing (even if we did it ourselves at 17 and a bit!) i am absolutely disgusted that somone with a lot of their own tattoos would consider doing that to a child.

tattoo kits aren't toys. in my (extensive!) people who aren't trained experienced tattooists simply can't do a decent tattoo. it must look like shit. I'd contact social services in a heartbeat.

persephone, i have tattoos myself, im really concerned why the OP didnt ring the police straight away
recent case

Brit Fish ugh! hands!

I knew of a case up here (Glasgow) where a 14 year old got a HIM heartogram on her hand. Her 12 year old sister got her nipples pierced (arguably not as bad in some ways, far far worse in others) I spent a couple of days going around tattoo studios handing out the 12 year olds picture and warning tattooists away from her - because she genuinely did look 18+. That was a few years ago and most reputable tattooists now card anyone who looks under 25. I can see the argument - not valid in the OP case, that a deceptive wilfull selfish child with no thought of consequence for themselves or the livlihood of the tattooist would get a tattoo because they want one.

i've lost count of the amount of 16 year olds I hear of going into tattoo studios with their parents insisting they can get tattooed because their mum is with them. and then the parents kicking-off when they can't get what they want.

Only people who know, as far as i know, are Me, friend, her DP, their 2 close friends (Who are in a relationship) and i assume the other 3 DC (ages 7,8 and 3).

I haven't phoned anyone because it would point straight back to me plus i have my own 4 DC at home and can't do it in front of them.

As i said, i have no way, that i can think of, of proving i am not lying on here. If anyone wants to give an email address i would happy tell them my MN name via email.

What happens to the family if you report it to police, does the DP get community service, a criminal record that might screw up his job prospects, potentially ditto for the boy's mother? Might the boy even be taken into care if either parent got a custodial sentence (because we all know what a lovely experience that tends to be)?

Now, if you think the family unit is so screwed up that all of that would be preferable to the alternative, then fine. But think VERY hard about the chain of unintended consequences that you might be unleashing by contacting police/SS.

Oh, meant to add my 13 and 10 yr olds also know so once school is back it will no doubt get out.