Basically my MIL died a couple of years ago prematurely, both her and my FIL were early 50's. FIL had spent his entire life being looked after either his mother or my MIL and has no idea how to pay bills, cook, clean, iron, just basic fundmentals of looking after yourself as a grown up!
When MIL died FIL's main concern seemed to be who would look after him. He was constantly moaning that he had to come home from work and cook and clean for himself. This is a grown man in his 50's, not a doddery old 90 year old from a completely different generation.
Anyway, he decided he needed to remarry to avoid having to do any of this and then declared he'd looked into it and realised that MIL was one of a kind and that in general English women aren't subservient enough and wouldn't do all the things he expected of them. So he has looked into and married an Asian internet bride who is about 25 years younger than him!
They came to visit us last week and to be honest I was appalled, he expects her to wait hand and foot on him, he won't allow her to work because then she can't wait on him, and whenever she did any fetching and carrying for him in our house, he just kept giving such smug looks to us behind her back. It was awful! I should also point out that this is a guy who regularly moans about immigrants and is fairly racist.
To be honest, she seems quite happy with the arrangement, but I think the whole thing is awful. AIBU???