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Cameras on nights out...and then the pictures on fb.

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spybear · 01/06/2010 14:13

I went out on sunday night, vaguely remember my friend had a camera.

Yesterday i got a text saying "the pictures are up girls"

Went onto FB and it is full of pictures from sunday, no one wants to see them selves when they are drunken and hideous. There are pictures of me drinking from a jug FFS.

I know you are probably thinking 'Why get drunk then? its your own fault'

Well I had tons of fun and I wasn't THAT drunk.

How do I tell people to leave the camera at home without sounding like a killjoy?

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FrameyMcFrame · 01/06/2010 14:17

let's see the pics then!
Sounds like you had a great time!

MrsWeasley · 01/06/2010 14:19

I know what you mean

Although, had a "do" recently and everyone afterwards are commenting on me drinking a lot of wine as I always seemed to be refilling my glass. Then the pictures were put on FB and loads were of a friend (who wasn't drinking!!) swigging my wine! LOL

Don't worry these will be forgotten very quickly when the next lot get put up.

My friends are fine if someone says they dont want their picture taken or don't want to see them on FB so maybe just mention it next time.

mummysgoingmad · 01/06/2010 14:23

my friends and i always edit the pictures that go on fb before they actually go on. if i take one of the girls and they don't like it then it stays in the camera.

sounds like you had a fab night though

WombFrootShoot · 01/06/2010 14:24

Do your friends "tag" you in the pics?

We have an arrangement amongst oursleves that there is to be NO TAGGING by others, fine if you want to tag yourself obv.

Over use of the tagging word tag there. Sorry

MuthaHubbard · 01/06/2010 14:28

i am usually the one with the camera, i like taking pictures and capturing memorable moments!

though i always warn those i'm with i have a camera. i always show whoever i've taken the pic of once taken incase they want it deleted and if they don't want the pic on facebook to mention it to me.

Lynli · 01/06/2010 14:28

I go out looking fabulous and slim, and my DDs post pictures of some fat woman who looks strangely like me. It is most annoying.

MuthaHubbard · 01/06/2010 14:32

plus if i'm the one with the camera, it's less likely i'll be in the photo!!!

totalmadness · 01/06/2010 14:34

Tis just a bit of fun, think of the fun you'll have when your eighty looking back at the pictures....

EveWasFramed10 · 01/06/2010 14:38

ROFL Lynli...I have the exact same problem!!

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spybear · 01/06/2010 14:40

I know what you mean Muthahubbad.

I thought i looked quite nice, but pictures show me red faced, overweight and hunched backed!

I did de-tag myself from the worst ones, but we mostly share friends, so everyone sees everything!

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MrsChemist · 01/06/2010 14:47

Can't say it bothers me, TBH, but I know it's about personal preference.

For instance some knob person tagged me in a picture from when I was 13. I hated the way I looked then, and considering they weren't even a fb friend, I was especially annoyed.

I think they should leave the tagging up to the person in the photo, although it is taken as read in my social circle that if a picture is taken, it going to be on fb.

iamreallysilly · 01/06/2010 15:00

I dont like it myself, would prefer to be asked first if didn't mind pics bein published, its a bit annoying. Can't really 'let your hair down' anymore with this kind of thing

rubyrubyruby · 01/06/2010 15:02

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notquitenormal · 01/06/2010 15:08

And you have the added problem of needing more going out outfits. I went on 3 unconnected nights out just before christmas. As none of the people overlapped I wore the same outfit to each, but now all the the pctures are on facebook it looks like I've only got one top.

I've discovered that I'm just about shallow enough for that to bother me.

dorisbonkers · 01/06/2010 15:15

Can't help as I neither do nights out OR facebook.

glacierchick · 01/06/2010 15:22

It's definitely not unreasonable to ask for them to be removed (or better not put up in the first place).

I went to a beautiful gay wedding last year, where one of the grooms came from a country where homosexuality is illegal (not just technically but really illegal, as in thrown in jail if caught practising illegal).

They had to send a message round afterwards asking people to remove some pictures and not to put anything further on facebook in case of future hassles.

I had never thought about it in that way before.

lovechoc · 01/06/2010 15:22

don't do FB so can't really help.

2blessed2bstressed · 01/06/2010 15:55

Not found this to be a problem - other than wondering how I grew so many chins in the taxi on the way out when I only had one when I left the house!
What bugs me are iphone (other interweb telephony machines are available from all good retailers) addicts who post photos complete with comments when we're still out! Just put the damm thing away and actually experience the night, gawd knows they're few and far between these days!

starsareshining · 01/06/2010 16:12

It irritates me too. I've honestly been on nights out where the whole purpose of the night seems to be getting a new album on facebook. They're almost pretending to have fun for a photo and then going back to normal. Or there are lots of photos of them being KERAAAZY when the night was nothing like that. Maybe the people I'm out with are more obsessed with cameras than most but I don't want a camera in my face every few minutes.

allaboardthepottytrain · 01/06/2010 16:45

YANBU - As these days employers vet their potential employee's FB sites and we are all likely to be FB 'friends' with our bosses and other colleagues. I don't think you'd really want anyone you work with /would like to work with in future to see you drinking cocktails straight out of a jug (even if it does sound fun ).

I'd tell your snap happy friend that and get her to at least untag you (or can you do this yourself - spybear?)

TartyMcFarty · 01/06/2010 17:51

I find those 'great night out' photos really tedious. I know I don't have to look, but I'm incredibly nosey. They're always disappointing though.

Funkycherry · 02/06/2010 01:05

I'm normally the one with the camera - sorry.

I've also been on the receiving end of unflattering pics going up.

I think if people are good enough friends to take pics of you, they shouldn't mind if you politely say 'please remove.' I've asked my dad to remove a few he's put up of me before. One of my friends recently sent me a message saying 'Got some pics of your wedding, mind if I post them.' I thought that was a lovely thing for her to do.
I also have a couple of friends that I know hate their pics going up, so I respect their wishes. So I'd make it clear to people that you don't want to see pics online.
As for the tagging, if you un-tag yourself, I'm fairly sure FB has recently changed so that you can't be re-tagged in that pic by anyone.

PortiaNovmerriment · 02/06/2010 01:10

I hate having my picture taken- I just don't let it happen if I can help it.

toccatanfudge · 02/06/2010 01:13

haha me too Portia...........although this did prove slightly problamtic recently when trying to find an at least half decent photo of myself for a dating website

BitterAndTwistedChoreDodger · 02/06/2010 01:18

Portia - why would you not want photos of you?

You're hot!

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