well I fell pg with my first (extremely planned - if a little quicker to come along than we expected) child at 20. Ds2 came along when things were going swimmingly, DS3 came along when things were tight, but we worked hard and got ourselves out of the hole we were in.
Now I'm 31 and living on benefits, we 3 children on my own, was living on benefits with exH for a while last year
I tell you 10yrs if you'd have told me that in 2010 I would be a single parent living on benefits, and that my exH would also be out of work and on benefits I would have laughed in your face. Even 5yrs in 2005 when we were living on £15-20 a week, I would have laughed at you.
I soon stopped laughing when I found myself one of the statistics. And know several others who are in my situation at the same age.
I know a young girl (she's 19 now, her fiance 18 - they've been together 3yrs) who is 20 weeks pg. It wasn't planned, but she did want children in the future. She's living with my BF that I mentioned above, with her fiance.
Are they rushing out to get a council house? Are they looking forward to a life on benefits?
Hell no, her DP works, sadly just lost his job at the mechanics, but is still doing pizza delivery and has just increased his hours to make more money before the baby is born. They're looking for a private rent, close to where I live, because she wants her DS to go to s a good school, and have a good future ahead of him.
Of course there are the ones I see around town who don't work, who sit loudly proclaiming how they're on the list for a bigger house, and all the rest of the stereotypes.
But they're not all like that, personally I don't know any of the young single or older gimmers like myself who consider a life on benefits as a short term, or even a "never" possibility.