Am I being petty about this? You decide.

[Selfishlaptopuser]

I have a lap top. I have managed to keep the existance of this lap top secret from my ex h for over a year now. We also had a family pc so it never really was a problem. Now the family pc is broken and can't replace it right now so ds big gob is using my lap top and has told ex h that I have it. I have not confirmed this just blanked him when ex asks about it.

My problem is this. When we were together ex h had a drink and gambling problem and pawned all our stuff on various occasions, wedding and engagement rings, tv's, Wii, Playstations etc. This is the reason I kept the lap top hidden.

Now he knows I have it he keeps moaning about how petty I am being not letting him use it when he comes round to spend time with the kids (I know everyone will say why is he spending time at yours etc, etc but he has to atm) and how he needs to be able contact me on MSN re kids etc.

So AIBU denying its existance and also refusing to allow him to use it?

i would also block him on msn, otherwise you'll never get any peace! if he doesn't have credit on his phone then he can email you. if he makes little digs in front of the dcs you need to remind him that it is yours and thats the end of it. you are perfectly entitled to have things in your life that are yours and only yours.
he really could man up a tad here too. he's a parent, so needs to sort out parent friendly accommodation, be able to afford to make phone calls and generally stand on his own 2 feet.
he sounds like he pushes the boundaries and takes the piss!

also it's summer (ish) he take take the dcs to the park!

one last thing - i promise! put a password on your laptop today

Don't let him use it, he probably wants to use it for online gambling.

did you go to the cinema with him?????

just wondering if you did as this may be why he now thinks he can have access to other stuff

No I did not go to the cinema with him, I went by myself to see Robin Hood and it was great.

Still nagging me about the outstanding amount on the voucher than can be used for another movie.

It is just him, he thinks he has claims on everyone elses stuff, just the way he is.

Have changed my password, he could never guess it in a million years.

"Don't let him use it, he probably wants to use it for online gambling."

Oh you don't know how true that is!

He came to see the dc tonight, all silent and sulky, didn't stop him making himself a sandwich and eating my food though.