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AIBU?

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Original poster

to be annoyed aat Nursery staff actions?

58 replies

anothersleeplessnight · 25/05/2010 21:03

My ds is at a Nursery, a lovely one and I think the staff that worj with him are great. When I drop off/pick him up from there I tend to drop my dd (6months) in the office for a few minutes to save me carting her up 2 flights of stairs in her car seat while I get ds.

I did that today when I was picking ds up and as I was coming to the bottom of the stairs, a member of staff was coming out of the office with my dd, taking her into the baby room "to change her nappy because she had filled it" apparently. I was quite taken back really. My dd doesn't go to the Nursery and neither she nor I know the staff in the baby room. Plus, I think they should have asked me first! At the time, I just went with it. But when I got home and thought about it, it has really annoyed me!
AIBU?

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autodidact · 25/05/2010 21:27

Maybe the sleepless nights are skewing your perspective! Most people would be v pleased, if perhaps a bit surprised at such kindness.

BlameItOnTheBogey · 25/05/2010 21:30

YABU completely insane.

colditz · 25/05/2010 21:31

They are nursery staff. They have a duty of care, as does everyone who ever provides care on a professional level to anyone, to provide the care as needed, not as paid.

If they have agreed to care for her they are duty bound by the precepts of their career to change her nappy if they know she has soiled herself.

Similarly, a doctor wouldn't watch a child have a fit and not say anything about possible epilepsy to the parents, even if the Gp was just watching the child for a minute.

If my replacement shift doesn't turn up at work, I don't just stop caring, I have to carry on until someone turns up or not only would I lose my job, I would go to court and be charged with dereliction of duty. And I'm only a support worker!

In short YABU. They were doing what you left them to do.

TiggyD · 25/05/2010 21:32

You are being more unreasonable than they are by using the office as a crèche.

chipmonkey · 25/05/2010 21:32

OMG, YABU! How ungrateful!

southeastastra · 25/05/2010 21:34

i do think it's a bit weird though it's a nice thing to do, but they probably should have at least asked you, unless you were gone for ages

though still going with my £2.50 idea

LoveBeing34 · 25/05/2010 21:36

Were they meant to ignore her then? What would you have said then?

booyhoo · 25/05/2010 21:36

colditz has it right.

Turniphead1 · 25/05/2010 21:36

what an odd post. YABU.

Baileysismyfriend · 25/05/2010 21:37

How could you be annoyed about them trying to help you?

mrsbean78 · 25/05/2010 21:37

Why on God's earth would this annoy you?

TiggyD · 25/05/2010 21:38

To be precise, I award the OP 27% unreasonableness and the nursery 2%.

SirBoobAlot · 25/05/2010 21:40

Christ, how ungrateful! It was really kind of them - personally I would let anyone change DS's nappy (he's the same age); if nothing else it would give me five minutes to myself. You've said yourself its a lovely nursery. This is just another example of how lovely it is. They watch your DD for you when you drop your DS off, which they don't have to do. They were taking care of her, and in this instance she needed her nappy changing.

Thediaryofanobody · 25/05/2010 21:41

YABVU! They are helping you FGS not only are they going out their way each day to care for your DD because you can't be arsed to carry her up the stairs. Has it never occurred to you to take her out the car seat?
You should be very grateful to them that they care enough not to leave your DD in her own crap and were kind enough to help you out.

Northernlurker · 25/05/2010 21:44

'Person left with baby changes poo-ridden nappy' is right up with 'Pope prays' as a non-shock headline. I think you need to chill out a lot a little bit.

booyhoo · 25/05/2010 21:44

tiggy, who gets the other 71%?

booyhoo · 25/05/2010 21:46

OP did you ever consider that your dumping your DD might invalidate the nursery's insurance? they could be over their child to carer ratio all because you cant be arsed to lift the child out of a carseat.

Trafficcone · 25/05/2010 21:50

How utterly ungrateful!!

isthatporridgeinyourzone · 25/05/2010 21:53

YABU. They were being helpful and kind - you are obviously fortunate in finding such a nice setting. If you don't trust them to change a nappy - don't leave your baby there.

kolacubes · 25/05/2010 21:58

if you don't trust them to change a nappy, don't leave your ds there for the day!

mumofthreesweeties · 25/05/2010 21:58

What is the world coming to hey when people actually complain because someone was nice enough to care? I really and truly despair. You are highly ungrateful, you dont think twice about leaving your DD in the office under the care obviously while you nip upstairs. They then decide to help you even further by changing your DD's nappy and you moan. Wow.

zapostrophe · 25/05/2010 21:59

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anothersleeplessnight · 25/05/2010 22:15

Ok, pretty overwhelming response there! My main prob was that I have never met the staff that were changing her nappy and she got upset for this reason. I wouldn't say that I "dump" my dd anywhere booyoo, they offer this to all parents of young children, but I do agree, on reflection, that they were acting in her best interests. Could be sleepness nights but more likely just lack of perspective, which I can always rely on mn to give me a great big fat serving of . Point taken ladies

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anothersleeplessnight · 25/05/2010 22:18

sorry, meant booyhoo

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booyhoo · 25/05/2010 22:37

also, you didn't say in OP that it was a service offered by them.