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AIBU to not want To introduce ben10

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Nettiespagetti · 25/05/2010 16:19

To my DS 3.9 and by default DD 19m? Or power rangers or transformers etc? Or am I being but precious?

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NestaFiesta · 25/05/2010 16:24

MY DS1 aged 3.10 loves Ben 10 everything but has never seen an episode until recently. He then decided it was too scary and didn't want to watch it again, but still wants a Ben 10 duvet cover and Ben 10 pants. I'm guessing its peer pressure from nursery and playgroup!

I don't mind him liking the character but not liking the series. They will get into it all anyway whether you want them to/let them watch it or not.

120 · 25/05/2010 16:24

why should you introduce them? not that I know what any of those things are, though I think I remember transformers.

Chrysanthemum5 · 25/05/2010 16:26

My DS (5) and all his friends love Ben10 etc. but they have never watched it. They just enjoy playing with the toys or wearing the T-shirts. Your DS doesn't have to watch programmes you don't think are suitable in order to join in with his friends.

GrungeBlobPrimpants · 25/05/2010 16:28

Do you mean the toys or the programmes?

YABU if you mean the toys. They're favourite toys for this age group and provide hours of fun

YANBU if you mean the TV programmes. They are dire and will turn your brain to mush

UnifyingLeptonsAndQuarks · 25/05/2010 16:28

i actively avoid ben 10 here. we have transformers but that is because of needing something that he had to make and do, but didnt have too many small parts. He got the film much older. He plays all the games at school but there is a no ben 10 in this hose rule. He'll live. so i would say - you are being mad to introduce something, YANBU to not encourage something.

mangoandlime · 25/05/2010 16:31

YANBU

Neither of my boys have ever watched Power Rangers, Ben Ten or Transformers. I've actively avoided them. Ben Ten is a weird programme, one I don't want my kids watching (I had a sneak peak one day to see what the fuss was about)

CMOTdibbler · 25/05/2010 16:36

DS is 4, and hasn't seen Ben10/Power Rangers/Transformers/Spiderman, but obviously his friends at nursery have as he recognises the characters. I won't buy him any of it though, and although he got some Spiderman stuff for his birthday, he didn't really know what they should do, and went back to playing with Princess Pony today

We don't let DS watch channels other than Cbeebies and PlayhouseDisney, and he's still quite happy with that. When that changes, we'll see..

FrancesFarmer · 25/05/2010 16:40

What exactly is wrong with Ben 10? I believe my ds has watched it once or twice but I didn't pay much attention - it seems to be the usual sort of action stuff with monsters and robots.

CheerfulYank · 25/05/2010 16:41

I don't think YABU. I'm kind of strict about what DS watches though...it's mostly Bob the Builder, Thomas, Kipper etc, with old Disney films thrown in for good measure. (Not Dumbo or Fox and the Hound though b/c I think he'd be worried when I started blubbering like a fool )

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Nettiespagetti · 25/05/2010 16:44

Thanks everyone. He has the odd t shirt and watched programme when we were on holiday but it's an awful prog and he says it full of naughty people. That was jan and I haven't put it on at home.
But dh thinks he should cos all his friends are and CIA he bit too interested for DH liking in dressing up as princesses and being tinkerbell!!

So I'm not the meanest mum in town. I just figure if he doesn't like watching beauty and beast (scary) and toy story 2 (Jesse is sad) then is he ready for aliens and fighting?

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2plus2more · 25/05/2010 16:45

We have transformers in this house - not the programme, only the toys - and only because my son (5) really loves all kinds of construction toys so transformers are perfect for him.

Ben 10 and PowerRangers are completely banned. I have watched the programmes and seen the effect they have on all the little boys in my son's nursery (inc my son when he gets in with it all) and I don't like it at all - far too aggressive. My son does like to play with the toys/dress up outfits etc... when he's at friends' houses, but he has no toys/books at home.

We have discussed with him why we don't feel it is appropriate for him to watch the programmes, or to play with the toys, and the fact that it all ties in with any form of aggressive behaviour which is strongly discouraged.

So no - you are definitely NOT being unreasonable.

giveitago · 25/05/2010 16:45

I find b10 a bit scary ds agrees but likes the character stuff ie the toys -not the programmes.

jenduff · 25/05/2010 16:47

Could be worse it could be slutz bratz

jellybeans · 25/05/2010 16:47

Ben 10 is really good I love watching it and power rangers with my boys!! My girls like it too. It's not scary!

2plus2more · 25/05/2010 16:52

OK - just saw your latest post Nettie (we were obviously typing at the same time) - if your son thinks B&B is scary and doesn't like Toy Story because Jesse is sad - then no - he is definitely not ready for aliens and fighting!

As for needing to "fit in" - I don't actually buy that. While I don't think it's fair for kids to be completely separated from their friends and banned from all the popular things - I also don't think it's right that as parents we should feel pressurised into introducing things to our kids that we don't agree with.

HecateQueenOfWitches · 25/05/2010 16:55

ben10 grrrrrrrr My eldest (just turned 11) loved ben10. Mad about it. Pestered and pestered for the dvds. The dvds that are not out here but have to be ordered from usa / from someone who's imported them from usa. The dvds that wouldn't play on our dvd player which meant we had to go and muy a multiregion dvd player.

The dvds that, the DAY the last one arrived through the post, my ^darling son, decided he no longer cared about because he wanted gormiti.

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Nettiespagetti · 25/05/2010 16:59

2plus you talk lots if sense girl!

my DS is wearing his ben10 tracksuit mil bought him and going round the house saying he is 'alien force'

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UnifyingLeptonsAndQuarks · 25/05/2010 17:00

jellybeans - i think it depends on the child. Ds has issues with fiction non-fiction seperation and can get very very upset but those sorts of programs. However, will happily rattle of history and the killing power of tanks thank daddy for the technical tank refit program for that. At three his favourite program was time time, which for some people they would not have deemed it suitable. but for ds it was clear cut and factualy and more importantly i got a break cos he would watch the sodding thing from start to finish, where as he had already declare cbeebies for babies. It is about knowing your child and how they will react.

And i would disagree, depending on what level you are watching ben 10 it could be very scarey. power rangers is just silly and unbelievable imo.

dinkystinky · 25/05/2010 17:04

DS1 is 4 and obsessed with Ben10, Power Rangers, Spiderman, Batman, etc - even though he has NEVER seen any of the programmes. All his little friends are nuts about them too. They know big boys like them and so they like them. DS1 does have some Ben10 books though that he likes to read and the kiddie version spiderman comics (all about helping your friends as far as I can tell) which are a more age appropriate way to introduce them I guess.

jasmeeen · 25/05/2010 17:06

I'm with Jellybeans - I like it and both DS love it (age 7 and 3).

2plus2more · 25/05/2010 17:11

Unifying - your son sounds just like my son! His current obessesions are the Titanic, Napolean(!) and Space (inc space travel). My Dad bought him a DVD documentary called "The Shadow of the Moon" which was basically just all the men who've ever gone into space giving interviews for almost 2 hours and he was transfixed!

UnifyingLeptonsAndQuarks · 25/05/2010 17:34

2plus: Ooh we have that. So glad we live close enough to Joderall bank for us to do regular trips. Need to go back to the national space centre in leicester though. Current obsessions here world war 2, space (has been since he was 2) and science. I think tbh that some of the stuff ds does science wise would have a lot of people going but i dont see the point in making a fuss. animals are bred to be eaten, pigs hearts used to be used for human transplantation, chemicals are dangerous but can make powerful contributions for the benefit. crazy custard is fun messy and very safe (well unless you slip on it on a tiled floor ) Ds is the product of 2 scienctists he never stood a chance really

Thankfully it means holidays are civilised and we do stuff that i might find interesting - museums and stuff. nice to have a balance naturally rather then dragging complaining kids around.

StewieGriffinsMom · 25/05/2010 17:43

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usualsuspect · 25/05/2010 17:48

How can you avoid forever tho?..school friends will play ben10,power rangers etc ..surely your ds will decide what he likes anyway

vicbar · 25/05/2010 17:54

I agree with SGM there are a lot of underlying ideas with ben 10. But it does depend on your child. I have DD (5) who is scared of ben 10 but a DS (4) and DD (2) who love it and say Ben 10 only hurts the baddies. Only you know your child enough to know how they will deal with things.
We have a mum at preschool who wont let her son watch tv at all as its abd influence yet he is the ost violent 3 year old I have ever met.