AIBU to not want To introduce ben10

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To my DS 3.9 and by default DD 19m? Or power rangers or transformers etc? Or am I being but precious?

Ds1 is 4.6 and has not watched any Ben 10 programs, but does have Ben 10 pants and a Ben 10 sun hat from last year. I have no plan on introducing the program in the near future, particularly as recently we have had to ban Scooby Doo as he was having bad dreams about monsters ect!

My DS is 3.5 and hasn't heard of Ben10, despite going to a pre-school with children who have older siblings. He is very fond of Peppa Pig, Ben and Holly and the wonderful Grandpa in my Pocket. I would prefer to avoid it but it hasn't been an issue; we don't watch the channel it is on so until he can choose it for himself, he won't know about it.

ah but in our case ds plays ben 10 at school and can separate that out as fiction, however, the tv program he cant do that with. I know he has watched it once. Ds decides what he like but in a choice between tv and ben 10. tv wins. There is so much else that somethings dont need to be encouraged. I think it is nice that ds plays these pretend games at school. but really cant handle the aftermath of him having watched it. hopefully as he gets older he will be better equiped with the skills needed to watch these programs. It is an issue as he doesnt take things on face value, questions everything and sees things that most kids would even think of being a possibility. He is emotionally too young to deal with his ability to edcationally rationalise things.

Just my two pence worth, but my ds was having real trouble getting on with boys at school, as he was interested in totally different things. By coming on mumsnet, I saw someone suggesting that maybe getting him interested in what the boys at school are would help.

Ben 10 was what they all loved,and since getting ds into it, he hasn't looked back, has loads of friends and fun at school. So a "yey" for Ben 10 from me I'm afraid!

Mine have loved Power Rangers and Ben 10 since 4. I really don't get all the regular fuss on here about it. There's a bit of stage fighting, that's life. Mine have lots of friends and can defend themselves as can I before you all start

This is the sort of thing I worried about with DS1 (almost 9). He actually went through the whole of reception with a Thomas the Tank Engine rucksack and did not care (I asked him if he wanted me to get him a more 'age-appropriate' one and he told me no .) Unfortunately, that changed rather rapidly in Year 1, when BEN10 and Doctor Who were forces of evil against parental wishes .

Now DS3 is 3.2 I must admit I worry less, although I agree if your children are scared of the programmes, then they should not be forced to watch them.

DS2 (5) loves BEN 10 although never watches it, despite asking to see it but he walks away when the cartoon comes on . DS3 goes on about Power Rangers having never seen it, but loves Agent Oso.

hateful Ben10, it's like a plague!!!! avoid avoid avoid!

YANBU. I am so sick of Ben Ten, Spiderman, Lazy Town. DS knows nothing of these things yet his friends all just want to talk about this brain-mashing television stuff.

Yes, I am prepared that some people may call me "smug" when I say that instead of watching Ben Ten or Dora The Explorer today I was taking DS to a museum. And reading him books. What a middle-class twunt I am.

Snobear I take my kids to museums and read books with/to them. But they also watch Ben 10. My younger DS watches it because of the older one but they both love it. And fitting in at the playground is important.

Watching TV and going to museums and reading aren't exclusive activities.

I let my DS 5 watch a couple of episodes of Ben 10 as it was all he talked about when he first started school. He did start enacting the attitude and the action scenes. I nipped that right in the bud.

Turns out, like other posters, he just wanted to play with the gadgets. He asks occasionally but I tell him it's not on at that time.

Transformers, Power Rangers, Bakkugan, all of them just awful. He's now come home saying he's Iron Man, he has no idea who Iron Man is, but there is some little kid at school with a mum who lets him have a telly in his room since he was 3 to "help him fall asleep" and watches all of this crap.

IMO he's too young, I feel sad when the Peppa Pig and Thomas stage finishes TBH

Thanks I am glad a lot of you have the same opinion. I don't mind other kids watching it but i don't want to encourage mine to. I just wanted to check I wasn't being silly. DS thankfully is happy at the moment watching tiny pop and nickjr so I think I'll just wait till he pesters me for it!

Oh god, don't introduce power rangers. They are soooooo annoying.

Hyah hyah.

YANBU, they are toddlers!

DS2 is 6 and has recently got into the whole Ben 10/Transformers/Power Rangers etc thing. He doesn't watch them on TV just likes the character tat merchandise. I think he has been heavily influenced by his friends at school.

Thankfully DS1 (nearly 8) bypassed all that and went straight into a football obsession.

But at 3? They were still into Postman Pat and Thomas the Tank Engine!

no, you aren't being precious

my ds1 who is 5 and a bit has never seen it in his life. He does LOVE it though and has a few of the toys. he plays it in the playground at school and knows the names of all the aliens in it lol.
this is just from talking to his friends about it

Of course you aren't being precious, I may be a v old fogey but have 4dcs who have managed perfectly well without being into any kind of character based toys or programmes.
It hasn't caused any problems with friendships and has saved loads of money so all good for me.

im thinking about just banning cbeebies when mine comes along. its just that my seven year old brother still watches such things as "roly poly olie" and "little princess" ick.

can someone point me in the dirsection of intelligent children's programmes as opposed to brain rotting rubbish?

YANBU - your child, your rules. I don't let my DS watch, but as he has ASD, he struggles to separate what's real and what's not and it is very likely he would enact some of the violence IRL. I feel that if he is watching stuff like that now whil a pre-schooler, where do you go when they are 8/9/10?

I think it depends on the child and how able they are to separate real life from make believe so it is up to parents and individuals to judge what's appropriate.

we have chosen to not receive broadcast television.
we have a tv, but it isn't connected and we dont pay a tv licence

instead we just use dvd's which means I can decide what they watch, and as a bonus we get no advertising!!

TIY - not sure I get the difference between watching DVDs and watching TV Having a TV doesn't mean I don't control what my DD watches - we have a great time together sitting down and making things she has seen on TV.

i just found that it was all too easy to leave tghe tv on while i did dinner etc

and ds1 could turn it on and find channels he wanted anyway

so instead of having battles over what he wants to watch and what channel he can have on he can watch whatever dvd he likes as they're all pre-vetted!

it works for us anyway, and like i say, i also don't have them begging for every toy under the sun after they see it advertised on tv

We don't have sky so don't watch Ben10 but it has still ended up as DD's favourite due to friends at preschool

My take on Power Rangers/Ben 10 etc is that its best not to make it completely inaccessible as then it becomes more wanted. The problem I found with Power Rangers esp was the copied fighting behaviour afterwards, although this is what boys of this age want to do.

I let DS ( now 6 ) watch a little of each to sate his curiosity and glean enough knowledge to play with friends in the playground but then when he'd seen a few I either distracted him with other activities in the house or increasingly busied him with out of school activities and playdates, so there was little or no time left for telly.

He now watches Doctor Who avidly, and also Mission 2110. DD (3) by default also watches these and whilst all her friends want princess birthday parties, she wants an Amy Pond one.

For some reason, I have much more of a problem with all the Princess Disney pinky marry a handsome prince and wear a pretty dress stuff than I do the fighting and battle scenes in PR/B10.

Ds1 never watched TV
Ds4 probably thinks he is Ben10.

1preghead - in terms of intelligent children's programming - you have to make your own choice. Watch some and see if it turns your brain to mush. If it does, its crap. If it engages you, chances are it will your child.

If it annoys you, never let your child watch it. You'll be stuck with it seemingly forever. Although one man's poison is another's pleasure and all that. I always hated Tweenies and banned it, yet a mum I know who is very careful about what her DC are exposed to, allowed and even relished hers watching it.