to want a knife with my fork?

[BabbatheHun]

12 years. That is how long we have been together. And yet, he still gives me my dinner without a knife. Just a fork. So I can spend ages trying to cut the food up with a fork, or shovel the last remnants of food around my plate for a while before giving up.

He has the audacity to remind me not to dip bread into soup when I met his parents for the first time, or not to lick my fingers after getting them covered with some finger food in 'posh' company. Yet, he still thinks it is perfectly reasonable to serve my dinner without a knife!

Yes, I could just get up and get one myself, I hear you say. I could. But what is the point in him getting me any cutlery at all if i have to get half of it myself. And, for example, what about when I am predisposed, like, nursing my little baby who is not wanting to sleep, and not able to get up and get it myself?

AIBU? Is the whole world just shovelling food into their mouths with just forks these days?

YANBU at all... Not at all!

You are not being unreasonable. Either dump him or seek counselling. F^cking outragious.

yondan i can't dump him. Then I would have to also cook the food myself

No, you're not being unreasonable. Start rebelling and eat like a pig at a trough, just using your mouth - no cutlery required! He'll soon get you a knife!

I have to eat with matching cutlery, BTW....

LellieT me too. I really do not like non-matching. But I would prefer non-matching to none at all.

My DD likes to eat with her fingers. She pushes her food on to her fork with her fingers, even if daddy does remember to give her a knife. I wonder if it is genetic?

Wives have murdered for less.

YANBU. But when the roles are reversed are you giving him a knife? That could be just as infuriating for him

hocus yes, and you know what? he uses it too i have seen him do it.

Just be sweet about it. Every time. Oh, did you forget the knife? Don't worry, I'll get it. Every time. Without fail.

He'll get fed up and start taking a knife through. or you'll realise that it's not such a great hardship to get your own. Either way, it's a win.

how about copying your dd and shoving food onto your fork with your fingers?

jeezy I have tried that, for a while, did not work. He would a) get it if it was not a hassle for him, or b) huff and puff as if I had asked him to go and make it for me out back in our blacksmiths yard. But either way, continue to forget and not either bring it to me, or lay the table with it. But, if I get it myself this evening it would mean either transporting nursing baby to the kitchen, or putting down semi conscious happy baby who will thus become conscious and unhappy.

So, either a huffy DH or a huffy baby? I chose to just shovel large chunks of cauliflower into my mouth. Shame DH was not there to witness it.

If you're nursing your baby at the same time then you won't have two free hands to use a knife as well

120 do you know, I had not even considered that!! That is a very good idea. It does in fact drive DH bonkers. I might wait though. His mother is due over to visit from USA in a couple of months. He will appreciate the sentiment a bit more then, the message will be heard loud and clear.

BabbatheHun

You really are one BAD lady. I hope God forgives you. I sure won't.

withourwithoutyou well, firstly he should cut it up for me if a problem, and b) I can actually . I can eat, MN and feed baby too. He rests in the crook of my lap and in my elbow creases as I sit with legs crossed on the bed if I need to eat, and then both hands are free. So HA

Ah, I hadn't factored in eating in bed and I won't ask why!

See my little baby decided not to sleep tonight. So, i have been in bed doing my sleep routine with him, and he refused. He has a little cold/teething, not sure which but he needed me to comfort and feed. DH got impatient and brought it in to me as he had eaten his and felt guilty. Tonight was an eating in front of the tele night as DD was at nursery so had a cold picnic tea with neither a knife or a fork this evening.

That is the tale of why I am In Bed.

But, i can also sleep cross-legged on the sofa, or on the kitchen chairs too if DS needs feeding while I eat try not to starve as baby eats a lot

sit. I can sit crossed legged. Sleep, now that is another story and one I cannot seem to do much of.

Ah. Then your DH is unreasonable.

Kill him.

What? with the fork? that is a bit drastic don't you think?

It's the only way.

I got a knife this evening, no prompting. [suspicious emoticon]

Not 'i went and got a knife, for some violent purpose' but rather 'i was given a knife, with my fork'. funny thing is, i could have managed my food relatively well without a knife tonight.

I thinkhe is BU for reminding you of your table manners on the other occassions you mentioned. To quote a very funny poster on another thread. Kill him.

foureleven I make him pay for those reminders now. Whenever his mother visits I always make a point of putting the knife on the left and the fork on the right just so she, or he, has to change it 'oh, i still did not get it right? oh, silly me!'