to want a knife with my fork?

[BabbatheHun]

12 years. That is how long we have been together. And yet, he still gives me my dinner without a knife. Just a fork. So I can spend ages trying to cut the food up with a fork, or shovel the last remnants of food around my plate for a while before giving up.

He has the audacity to remind me not to dip bread into soup when I met his parents for the first time, or not to lick my fingers after getting them covered with some finger food in 'posh' company. Yet, he still thinks it is perfectly reasonable to serve my dinner without a knife!

Yes, I could just get up and get one myself, I hear you say. I could. But what is the point in him getting me any cutlery at all if i have to get half of it myself. And, for example, what about when I am predisposed, like, nursing my little baby who is not wanting to sleep, and not able to get up and get it myself?

AIBU? Is the whole world just shovelling food into their mouths with just forks these days?

If you get the cutlery on the odd occasion, just get him a knife, only a knife mind!!!!

THANK YOU - this thread made me LOL just when my crappy night of non-sleep was starting (with the first waking at only 9.30 FFS!!) At least I went up to feed giggling to myself (maybe I was just delerious (aargh - can't spell).

Theory 1 : Is he American - mother visiting from States etc?
Just wondering if it's because he subscribes to that American thing of cutting all the food up then dispensing with the knife, swapping fork into right hand and then shovelling?
Wouldn't entirely explain the knife aversion as you would still need it to do cutting.

Theory 2 : is it because he can't be bothered to balance both knife and fork on plate as he brings it through? That does require a certain co-ordination...

katisha yes, technically he is american. In that, he was born there, and spent a few years there growing up. But his mother is proper full on posh english, and he prides himself on his cultured, well groomed upbringing, especially in comparison to my common as much Saaf London upbringing . I guess the fork thing is a throw back from being over there, or, it could just be plain laziness, and the fact he is not as posh as he likes to pretend

i definitely think you should do the finger-shovelling in front of his mother.
even if he gives you a knife.

then when she looks with horror, say "i don't know how to use a knife - my dinner normally arrives with just a fork."

YANBU

kill him with the fork, obviously.

by the way, think you are indisposed when feeding [pedantic emoticon]