to have forgotten what went with frangipan?

[Hullygully]

Skips prettily about the vast empty potentiality of the empty Hall and awaits.

YY very brave

DS1 is doing his uni visits alone where he endlessly bumps into his peers with parents in tow.

'you are telling them that we are happy to come with you but we enjoy your experincing this independence and we feel that this is your life and should be about your choices. And, of course, you wanted to go alone..'
I said

'no no' he replied. 'I am allowing them to enjoy the notion that you are total shits. Parents like feeling superior to other parents. And they buy me sandwiches'

Ah, looking around universities! I was parentally accompanied. Dear Mama was not keen on Brighton as she thought it appeared to be full of 'The Homeless'. Where is Pag the Elder looking to go?

This notion of parents going along is new to me. Not that I don't think it's a good idea, but in my day, it was a rite of passage to do it alone.

pag - love your boy's lip. He's clearly got this parenting thing sussed

hully - have thought of that. Including where I went to University

I think my parents came really for transportational purposes. We lived in the W.Mids and I went for a look around Brighton, Portsmouth, Cardiff, Sunderland, Bradford and one I can no longer recall. Going in the car made things much easier!

Yes - I nearly ended up on the wrong end of a train that split, on my way to Southampton. And Manchester scared me to bits, frankly

YY - rite of passage. Exactly

I also know that if I went I would have an opinion. And then I would be unable to prevent myself voicing it.

I would worry about the hopi candles in Brighton. The homeless are less threatening than excitable people wanting to set fire to stuff and stick it in your ear

He has looked at
Nottingham - liked.
York - loathed
Oxford- Loved!
Exeter- loved

Still to visit Warwick.
He is generally useless in a 'can't find my underpants mummmmm' kind of way but has been bloody amazing getting course details and visits and interview criteria etc sorted.
He even has a work experinece on a national paper sorted
So not my boy...

He sounds fab - and stop pretending it's nothing to do with you

Dh sorted some of his rail tickets and booked him first class. Several times the ticket inspector has been all .

DH has NEVER booked me anything first class !

DH and I haven't a clue. neither of us went to uni. I had to send money home so couldn't afford it and DH wanted to royally piss of his parents (both teachers)

Did we miss much?
is that why you are all so much cleverer than me?

I take credit for giving him life challenges to overcome and so improve his abilities

No, I've always been clever. If anything, I got stupider at University on account of all the drinking and venereal disease

ahhh ...drinking and venereal disease.

I believe I covered that on my trainning course. I got a badge

I do wish I had gone.
The girl at Oxford said to DS1
'this place is so fucking brilliant that I am genuinely worried that the rest of my life will never match this experience'

Neither of us can decide if that is a good or bad thing.

Interesting ...... if over-stating it a bit. It certainly is intense, and beautiful, and hard-work, and a lot of fun, and there are very long holidays

I hope your DS reprimanded her for swearing. That sort of thing can lead to Rustication

see , I grew up in Oxfordshire and went to school in Oxford and I loved it. But the uni always seemed like a private room or secret garden - you could see it going on but always behind big wooden doors

I think he was smitten by the lecturer and the first year preview.
He is apparently very very good at English. School think he is in with a shout at where ever he chooses. But I am not so sure.

He is not confident in spite of his bravado.

But the organising seem promising doesn't it? - shows a decent facade of competence ?

Like the long hols.
What did you study Jamie

I believed she moderated her tone discreetly

I wasn't very confident, and neither of my parents went to University, but my brother was very clever, and I went to visit him there, and loved it, and he was very encouraging, so I applied. I spent the first term thinking I'd made a big mistake - not clever, erudite or classically-educated, but there really was a wide spread of people there (then).

Studied Experimental Psychology (I may get this deleted later as it identifies me a bit too much)

Oh, and I'm not EVEN going to bother to say that you clearly are extremely clever - because you speak sense and are very witty. So there. Not saying it

Bla Bla Bla ... University of Life ... Bla Bla.....

Jamie. You were exposing yourself in a nother thread a minute ago...

Oooer. You are clever though. I shall bend your ear if it ever gets that far, if that is ok?

My education has recently been in the news.
The panorama programme where they were looking at incompetent teachers who are moved rather than sacked included a teacher from my old school
[proud]

I applied and went all on me tod and went for Leeds as it was in the UCAS book at the time I looked. Never visited any and was horrified to discover as I set off on the train with my one suitcase full of a duvet because the other one that mother had left didn't open - and she had gone orf - quite how far away it was.

Then someone jumped under the train and we had to sit in a slightly smeary carriage for hours before jumping onto the tracks and getting on another train. Got there at midnight and someone had kindly waited. Never really got the hang of things after that.

Pore ol Hully

Really ? Did not see that. It's shitty though. clearly you've just not had the opportunities. My mum was very keen for me and DB to go to University because her dad never let her go, and my dad was just too poor and deprived, really.

You can bend whatever you like....

Oh, and the OP on the other thread came back to thank us

That is such a sad tale..

Poor poor Hully.

hully! -

I love the 'parents wanting their kids to do better' thing. It has such hope about it.